I just added myself to fb chat with dh and ow

[MissMarpleMyArse]

I'm fucking fuming. I posted recently
About dh's suspect WhatsApp activity. It all stopped but I have been keeping an eye on his phone. This afternoon when he went to the toilet I clicked his apps and saw messenger was open. I've just had the chance to snoop again while he's in the shower and found messages between him and our friend (we aren't that close with her. - well I'm not). Loads of sexual stuff. I just added myself to the conversation and said 'wow I don't see that coming'
I'm upstairs now. Neither of them have read it yet.

You have a lovely Mum.

it's great that your mum is being so practical and helpful, I see where you get your strength from op. big hugs

You are amazing and so is your mum... you've done the best thing. good luck, we're all thinking of you...

You might find this helpful for gathering all your important documents - it’s under What do I need to include on my safety packing list

www.womenshealth.gov/relationships-and-safety/domestic-violence/leaving-abusive-relationship

You and your mum totally rock

I promise you are one day closer to being over him and happy again.

I aspire to be like your mum.

You’re going to need her. I’m am genuinely pleased you have her taking care of you.

for you both.

You and your mum are awesome women.

With a mum like that no wonder you arw so fantastic and incredible.
Shows what good role modelling can do.. And you are now role modelling to your dc that boundaries mean something.

Both you and your mum are amazing, I admire both of you.

While some PP's disagree with your mum taking your phone and deleting those messages, I've got to say I think it's the right way to go.
I think seeing those "I love you nothing happened blah blah blah" messages will only mess with the OP's head. His actions are what he should be judged by, not his pathetic apologies and excuses. It keeps the OP focussed on what he's done, where some would hear his apologies and be back with him within 24 hours.

It will also drive him mad so it's a win win

So sorry for what you're going through OP but glad to see how supportive your Mum is being! & even tho I don't know you am feeling very proud of how you've handled the situation!

Thinking of you OP.
Yes he is only sorry he got caught,you deserve better.
Take care x

What a thread - you have been amazing and strong, and your mum is doing exactly the right thing by giving you tough-love with your phone, and being strong for you when you might falter.

You both sound like strong inspirational people.

So sorry that you are having to go through this shit time.

You are so strong OP, much love

Your Mum rocks and so do you!

Well done OP. You have an awesome mum there. Huge respect to you both 💐

That's both MissMarple and her Mum on my team 'when the shit hits the fan'.........

Your doing brilliantly, your mum is a legend.

So sorry your going through this right now

I love your mum!!

Just another person adding their support OP, he’s a total shit and you are waaayyy too good for him. I agree your DM is doing the best thing for you in keeping your phone and deleting his messages, they will mess with your head and muddy the waters. You have reacted exactly the way I hope I would in the same (awful) situation, don’t be swayed

You and your mum are awesome- just rtft and in awe of your strength. So sorry this has happened but you’ve been brilliant.

Your mum is fucking awesome and it's rubbed off for sure! It's going to hurt but I would happily put money on the fact that you are going to do just fine! Your dc get to see first hand what a strong and wonderful woman you are!

Hang on in there lass.

It is and will be shit. But it will get better.

So glad you have your Mum.

You can do this.

Wow ! amazing lady !
I'm in awe