I find a woman attractive .....do I tell her?

[pippyo33]

I'm 33.
I've always had relationships with men.
About a year and a half ago I started liking a woman (she's my friends friend).
We've had a few weekends away (the 3 of us) she is great.
I've found myself thinking of her non stop.
I thought maybe it was a crush but I still feel the same 1 1/2 years later.
She invited me to her sisters birthday party (we didn't know each well then )
She has asked me what type of person I like and what personality I go for.
I think we have flirted.
But as far as she's concerned I'm straight.
Would you even say anything?

It depends on where you're going. Unless super posh go with jeans and a nice top. Hope it goes well, good luck!

Just tell your friend you like the girl.
You need to be upfront. Get her told that you like her and ask her outright on a date.
Stop faffing about and hoist those big girl pants.

I honestly think she won't have a clue I'm thinking it's a "date"
Now I'm worrying incase I dribble my food

Wear whatever you feel most comfortable and confident wearing!

This is rather exciting! How lovely!

Gosh i wish it was me!! How exciting

Ooooooo exciting! Good luck (and report back)

I can’t wait until next Saturday for an update!

Good luck op

Good luck!!

Obviously not place-marking or anything like that.

So tonight I've been doing some Facebook stalking (I know )
And she has a massive group of women who are also gay who she is really close too and pics of them at gay nights etc from 2007.
Feel a bit of a fraud rocking up saying "I like you" after have relationships with men..
My brain keeps saying even if she did like you..as if her friends would accept you.
Need to stop being silly ...
Can't help thinking she must know hundreds of gay women ..why would she look twice at the "straight" one

Well she might be looking at you because she's attracted to you too!

If she knows hundreds of gay women I guarantee she knows some gay women who used to have relationships with men. It's not particularly unusual. Also, some women are bi.

If these women really are her friends, they will accept you.

OP have you spoken to her since then?

I get a feeling this happens a lot. My niece had no idea she was gay until she became friends with a gay female who quite obviously really liked her. They are now married!

Good luck op

No I haven't spoken to her since.
Trying to be cool and Breezy

Lesbians do love a challenge. Also, the gay community is very small. Often, many of the people you know have been with at least one of your friends. So although she may know loads, actually they aren't an option in that way anyway.

Also, don't wait too long. Cool and breezy is ok for a bit but ime the 'dance' only lasts for so long. A mistake I've made numerous times has been to piss about waiting for a while, in the meantime, they've met someone else. Don't wait too long. If the worst happens and she doesn't like you, she will be flattered.
Plus the fanny gallops will become annoying for you.

Ooooh! This sounds really promising, OP! Really hope you find out soon how she feels xx

Pippyo, maybe you're not as 'straight' as you think! And I'm guessing she can tell!

I feel excited for you!

Forget cool and breezy, start text flirting!

So exciting!

All I'm gonna say is some lesbian women get a kick out of turning a straight women gay