I find a woman attractive .....do I tell her?

[pippyo33]

I'm 33.
I've always had relationships with men.
About a year and a half ago I started liking a woman (she's my friends friend).
We've had a few weekends away (the 3 of us) she is great.
I've found myself thinking of her non stop.
I thought maybe it was a crush but I still feel the same 1 1/2 years later.
She invited me to her sisters birthday party (we didn't know each well then )
She has asked me what type of person I like and what personality I go for.
I think we have flirted.
But as far as she's concerned I'm straight.
Would you even say anything?

Text her!!!

Do it do it

So excited for you OP.

I’m 47 and have only ever had relationships with men. Over the last year or two I’ve met a couple of women that I’ve been attracted to but have never had the courage to take it any further. Hope it goes well

"Who knows?" you ask OP. There is only one way to find out!!!

This is exciting! Send the text woman!

👀

So I text but didn't have the guts to go straight in there ...
So I text saying "hiya me and (friend) are going to (her fav place of food ) next sat ..would you like to come?

Then from there I can see if there's any flirting

Sorry to hijack OP but MadameJosephine

I didn't come out till I was 47, it's an eyeopener I can tell you (in the nicest way)

Yeeeeees, go OP

Ooh place marking - go for it!

Sounds like she likes you, go for it!!

Now text back and say "ok, I lied about the friend coming!!"

Oohoohhhh! Please tell us what happens

Aw, this thread makes me really happy and excited for you!
I think sometimes you make real connection with another person.
Fingers crossed it goes well for you. She sounds bloody lovely :)

This is so exciting! Hope it works out for you OP!

I love this thread!

It really sounds like she's into you op, and I never say that on these threads if I'm not sure 😊

Come one ditch the mate stop messing about!!

Ah, you totally bottled it! That just sounds like an ordinary invite.

Sort it out!

Does the mutual friend know your feelings? If not, tell them!

Then ditch them and meet the one you fancy 1:1

And then I’d follow that message with..

“And can you get out of my head please- (winky face) I’m supposed to be straight and you’re confusing things! (Smiley face)”

You have to give her some clue you’re into her or she’ll keep seeing you as a friend!

Tell her!
(blatant placemark)

Next text "...Though my friend is saying she doesn't want to come as she will feel like a gooseberry ;)"

No mutual friend doesn't know as she's so loud and gobby (love her tho ) and would blab so fast.
(Brb just off to make myself look like Dua Lipa )
I haven't even asked out mutual friend if she wants to come,I just said that so I didn't feel so pressured (never asked anyone out ever )
Do people do this calmly ?

Is there any subtle clues I could give her that I like her ?
Or is this one of those where I just need to say it or she will never have a bloody clue.

Exactly, you haven't asked your friend, you can tell your flirt anything :) Make out that it's the friend who thinks something could happen between you! Then don't deny it if she asks if it could!