I find a woman attractive .....do I tell her?

[pippyo33]

I'm 33.
I've always had relationships with men.
About a year and a half ago I started liking a woman (she's my friends friend).
We've had a few weekends away (the 3 of us) she is great.
I've found myself thinking of her non stop.
I thought maybe it was a crush but I still feel the same 1 1/2 years later.
She invited me to her sisters birthday party (we didn't know each well then )
She has asked me what type of person I like and what personality I go for.
I think we have flirted.
But as far as she's concerned I'm straight.
Would you even say anything?

I also think you should ask her out, it certainly sounds like she is interested and is trying to find out if you were too. Life is too short, just go for it!

@pippyo33 - my wife is a 'tomboy' - a more masculine type of woman (sometimes known as a butch) often gets what we called 'sir-ma'amed' in other words often called 'sir' by people instinctively before they correct their mistake to 'ma'am'.
On the other hand, I've always been a real girlie girl who likes skirts, dresses, pretty things, long hair, make up etc.

My wife has always been very attracted to girls like me but told me that she never thought girls like me would be interested in her and so never pursued it when they seemed to like her - just thought they were being nice or kind to her. She couldn't believe it when I fell in love with her.
Ask this girl out pleaaase or at least let her know you like her....what's the worse that can happen?

Think Sue Perkins and Anna Richardson or Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi

Oooh such a nice story! Ask her out, ask her out!
And of course report back ;)

Definitely ask her out then let us know how it goes x

Go on, go on, go on, go on, go on...

(Now wheres that Mrs Doyle meme...?)

I'm going to text her tomorrow.
I'm going for a few drinks with a friend tomorrow night so will give me Dutch courage ha ha
My heart is racing just thinking about it

Ohh!! I'm not place marking, no siree!!

Good luck OP
You have to come back and tell us

Go for it !!!!

Shamless place marking

Oh my goodness, I'm already so invested in this It does sound like she likes you, she may not be aware you are anything other than straight so she might just fancy you but not have assumed it would go anywhere.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained and all that!

Good luck 😊 follow your heart and see where it goes

Good luck OP, sounds like she likes you

I think my experience made me realise you love who you love.....if they give you the fanny gallops and you want to spend time with them and you get on, who cares what gender they are?!

Shameless place mark

Ask her ask her ask her!!!!

Sounds to me like she likes you. You've got nothing to lose by asking her out for a drink, you never know where it might lead Good luck OP, I'm place marking and hope you report back to let us know how you get on

Good luck ask her out! Don’t wait till your drunk just do it!

Just ask her right now! I can't wait until later!

She definitely sounds keen. Go for it - ask her out for a drink

My friend recently married her wife. It came as a massive shock to her (the relationship, not the marriage 😄) as she had been in a long term relationship with a man, had kids etc.

They have the most wonderful life together, as a family, and a relationship most of us aspire to.

You have to ask her out.

Good luck op

I've honestly never liked someone this much in years ...
The last date I had with a guy a couple of months ago ...I just did not like him at all.
Maybe this is why
I hope I'm her type
She would never in a million years think I liked her,as far as she's concerned I'm straight ...
I should have made it a bit more clear maybe ..at the time I wasn't sure

Do it now OP!!!
Let her know you’re interested in her.
Please don’t text her on a night out. If I got a text from someone out with mates I’d worry they’d done it under the influence/it’s their friend messing around.
Good luck

Just send her a text saying “you do realise I fancy the arse off you, don’t you?”