Married man losing interest and I feel like shit

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I know this is wrong but I've been seeing a married man for the last four months. Tbh I'm not capable finding my own relationship as men never want me.

This man pursued me for ages and eventually I gave in. Initially he couldn't get enough but just like all the other men he is now bored. His wife accused him of cheating and today he told me he can no longer text me at the weekends. So I got annoyed and told him I was fed up of all the rules, to which he has accused me of being too needy.

I feel horrible now and hate the fact he thinks I need attention. I've tried to be so laid back but it's hard when I have no commitment from him. He's stopped texting me back so that's it really.

Not sure how to make myself feel any better? I just feel really frustrated that he isn't replying to my messages and I want to scream. I'm so disgusted with myself for another failed attempt at making something work. Even someone that I don't really want doesn't want me.

Tell me it gets better please?

If one of my friends was shagging a married man they wouldn’t be my friend anymore. The fact your not bothered about the wives says a lot about you’re attitude

You need self respect OP. I suggest you get some therapy for your issues of unworthiness and take it from there. But end it with this married man. He's never going to leave her for you and ultimately that will make you feel utterly worthless. Do the right thing. Finish it and then get some help.

He's married. He wanted a fling not a relationship. You seem to want a relationship. Not exactly rocket science is it?

His wife has accused him of cheating so she has her suspicions and must be in bits, the poor woman. Don't you have any remorse about what you are both doing to her?

Is it me or are these goady ow are coming out in force on MN.

Good grief, OP, kick him to the kerb, this relationship is no good for you. x

You deserve everything you get

Single men get bored of you, so you chase after a married man.. who also gets bored of you...

Clearly there's something wrong with you

thats a really disgusting thing to say, in all liklihood the OP has low selt esteem, and how does that comment make it better?

Please ignore the vicious posts here, I’m sorry you had to read them.

You are better than this and you will find someone who treats you well, but not while you are involved with this waste of space. If he is losing interest, he’s doing you a favour,trust me. Break it off and believe that you deserve more than to be someone’s bit on the side. X

You’re boring. Get over yourself and get a real boyfriend not someone’s else’s fucking husband.

It gets better. It gets better when you find your self respect and accept that being single is better than willingly accepting dregs from a cheating scumbag.

As if this is one the level!

Perhaps you're just that shit in bed :)

Listen lovely, stop judging yourself by the shit standards society expects. You do not need a man. Pick up a book and start working on yourself esteem, then pick up another one about feminism. Then go and live your life. And if you meet someone, great, if you don't, so what. You do not need a man to protect you, to have kids, to be successful. They are completely fucking useless most of the time anyway.

Stop hating yourself.

Listen lovely, stop judging yourself by the shit standards society expects.

And also; stop shagging someone else's husband. :)

NotDrunk - “You’re boring’- perhaps you’re not drunk but you are extremely unpleasant.

MadMags, you seem equally vile. Perhaps you are one of those women whose husband cheated and you blame the other woman instead of the piece of shit you married?

Who the fuck writes stuff like that to another woman whose self esteem is already low?

he's married. thats why he doesn't want you - because the wife has found out and he's decided she means more to him. Until the next mug

If you didn't have a relationship with a married person you wouldn't have so many rules. Did you come here looking for sympathy 😂

I think you need time alone to concentrate on YOU. Without knowing more it's impossible to say why I think your relationships are short-lived. To be honest if you're not happy in yourself maintaining a relationship can be very hard. If you can afford to get private therapy to explore that it may help you and your self-esteem which seems extremely low. Maybe try Relate?

I wish you all the best.

1- stop messaging him, your making yourself look pathetic and needy.
2- block his number.
3- have some self respect, your being used as a easy shag, this man doesn’t care about you.
4 - Build your confidence back up (ditching him will help).
5- stop fucking married men.

Arun what kind of misogynistic bullshit is that.

‘No I’m not boring’

Bit of a bold statement there, OP. I think you’re incredibly tedious and I’ve never had to meet you.

Not going to touch on the married man thing and am not convinced this is real, but I do want to weigh in on the "are you boring?" question. Because my friend has exactly the same problem as you (meets men easy then they go off her really fast) and although I like her, yes, she is boring. All she ever wants to do is go out drinking. She doesn't have any hobbies, doesn't read, doesnt travel, doesn't follow current affairs, doesn't have an opinion about anything meaningful etc. She just likes to get drunk and complain about stuff. She blames being too busy at work to do anything else, but TBH I know her colleagues and they all manage it. She's also horrendously needy, texts guys constantly wanting validation, fast commitment, creating drama, obsessed with social media interactions, starting arguments because she doesn't know how to many conversation. It's exhausting just listening to her talk about these men, do god knows how they feel. She's a nice woman but bloody hell, I wouldn't date her either. She wouldn't recognise this description of herself, she thinks she's super interesting and that it's perfectly normal to behave the way she does in relationships. You probably won't admit/ recognise this description about yourself either but it'd be worth doing some soul searching on the subject. And I also strongly second the suggestion that you get counselling. Your attitude to men, as you've come across on this thread, is very unusual. You may think you're acting normally and be baffled that you can't find love, but you honestly come off as really weird in the posts you've made so far.

jeaux90 it's from Insecure. It's a joke.

I've suffered low self esteem in the past but it didn't affect my empathy. OP casually mentions the wife having suspicions and isn't reflecting on how painful or difficult that must be, just annoyed that it means there are now rules. And how can she make HERSELF feel better.