is porn ok?

[lucyellensmum]

following on from another thread where someone has made a point about her DP watching pay per view porn on the TV ( i didnt want to hijack the thread so starting a fresh one) behind her back. I just wondered how people felt about it. I personally do not have a problem with porn (nothing heavy - just waiting for the feminists to pounce), as long as it is of consenting adults and is shared. I would however have a huge problem if my DP watched it while i wasnt around. As for internet porn, that is a big no no and besides, DP doesnt get chance to go on the putor cos im always on MN Actually, i can't understand why a man (or woman) would want to sit alone watching, well you know

So really just a poll of peoples thoughts and ideas. Does it degrade women or can it be empowering?

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what did i say?round in circles!

UQD; well, sometimes. Such assumptions may be welcome, they may be not. In my case, a few more of them wouldn't entirely hurt, but then I am an evil old woman who spends a bit too much time in the proximity of tasty-looking musicians young enough to be my sons.
Mind you, some of the people who assume that everyone not welded to another person at the hip is going to drop their knickers for a kind word are a bit, erm, optimistic. A t-shirt I once saw someone wearing said "I'm bisexual, polyamorous and horny - but I stil don't want to shag YOU"

I'm with you SueBaroo.

oooh, what a can of worms im at work so cant sit here reading about porn, but i think i might need a bottle of wine tonight, my RSI is going to get worse!!!

Porn in a relationship isn't a bad thing. sharing it can be fun

Porn alone is just a quick way of getting to orgasm, without having to worry about pleasuring someone else. Purely selfish sex.

I know (as a single woman) I will often pop of for a quickie, and porn makes it quicker

I think the biggest downside it has for women is that lots of men don't realise that women don't have multiples and definitely in all positions. Many a time I have had to say to a man, look....I only get one, now get off and go to sleep I do blame porn for that

Men are visual and watching turns them on. Women are more imaginative, hence the rise of slash fiction. Reading a good piece of erotica is fab

Well said minorityrules!
Enjoying porn together can be a fun part of a healthy and enjoyable sex life. Saying that, it is not for everyone and that is fine too!
I would not see it as cheating if my DH enjoyed it on his own and although I think there is nothing wrong with it (as long as its not obsessive) I prefer that he watches it with me.
I think that when it becomes a problem is when it is hidden, if you can be open and comfortable about it with each other and nobody gets hurt then whats the problem?
And all you people out there who don't like it - don't watch it!

And all you people out there who don't like it - don't watch it!
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I hadn't thought of that!

Does Bovine Monogamy include talking it up the ass?

Is this pun porn?

suebaroo - in that case, have you been watching it loads and thinking i really don't like this

Monkeytrousers, that is an ASSinine comment, Bovine is cows , sorry, only pun i can think of

LEM, yeah, I've been wondering why I felt faintly nauseated while I did my cross-stitch. I shall be sure to turn off "Big Cocks for Breakfast" tonight before I get my skeins out...

I did think that

pmsl@suebaroo.

i really dont get this 'if you have a problem with your oh wanking over porn on his own then you must be insecure' nonsense tbh.personally,i feel secure enough in my relationship to say what i do and dont find acceptable,and if my oh didnt have enough respect for me not to go behind my back then then i wouldnt want to stay in the relationship anyway.

i also dont get this 'men are visual and need to look at porn while they wank' attitude either.that just sounds like the ramblings of a brain-washed woman.

i used to look at porn when i was on my own,just to make what i did every night a bit more interesting,but i dont feel the need now im in a relationship,so i dont see why men would be any different?

Didn't mean to be patronising SueBaroo!
Just sort of meant its horses for courses and those who like it shouldn't judge those who don't and vice versa.

don't worry about it, I've quite enjoyed this thread, actually, he he...

i know dh watches porn (yes, even the raucous internet version). i can't say I mind , I just don't want to know about it, and i obviously don't want him to leave it around where the dcs may stumble across it.

I have tried to watch some softer stuff with him but am so incredibly catholic i had a huge shame cloud following me around all week!

its interesting to read all the pov on this topic