Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I'm 25 too tomhardy . In my head. My birth certificate inexplicably adds another 20 years, the bastard.

But if you actually are 25 then more reason to get out there girl and stop letting these men who dont ask, waste your precious youth.

Tom definitely ask them out! If we hang around waiting for them to make the first move all the time we could be waiting a long time. My philosophy is if they’re interested they’ll say yes! If not then at at least you know and can move on!

Ive never received a video - thought i have received a very very long story (he is one weird guy who I keep think of blocking but he’s so weird he makes me laugh!).

Kin I think you can toss the halo and Calvin Kleins in the bin it can join mine!

You'll have to excuse my ignorance half but if our undies are in the same bin at the same time, it doesn't mean we've mated does it? Because if we are gonna do that, I absolutely insist you hand the tv over first.

Yes take charge dear boy. We all love a bit of that. Take it from us oldies;)

dutch I am a very darling, sweetheart, gorgeous sort of person but it is the way I am. I mean nothing by it but it's how I talk. One of my dates this week virtually invited me on holiday and I haven't even met him fgs. I have chalked it up to youthful exuberance. Give people a chance - people come across so differently in real life to WhatsApp. Some better, some worse - it's why I move them on quickly to meeting because no point spending weeks getting invested on WhatsApp to find out they are hairy handed truckers or just plain wankers.

Kin well I hope to heck it doesn’t mean we’ve mated because you ain’t having the tv!!!!!!

Daffo - Thanks for that, it helps, I guess it’s because I’m not used to it!! I agree, meeting asap has become a bit of a goal for me now! Let’s hope they’re not plain wankers with hairy hands as well!!

That tv was the only source of excitement, pleasure and fulfilment during our marriage half - what the hell do I have to do to get it back from you??????

For the record, I don’t do bad boys either. At all.

Does anyone else see loads of Eastern Europeans on badoo? I just feel like I'm on a dial-a-bride site...

yes dan I have lots of matches with men called Marcin.

Dan do you have a particular aversion to Eastern Europeans? if you have stuff in common and find them attractive then whats the problem.

depending on which country they are from, they most likely have free movement within the EU, so arent exactly looking for a visa!

For the record, and without trying to get too serious, my bad boy definition is:

Cheeky sense of humour, slightly edgy or rebellious tinge to his personality, confidence bordering on a bit cocky (with humour), not afraid of being himself and of taking on challenges, and a passion for something.

To me, it doesn't mean being an utter nasty twat who doesn't respect women or know how to treat one properly.

I know where I'm going wrong now - must go to the opticians and get my 'I'll help you to your zimmer frame' eyes corrected

I seem to remember that, in the not too distant past, you jumped into your car to meet a nearly 70 year old!!

No, No problem with Eastern Europeans but puzzled why so many on badoo. I guess because the app originated in Russia

Alas kin you are right. I'm almost 50!!! God that looks so old when I write it.

Well I've done the asking. It's just that I'm free Friday evening and fancied a bit of flirting with Mr Academic and his "charcuterie"!! He hasn't replied yet. It's ok if he says no, but at least I'm not sat around waiting for him to ask!

That’s great tom - at worst you’ll have saved some time but, fingers crossed here, you’ll have yourself a nice date 😀

Cheeky sense of humour, slightly edgy or rebellious tinge to his personality, confidence bordering on a bit cocky (with humour), not afraid of being himself and of taking on challenges, and a passion for something.

To me, it doesn't mean being an utter nasty twat who doesn't respect women or know how to treat one properly.

I’d hope not.

Even by that definition, I’m not into bad boys though.

unimaginative tattoos and a motorbike are also good!

I tend to mostly attract the geeks, but they can often also be bad boys underneath an ostensibly conservative and conventional exterior. Which is very good too, and more like me really.

dan oh did it? thats probably why then! there’s alot of international/foreign people on tinder where i live, but its just one of
those Cities.

We need to swap then bendy as all I get are tattoos and motorbikes.

Mr local is a motorbike boy!

bendy i like a “bad boy” too, but to me that means more street wise and not very geeky. it would be a turn off to me if a guy didnt know how to handle himself. plus i grew up in a rough city, so i dont tend to gel with guys that didnt get drunk till they were 21.

i dont tend to go for men who are university educated, no idea why i think its because i have a masters in science and i dont want to bring intellect into a relationship. i dont date “stupid” people though.

there are so many people who arent my type and just none who are

*Cheeky sense of humour, slightly edgy or rebellious tinge to his personality, confidence bordering on a bit cocky (with humour), not afraid of being himself and of taking on challenges, and a passion for something.

To me, it doesn't mean being an utter nasty twat who doesn't respect women or know how to treat one properly.*

Yep, that’s my definition too! Oh and I’m 25 too, in my head, by passport says double that and a bit more - hate my passport!!

Well done Tom, here’s hoping for a positive reply!

I seem to be getting loads of French people at the mo on Tinder - one of the problems of living on the South Coast I suppose, a lot of people in France are nearer than those in the north of England!!

AIBU that I swipe left some people because I don’t like their name?!!!!

dutch no!! You are not being unreasonable. I swipe left on anyone with the same name as my exh.

I'm moving to the south coast though as I love French men!!

I swear this is the fastest we have ever gone through this thread. It's just over a week old and almost full!

If we're all on the move I'm going to be greedy and buy homes in Latvia, Norway and Brazil and grab the best of three worlds

I swear this is the fastest we have ever gone through this thread. It's just over a week old and almost full!

Sowwy but someone did ask for banter on this thread