Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I end up settling for a date that I know won't go anywhere just to get out on a date

You know it's time for a break when that happens!

Seriously though, you come across well on here, you're funny and bright - someone decent must be just around the corner.

someone decent must be just around the corner

Kin I wish I shared your optimism but in 18mths I've had lots of first dates and met one person that I liked and he had commitment issues. I can't even say I've chatted to anyone else that seemed any good. My messages are ignored or I get blocked. So I end up settling.

I've had breaks. I've tried different sites, different approaches. Nothing has worked.
I think it's time to admit that OLD is not for me. I'm obviously not someone that men look at and think they would like to date.

Optimism is the only way Runs - if you go down the other path, forever will it dominate your destiny (yeah, I'm a Star Wars nerd).

Are you being too choosy do you think? I used to be and had a potential dating pool of zero. I now cast my net a lot wider and consider women I would normally have passed on and have been pleasantly surprised many times over.

I'm so joining the SUC!!!

Welcome to the Club!! tomhardy

I used to be too choosy but now I consider just about anyone. I haven't even managed to join the SUC! And I've tried that route as well.
My dating pool is zero and has been like that most of the time for the best part of a year.
I'm not down about it. Just had a wake up call that men don't find me attractive. So I'd rather get on with my life than waste any more time and money chasing something that isn't going to happen.

Thanks bendy! I've started well by creating a folder on my phone for dick pics!

love I hope things work out with Mr CV. It sounds like he really likes you. But maybe you should keep your options open for a while?

runs I know what you mean! It can be frustrating. Have you tried all of the sites as I do find each of them quite different. I quite like OKC as the people on there are a bit different. Bumble is good too at the moment. Maybe take a big break and see how you feel in autumn.

I hope you also hid that video I sent you Tom

kin of course I did!! I've already watched it ten times 😂

Tom I've tried OKC a couple of times. There's no one on it round here. I found about 15 profiles within 20miles and none of them were worth considering.
Last time I tried Bumble I got 4 matches, messaged them all but they all expired or unmatched me. Every other time I've tried it I've had no matches.
I've tried POF numerous times and can't get any replies to my messages. Just get lots of messages from unsuitable men.
I've tried Tinder many times and got no more than 3 or 4 matches which never went anywhere. They either didn't reply or unmatched. Tinder gold has worked better because I hid my age. Lots of matches but chats just went nowhere or never got started.
Tried Match and had most of my dates from there. All blokes around age 50 but they'd either let themselves go, had no hobbies or interests or were very unattractive in RL.

Ten times tom???? Oh my god!!!!!!

I never thought I'd find someone as into lego construction as me... I think I love you!

My post yesterday inviting fate to intervene didn't result in any videos

Since I don't actually believe in fate, I will have to either wait or request...

kin ....????

Lol I've just started using the MN talk app rather than the webpage. It's putting in the wrong emojis !!!

was supposed to be a wink not a sad face last post.

I have no shame at all Bendy - do you want the action to start when it's floppy or nearer to the point of bursting?

And what exactly is your fascination with blowing up balloons and popping them?

Now you feel my pain bendy. Wait till it gets rid of your punctuation and paragraphs.

runs I know we have this conversation every time both of us are on here but we are the same age aren't we? And I have said before on threads passim that I think it's a hard age for OLD and I seem to recall you aren't in a massive city. Don't be disheartened. I think having a break is always good but I would certainly leave the free ones like POF running as you never know what is round the corner. I find it takes ages and you have nothing for yonks then like buses they appear xx

I find it takes ages and you have nothing for yonks then like buses they appear

Ain't that the truth!

The more irons I have, the less fucks I give and the bolder I get - strangely, that tends to lead to more irons and so it continues.

When you have nothing doing, though, it is the hardest thing ever to get that first date into the calendar.

Sod this app, I'm going back to internet explorer.

I'm totally in the SUC ! I don't have loads of time to date more than one at a time but FWB fits in nicely later in the evening. I have been known to go on a date and then come back for him at 10pm!

That said the last 3 first dates I went on totally fizzled out after - I think its me though - I'm just not that bothered at the mo and don't want to date someone unless I am 100% 'Fuck YES' about them - no half heartedness.

The only 2 people I've really enjoyed seeing was when I felt like that and my heart fluttered when I saw their name pop up on my phone.

we are at 995 posts!!!

You forgot yours - 997 now

x 998!

Call me premature - you wouldn't be the first - but here's the new thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3309106-Dating-Thread-137-Sausage-Party-at-the-SUC

I agree kin 're dating. If you go back I the thread, I was distraught a few weeks ago and now I have 4 potentials!