Married man losing interest and I feel like shit

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I know this is wrong but I've been seeing a married man for the last four months. Tbh I'm not capable finding my own relationship as men never want me.

This man pursued me for ages and eventually I gave in. Initially he couldn't get enough but just like all the other men he is now bored. His wife accused him of cheating and today he told me he can no longer text me at the weekends. So I got annoyed and told him I was fed up of all the rules, to which he has accused me of being too needy.

I feel horrible now and hate the fact he thinks I need attention. I've tried to be so laid back but it's hard when I have no commitment from him. He's stopped texting me back so that's it really.

Not sure how to make myself feel any better? I just feel really frustrated that he isn't replying to my messages and I want to scream. I'm so disgusted with myself for another failed attempt at making something work. Even someone that I don't really want doesn't want me.

Tell me it gets better please?

(Hit enter before I was finished.)

As I was saying, why not let us set the greater example by rebuking any advances by taken/not single men. This would help out all women and they'd no longer be pitted against each other.

The bonus being men would HAVE to fall in line and without potential affair partners, it could potentially creative a posituve feedback loop for both genders. Ah well, just some thoughts.

The biggest issue/point here is that whether you're religious or not, believe in karma or not - can we try and treat others as we would want to be treated? If you wouldn't want someone having an affair with your partner, don't do it to someone else. If you want to get your freak on, find someone available so you don't hurt a third party in the process. This goes for men and women both.

Sigh, the point is treat others the way you want to be treated. If everything else fails, it's just a good "decent human being" code to default to.

So, the OP by her own admission just wanted the attention and sex to stroke her ego and did not care about the guy but has now come on here to whine about the fact that he got bored of her. And even though, she still proclaims to not actually care about this guy as a person, she just contacted him again after some drinks. When a partner cheats, I generally would blame solely the partner and not the other party. However, I cannot muster sympathy for the OP. Her excuse that she was hurting and thus feels no empathy or any remorse towards the cheated party is lame. You reap what you sow and it seems that your personality and attitude put a lot of decent guys off. It doesn’t matter how many hobbies you got or if you hold down a great job, if your core values and character is anything like you come across on this thread, I can see why men will leave you as soon as they get to know you. I have no idea if you can really change but if I were you, I would look into counselling and would try to work on yourself. Maybe then you will like yourself more and be kinder to yourself and others.

The OP hasn't come on here in a week now, so I don't think she'll be coming back. She's probably embarrassed by having started this thread.

I haven't disappeared but there doesn't seem to be much to add. I probably need counselling but unfortunately can't really afford it. Just going to get my head around being single forever which is difficult when all I see are couples.

You don’t need counselling, just only date people who are single! Not hard.

You're being so inconsiderate by engaging in this process you need to let go

Toffee when you are shagging a bloke who doesn't want to be spotted in public smooching with you, you are never going to fall into the couples category, that's my therapeutic input for free

Single forever? Don’t be so melodramatic.

OP, you can look at cheap counselling in your area online.

There are some low cost ones you could give a try.

Some are £25 per session or under.

Google low cost counselling.

You ARE single

He ain’t yours

mini I always enjoy reading your posts as they sort of encapsulate things which are true but I struggle to articulate.

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