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Should i pursue this man?

285 replies

Auldspinster · 02/07/2018 12:43

I had the major fanny gallops for a colleague who has recently left.

I never acted on it largely because we were colleagues but obviously that doesn’t apply now.

Would it be a terrible idea to private message him on facebook and say, ‘look, I fancied the pants off you when we worked together, now we don’t, do you want to do something about it? If not, delete this message and pretend it never happened.’?
We’re both in our 40s, not sure of his marital status – he didn’t have a wedding ring but wore a non weddingy ring on his right hand and never mentioned a significant other. I felt very strong chemistry when he was around but am well aware it could have been totally one sided. I figure I’ll likely never see him again I thought in for a penny, in for a pound.

Am I being startlingly naïve or should I go for it?

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Defender90 · 03/07/2018 17:55

Love this - you are wonderful, knowing what you want and having the confidence to go get it.

Lmao @ fanny gallops and horny rhino.

Hope he's up for it.

GladAllOver · 03/07/2018 17:57

Hope he's up for it.
He'll need to be. :)

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 03/07/2018 17:57

Oh I hope he's up for it!

You are like a breath of fresh air I really hope he's up for it!!!

HalfDutchGirl · 03/07/2018 17:58

Oooo waiting with bated breath to see what/if/when he responds!!

Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 18:00

I added him on messenger after I sent the message so sent it again in case he didn't receive it. He's going to think I'm crazy.

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Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 18:02

I'm pretty much teetotal but feel like a big drink!

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MrsC2810 · 03/07/2018 18:04

You sound fab! I hope he replies soon.

timeisnotaline · 03/07/2018 18:07

stampeding towards him like a horny rhino GrinGrin

Purpleneonpinkunicorns · 03/07/2018 18:07

Placemarking ..as I wanna know the outcome.
OP you are FAB

GlassSuppers · 03/07/2018 18:08

I wish I had your confidence & was happy with my body image OP.

Go you!

Vitalogy · 03/07/2018 18:11

Good for you OP.

Iputthescrewinthetuna · 03/07/2018 18:24

Wow Op you are a gutsy lady!
I would never be able to do that, if I was single!
You are now my inspiration - If I want something I am now going to pursue!
I so hope you get a good reply, or even a knock at your door! 😉

eddielizzard · 03/07/2018 18:29

well done!

SinglePringle · 03/07/2018 18:31

Shit, I’d be feeling 100% pukey-bucket if I were you but I also think it was TOTALLY the right thing to do!

SleepWarrior · 03/07/2018 18:43

Was it the same message that you posted here, or did you tweak it?

Coughy · 03/07/2018 18:51

Shit. This is it. Gutsy as fuck. Well done Wink

whereiscaroline · 03/07/2018 18:53

Oh god I'm rooting for you @Auld! You're fab!

Mangoo · 03/07/2018 18:56

This is brilliant! Fingers crossed OP. I wish I had your attitude Grin

HotSauceCommittee · 03/07/2018 19:01

I’m rooting for you, OP; no pun intended.
You could find out if highlight man has his pubes done to match!

Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 19:02

I phrased it slightly differently. Told him I'd been in lust with him at work and if he fancied something uncomplicated to let me know. Also said he had a lovely arse and always smelled great.

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OohOohMrPeevly · 03/07/2018 19:07

Please keep us posted OP.

Kittykat93 · 03/07/2018 19:09

I'm so excited about this, can't wait to hear what he says !!! Good luck op

Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 19:12

Thanks everyone. I'm not holding my breath but I'm glad I did it either way.

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farine · 03/07/2018 19:21

I'm holding my breath! Can you tell if he's opened the message?

BeakyPlinder · 03/07/2018 19:24

Shameless place mark. Good luck OP