Married man losing interest and I feel like shit

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I know this is wrong but I've been seeing a married man for the last four months. Tbh I'm not capable finding my own relationship as men never want me.

This man pursued me for ages and eventually I gave in. Initially he couldn't get enough but just like all the other men he is now bored. His wife accused him of cheating and today he told me he can no longer text me at the weekends. So I got annoyed and told him I was fed up of all the rules, to which he has accused me of being too needy.

I feel horrible now and hate the fact he thinks I need attention. I've tried to be so laid back but it's hard when I have no commitment from him. He's stopped texting me back so that's it really.

Not sure how to make myself feel any better? I just feel really frustrated that he isn't replying to my messages and I want to scream. I'm so disgusted with myself for another failed attempt at making something work. Even someone that I don't really want doesn't want me.

Tell me it gets better please?

It will when you ditch him. HTH.

Is this for real?

Have you tried match or plenty of fish?

Find someone who can commit to just you

Excuse me, have you even thought about his poor wife even once?

You feel like shit? Aww diddums. His wife will probably feel like shit too when she finds out.

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switch off your phone and pick up a book and start reading.... alternatively block him ... but you need to stop chasing this unavailable man

It’s okay to need things. This relationship is never going to give you what you need. If you start respecting yourself I’m sure you’ll soon find men who will respect you.

I've had plenty of boyfriends and done dating but every single man gets bored of me after a few months. It's happened dozens of times.

Why do they get bored of you?

Either you're picking the wrong men or you're doing something very wrong. I'd guess a bit of both, if you're showing the neediness that you do in your OP that is going to put people off.

Could it be because you are boring?? I say this in all seriousness because if life just becomes about finding a bloke, it may mean you aren’t that interesting, make yourself interesting!!

I don't think they get bored of you - I imagine it's something else.

If your self esteem is low (it appears to be) then you might be coming across as needy and clingy - this is a turn off for anyone.

I think you need to be single for a while, and work on your self esteem and self respect.

Move on, block him...he won’t ever make you happy. I’m in a similar situation, after 12 months I can honestly say it’s killing me. Find someone that will love you and only you.

I've been single for four years.

No I'm not boring.

It happens to us all (not the married man bit). See someone, not working out, move on. We all have that until we meet the right person.
You are setting yourself up for failure with a married man though. It's highly unlikely to work out, as he has a wife at home.
Maybe you need to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone else. And stop seeing married men.

You have a moral compass of a street alley cat so I would imagine you haven’t got a lot to offer these men but casual sex. My post lightning be harsh but you don’t acknowledge your bf wife whatsoever in you’re self pitying post.

If you want to attract a decent bloke stop going for married men might be a start, don’t just get physical straight away and utilmately you would eventually met someone decent. Going for someone’s sloppy seconds isn’t going to get you married and settled down is it op?

You were only attractive as bit of titillation.... The thrill has worn off and now he's seeing you as a person rather than a fling. You're obviously not doing very well.

How sad, as he seems like quite the catch.

Ask his wife for some pointers?

His poor wife!!!!! Hopefully she sees sense and leaves him! You sound perfect for each other tbh!

Set your standards higher, make sure the man is unattached, and make him wait. I know it's old fashioned (and sexist) to say but a man likes to think he's chasing you. If you give him what he wants too quickly he'll lose interest.

I don't know why everyone is assuming I do the deed too quickly... that's not the case either. My friends are as baffled by it as I am but every man I've ever met has got bored.

You're fed up with the rules, he can't text you at weekends, how old are you.

I know where you're coming from, but it's time to realise you're on your own now and look for a single man. X

Did you not even for a moment stop and ask yourself if Mumsnet was the right place to come with a whinge about how fucking someone else's husband wasn't really working out for you? Really?