Is my H To be abusive?

[lilisabeth]

Hi, I don't know who to talk to about this because sometimes I feel that I'm losing contact with reality. I met my boyfriend 8 months ago, it was a dream he was the man I always wanted, caring, loving, generous, he was ready for a relationship and was looking forward to move together.. I must say I am a very independent woman, I lived sometime by myself, I like to spend time with my friends and family... well, after 6 months together he asked me the question, and I said yes! But I asked him to live together first for sometime and see how things were going for us before setting up a date. We moved together, to his house, he has high standards about his space ( I am not messy or unclean) but it makes make feel paranoid about cleaning the oven, open the windows etc, I'm starting to get tired of all these.. plus he is always waiting for me at home, depressed and wants me to put up with all his emotional insecurities, in the last months we didn't do anything fun together.. we basically talk about house rules, I can see he never goes out, whilst I have a group of friends he is always expecting me to be at home with him.. to add to the mix- 4 weeks ago I took one of his special knives to open a sausage package and he stormed off: he went on screaming at me: what don't you get about not using that knives??! What don't you fucking get? He kept on asking me IM FUCKING ASKING YOU A QUESTION until I (that was eating on the sofa) couldn't believe my ears and burst to cry , went upstairs to bedroom, he came and I thought he was going to say sorry ( oh silly me!!) he said to me: go downstairs and pick up for f* plate , don't you think I'm going to clean after you.

This episode worries me a lot, and since then he is accusing me of stupid things, if I hug him in the morning with his suit on , he push me back because I'm creasing it ..he leaves the house without a word and call me after to say he is not having breakfast and he is in the rain because of me and my mood( obviously I was upset after he didn't want to hug me).. he blame all me for everything , last weekend I decided not to talk to get sure not get into a rant
I am not sure about this wedding, I am blaming myself about feeling irritable about his obsessions bout the house... not sure what can I do.

RUN

Run and run very very fast think Usain Bolt

Get out quick.
You know what he is like now and it isn't good.
You owe him nothing

But be careful he may cry weep beg or worse.
Leave and don't discuss.

Leave as soon as you can. Preferably whilst he is out. Sever ties with him as quickly as you can. And change your number too.

Run!!!!!

Yes, he is abusive! Run, and don't ever look back!

You know what? It shouldn't be this hard! Especially after 8 months.

Get out, don't look back, find someone who makes you happy. You deserve that.

Run like the fucking wind.

And if he tries to sweet talk you back with bullshit DO NOT believe him

Get out now and don't look back
you don't need him at all!

I'd be sure I DON'T WANT this wedding. Get out! Now! You always see the best side of a man in the early days. He's trying to impress! A bit further on and the nice guy has dropped his sheep's clothing and you've seen the wolf inside. Go!

Get out, do NOT marry this man. He is showing you who he is and what your future will be with him.

He is abusive and you deserve better x

Do not pass go
Do not collect 200
Absolutely do not marry this man
He's just going to get worse.

Well done for insisting on living with him before setting a date. You have seen what he is like now so get out as soon as you can. This is not normal behaviour.

Well that's easy - leave asap. Without a shadow of a doubt and well done you for deciding to live together before getting married .

At 8 months into a relationship you should be in the totally loved up stage, and this is so far from that it's untrue.

Get out - get out today. Please. Just get your stuff together and go.

Run as fast as you can. Be glad you know now only 8 months in. He's lovebombed you then turned into an almighty abusive prick. Sorry you're going through this.

OP

It is not normal for someone to treat you like that, especially so early on in your relationship. You should only accept the love you deserve, not settle for the scraps of love this man will give you. Leave now and find someone who makes you happy and makes you want to marry him!

Pack your stuff up now and go.
It won't get better.
These early months in a relationship should be fun, loving and fabulous.....that's all

Run and keep running lass.

Get out as fast as you can.

Don't give him advance notice, get your stuff ready to go and tell him when you're walking out the door.

You absolutely do not want to be anywhere near this man, let alone married to him.

How old are you?

His behaviour is abusive and very worrying at such an early stage as likely to get much, much worse.

RUN!!! As fast as you can, he is abusive and if you stay with him this is what your life will be like from now on and it will only get worse.

Fgs, YES! This is very abusive op, get out asap.

If this is what he is like in the early days he will get worse not better. RUN!