I just added myself to fb chat with dh and ow

[MissMarpleMyArse]

I'm fucking fuming. I posted recently
About dh's suspect WhatsApp activity. It all stopped but I have been keeping an eye on his phone. This afternoon when he went to the toilet I clicked his apps and saw messenger was open. I've just had the chance to snoop again while he's in the shower and found messages between him and our friend (we aren't that close with her. - well I'm not). Loads of sexual stuff. I just added myself to the conversation and said 'wow I don't see that coming'
I'm upstairs now. Neither of them have read it yet.

Oh my god so many messages. Thank you all. I don't feel brave btw, I could throw up. I've been busy packing him a bag while he was in the shower, which I have chucked in the wardrobe. I was sitting on the bed reading a book (didn't read a word). He can out the bathroom a few minutes ago. I asked him if he enjoyed his 'slow wank'. The colour drained from his face. He has picked his phone up and gone downstairs
And he's read the message now. Fucking cunts.

God op hope you’re ok

I can’t disclose too much but basically I texted ow from dh’s account - they were together in a hotel - asking what time she thought he’d be home.

I know how sick you must feel right now honey - stay strong, you’re fucking amazing xx

jesus OP.. this is bloody awful.. I hope your ok

Christ, you've got a bigger pair of balls than he has. Stay strong. Are you safe?

Shit OP that's fucking rough! Hope you're ok x

Utter cunt

Hats off to you missmarple. Sorry you have this on your plate.

I just want to say that I know you don’t feel brave but you are ya doing this amazing and I’m in awe of you. I’m so sorry though, you do have my deepest sympathy as it’s like being stabbed

Try to stay strong

My ex tried everything to deny it even though I had all the evidence in front of me.

I tried again with him and it happened again. Please realise that this is not about you, but 110% about him and his insecurities.

Hope you get support through this. Do you have children?

There's no more messages on our joint thread! I can see they are both active so no doubt figuring out what to say. I'm going to go down and sling the bag at his fucking head and tell him to get out.

Oh OP! I’m so sorry.

You are bloody incredible. Facing this head on. Go you! What a pair of scumbags they are.

Wow. Well done you!

You'll get through this

He will forever remember the horror of the moment he was caught

What a shit

Thanks for all the support. I'm crying at how many messages I have, especially people who have been through it. I have 2 kids, they are in bed. I can't even shout in case I wake them up

You're doing the right thing OP.

Off he goes. Get him out. He can stay at hers. Ta dah.

Stay strong.

If not be able to resist s last message.... tell her all his bad habits or something. Or ask her for her full address so you can forward his post

Reality will dawn on them that they will be thrown together now....ready or not

Does ow have a partner ? If so, I'd be telling them

How old are your kids, love?

Shout here! you have MN with you as you can see!

Cold and matter of fact is more damning than tears and shouting. Stay strong.