I find a woman attractive .....do I tell her?

[pippyo33]

I'm 33.
I've always had relationships with men.
About a year and a half ago I started liking a woman (she's my friends friend).
We've had a few weekends away (the 3 of us) she is great.
I've found myself thinking of her non stop.
I thought maybe it was a crush but I still feel the same 1 1/2 years later.
She invited me to her sisters birthday party (we didn't know each well then )
She has asked me what type of person I like and what personality I go for.
I think we have flirted.
But as far as she's concerned I'm straight.
Would you even say anything?

Yes, ask her out! You don't have to propose marriage to her, just ask her out for dinner or whatever. What's stopping you?

Is she gay or straight or do you know?

Ask her for coffee or a quick drink after work - something not too heavy. And then see how it feels between you.

She's gay yeah.
I just have no idea what her type is
Don't want to make a fool of myself

The last two years I've been out with about 5 men and each one I couldn't imagine being with.
I don't have a clue what's going on.

Ask her for a drink! At the very worst she'll be flattered.

I read that as she is thinking about setting you up with someone. Do you know whether she is straight or not?

Sorry, cross post. Well in that case, if you think there has been flirting going on, she may be trying to find out whether you are gay/bi.

She's asking you to parties and about your 'type' ? Def ask her out

If she asked what sort of person you like I reckon she's been trying to work out if you might be interested in her too. :)

Ask her out!!

Then report back.

I think it was flirting.
She was asking what type of things do I enjoy doing and then I caught her staring at my boobs (but maybe that's just a normal thing ,I sometimes check people out too)
I posted on Snapchat about wanting to go to a festival and she sent me a few messages saying I should go as she was going too and I would really enjoy it.
Then she invited me to join my friend and her in Manchester for a weekend away.
Then she found out I was going to a concert that she was going too ..and smiled.
I'm obviously reading into things because I like her but find it hard not too.

I think she likes you.

Life's too short - go for a coffee or a wine

Message her and ask if she’d like to go for a drink, just the two of you.

Love threads like this.

I'm feeling positive about this one, OP! Message her tomorrow!

Go for it!

Go for it! I found myself attracted to a female friend who is gay, and I was "straight" - never had a same sex relationship...
5 years down the line, we're happy as Larry and very much in love.

Agree with PP - nice casual drink and see what happens. Excited for you - good luck!

Do it.

I’m married to a (gay) woman I developed a crush on - first ever sane sex relationship for me. We’re ridiculously happy.
Definitely go for it.

same sex not sane sex obvs 😉

Do you think it might put her off the fact all my relationships have been with men?
Zero experience with women.

My same sex partner was like you. Always had relationships with men. I didn't put me off dating her, we just enjoyed each other's company and it grew from there.
Just have fun and be yourself.

We are the total opposites but quite similar personality wise.
She's a tomboy but still wears some makeup and I'm very girly but we both have similar personality's...I love being spontaneous and doing random things,little adventures.
It plays on my mind that with her being a tomboy maybe her type is also a tomboy.
Who knows.

Ask her out for some coffee or lunch OP, It sounds like she's into you too, if you don't try then you'll never know!