Dating Thread 136 - Can Anybody Find Me Somebody to Love?

[ValMc1]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Kin hahahaha! Is there no option to sort by customer rating?

Customer satisfaction? Good call! Now I just need to find some sensibly sized ones that won't fall off...

I'm feeling zen today after some afternoon delight with my FWB yesterday :-). This is the way forward for me, stops me rushing into anything with new people! A little hot and sweaty though even with the fan blasting lol.

Anyone else finding Bumble better than Tinder at the mo? I've got 2 dates planned in for it this week (although the second has gone quiet so lets see) and also chatting with someone lovely on there but a bit too far away. so 3 in the fire!!!!!

I've just had a Dhol drum lesson and learnt how to do a Kin - hitting dagga side closed tilli side open but my rhythm was a bit off.

Cool I've not used bumble yet but I don't find tinder much good really. I think I need to do a lot more swiping!

I'm finding badoo the best at the moment, it has the most weirdos on it but in amongst them I've met many potentials! 3 dates lined up and chatting to more

I’m sure ‘doing a Kin’ is a nice fantasy for you Val but I’ll have you know my rhythm isn’t so bad thank you

It was my rhythm that was off Kin

@Wishy, is Badoo the one where you cross paths or am I getting missed up ? I tried Zoosk but it freaked me way out as it was all a bit local and anyone could message you without swiping.

I don't know why that freaks me out, I've been doing this long enough!

Mixed up even!

Are you pissed up cool?

OK, I’ve had enough of you lot, I go out for the morning and when I return there are pages of chitter chatter that I’ve missed out on!

How are you all getting all these dates??? What am I doing wrong?? Getting someone past the chatting on WhatsApp is becoming nigh on impossible, and yes, I am asking to meet and then meeting with no response or, like this morning, suddenly being blocked!

Pft, that’s what I say! Runs and Bendy send me some of your getting young guys to date you magic dust please??!!

And, seeing as I’m on a bit of a rant here, ffs, I’ve a date with a guy on Thursday, nice enough guy, spoken to him a few times and suddenly he’s calling me ‘darling’ and ‘my sweet’ and talking about how we’ll fit in more dates during the summer - for heaven’s sake I haven’t even met the guy yet.

I’m off to sit in the corner and rock ....

It's all in the 'come to bed eyes' in the profile pic, halfdutch

But seriously, for dates it's more about setting your age range for matches to younger and living in or near a big city. It's a numbers game. I'll PM you my stats if you want, then you'll see.

halfdutch and as for endearments, just keep an open mind. Not everyone has the same style, mannerisms or tolerances. That's why it is interesting to meet new people, right? There is no point putting yourself off someone at this early stage by picking on one tiny thing (I do this too).

I know where I'm going wrong now - must go to the opticians and get my 'I'll help you to your zimmer frame' eyes corrected.

Lol, I think I'm attracting the wrong right type with my first pic kin. The ones who will enjoy me before they've met me, iykwim.

But I do like a bad boy

No idea what you mean really Bendy but if they're enjoying you without meeting you they sounds like right wankers to me.

Bendy am getting loads of messages and matches but it’s the getting them to go on a date where it goes pear shaped!! I think some guys just want pen pals!! Oh yes, you’re right, he’s a nice enough guy and that may just be his way, who knows! Yes, be great if you can pm me your stats - I shall then go away and weep!!!!

I shouldn’t really moan too much I suppose, I’ve another date tomorrow evening and I’m looking forward to that, know very little about him but he looks nice so fingers crossed!! I’m just like you Bendy - I do like a bad boy too

Kin You cheered me up so much I’ve come back out of the corner!!

good going coolcahuna FWB is a great arrangement.

I'm sure everyone is a wanker really kin . No shame in doing or watching it! On that note I've never been sent a video. Last week I said I'd never been sent a dick pic on here, and I got two within 10 minutes. Interested to see if the gods/fate/nobody in particular intervenes and I'll get a video now. It would certainly wake my afternoon up!

I agree - watching a woman get herself off is probably an amazing turn-on, hopefully I'll get to see such a thing one day.

Two votes for bad boys so I'm wondering what the consensus is on the thread - should I take the halo off with the Calvins or am I better off remaining my nice, charming self?

I don't do bad boys. And not have been I sent a dick pic via OLD!

If you've been on a few dates with someone, do you then take the initiative and ask them out? I always wait for the man to make the first move but am wondering if I should just suggest something myself? I think I take WMLB too literally.

tomhardy Darling, we aren't in the 1950s!!!! So my mother would say. Why always wait for them? That's so passive. Feel the vibes, explore the fancy factor from them, and just ask them!!

kin nobody here believes that plastic halo disguise of yours anyway.

I'm not saying I do this all the time, but I'm impatient and like to crack on with things. It's always been well received!!

that last bit was for tomhardy

Tom I second that advice - take control and do some asking. I believe you're a similar age to me and I know I find it refreshing when a woman asks me on a date.

Really Bendy? I don't even know what a bad boy is to be honest. I thought I was ok, what with church every Sunday and the fact that I've never done anything below the waist, except sex, but that was with myself.

I do know what you mean about impatience though - if I ever got lucky I wouldn't mess around with the second date rule or whatever it is the kids do these days.

Thanks kin and bendy that's really helpful.

kin I'm 25 , well my head says I am!!

My bad tom, I'm almost double your age then