Married man losing interest and I feel like shit

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I know this is wrong but I've been seeing a married man for the last four months. Tbh I'm not capable finding my own relationship as men never want me.

This man pursued me for ages and eventually I gave in. Initially he couldn't get enough but just like all the other men he is now bored. His wife accused him of cheating and today he told me he can no longer text me at the weekends. So I got annoyed and told him I was fed up of all the rules, to which he has accused me of being too needy.

I feel horrible now and hate the fact he thinks I need attention. I've tried to be so laid back but it's hard when I have no commitment from him. He's stopped texting me back so that's it really.

Not sure how to make myself feel any better? I just feel really frustrated that he isn't replying to my messages and I want to scream. I'm so disgusted with myself for another failed attempt at making something work. Even someone that I don't really want doesn't want me.

Tell me it gets better please?

He didn't want you
He wanted the thrill of the chase

And now that he has proved to himself he could have you, he has lost interest

You won't get him back, he wants to patch things up with his wife now he has ticked the box and shagged you

Op deserves the comments she’s come on a parenting forum moaning about her relationship with a married man who most likely has kids disgusting behaviour.

He doesn't want you because he wants his wife. You're nothing to him really. Just a bit of excitement. Seems he has grown bored now. Oh well.

MadMags, you seem equally vile. Perhaps you are one of those women whose husband cheated and you blame the other woman instead of the piece of shit you married?

No, not to my knowledge. But thanks for asking.

I don't believe this for a second, as I already said, and even if it is real I'm sorry but I'm not buying the "she has low self-esteem and therefore must be treated with kid gloves" stuff. She's an adult. Low self-esteem or not, you don't fuck a married man.

Now, don't tell me you're one of those smug weirdos who gets a superiority complex by being all edgy and going against the grain? Because that's a tad pathetic, dear.

Arun it's not funny though, it's gross.

No I'm not boring.

^Well you must be if all the guys you date say the same thing. You are the common denominator here.

Personally i dont think your OP makes you sound needy. Anybody would feel frustrated in your position. That said, he is all kinds of wrong. His wife accuses him of cheating and so i assume he has denied it and is covering it up by talking to you less. Hes bored because he wants a thing on the side of his real family and you clearly want more. It doesnt sound personal, he is just a twat. You really need to consider your role in this too-a decent person would consider the wifes feelings.
Try dating a guy who is actually available and wants what you want and maybe you will get your happy ending

You've been single for four years and in that time have been rejected by men because they got bored "dozens" of times?

What, once a month? Twice a month?

I've often wondered why women go out with married men and act the victim when it all goes wrong. You knew he was married and was prepared to wreck a marriage so little sympathy from me.

jeaux90 I think it's hilarious. I also think it's the perfect response to someone who comes on MN on a Saturday night expecting sympathy, because someone else's husband has told her to tone down the texting on a weekend, in case his wife realises something is up.

And this just keeps happening.

WTF. She can do what she likes - she is single!

Those poor married men with no willpower being preyed upon by women with low self-esteem. Catch onto yourselves FFS.

He sounds like an absolute keeper OP, and a happy future awaits.

Or, just fuck it off. Draw a line under the whole thing. That's what I'd do. He's clearly not able to continue the relationship with you now without pissing his wife off, and he's evidently choosing her over you isn't he?

Most married men would sleep with someone else given half the chance. I've only honestly known 1 man who was genuinely faithfull to his wife.
OP you deserve better than being a married mans shag. Just block this man and develop some hobbies and interests where you are meeting some new people. Focus on your self esteem and stay single unless you meet someone who is unattached.

WTF. She can do what she likes - she is single!

Thats what these type of women tell themselves to justify that kind of shitty behaviour right? Sounds like you'd know?

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In fairness he's probably knackered of shagging two women and she's probably better and less boring!

Those poor married men with no willpower being preyed upon by women with low self-esteem.

Who here has said he's a poor married man, or being preyed on?

@Rudgie47 that's utter bollocks!

I’ve literally been there (though the man wasn’t married but had a long-term girlfriend) and I promise you that I felt a million times better when I ditched him than when we were “together” and he was treating me like shit. You’ll regain your dignity when you end things.

No sympathy here OP I’m afraid. You must have known this wasn’t going to go anywhere. You’d have to be someone really special for a married man to wreck his marriage and leave his wife. You are obviously not that special.

He's had his fun and now he has probably moved on to the next mistress. Question for you, are you surprised about this? Another question more important than the last, have you ever felt guilty about what his wife is going through and your part in it. Go and find yourself a single no baggage bloke that has only eyes for you. You have had a great escape from this snake in the grass who was only using you and not think of you.

Yeah, Arum, that video is grim and misogynistic as fuck. It's not great to come on a parenting forum complaining about an affair with a married man, no, but nor is it okay to come on a parenting forum and post a video about how women get dumped because they have a 'broken pussy'. Bearing in mind that many women on here will have suffered birth injuries. Not a great message to send, even if you don't like the OP.

You're greeting because you're not getting the commitment you want from your married lover?

Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha.

So many insecure and spiteful women posting. It's clear what the thread is about, why come on to give the OP a kicking? On an OW thread seems to attract women who smell blood and like fleas they can't resist. Urgh.