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Should i pursue this man?

285 replies

Auldspinster · 02/07/2018 12:43

I had the major fanny gallops for a colleague who has recently left.

I never acted on it largely because we were colleagues but obviously that doesn’t apply now.

Would it be a terrible idea to private message him on facebook and say, ‘look, I fancied the pants off you when we worked together, now we don’t, do you want to do something about it? If not, delete this message and pretend it never happened.’?
We’re both in our 40s, not sure of his marital status – he didn’t have a wedding ring but wore a non weddingy ring on his right hand and never mentioned a significant other. I felt very strong chemistry when he was around but am well aware it could have been totally one sided. I figure I’ll likely never see him again I thought in for a penny, in for a pound.

Am I being startlingly naïve or should I go for it?

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Auldspinster · 08/07/2018 07:44

Not a sausage so far.

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WasFatNowThin · 08/07/2018 07:54
Sad
rainbowstardrops · 08/07/2018 08:12

Maybe he catches up with all his messages on a Sunday? Clutches at straws

Thebrothers · 08/07/2018 08:37

Yep placemarking totally hooked on this one .....

0range99 · 08/07/2018 09:00

OP I love your refreshingly open approach. I wish I could’ve been more like that in my single days.

Chapterandverse · 08/07/2018 09:31

Maybe he doesn't use Facebook a lot?

Love this thread - hope he's single & secretly into you too Grin

Alwaystired122 · 08/07/2018 14:24

Shamelessly placemarking hoping he replies.
Auld you are amazing. I wish I had your confidence. You go girl!

RubaDubMum89 · 09/07/2018 22:13

I keep coming back to the thread hoping for an update (success story). No news still OP? Or have you and your hunk fanny galloped off into the sunset leaving us all here in suspense? (I hope so!)

AnastasiaVonBeaverhausen · 09/07/2018 22:16

I feel like he's let us all down by not responding.

SteamingPistons · 09/07/2018 22:23

Why don't you just start off messaging then start sending progressively more flirty and sexual messages. That'll be clearer that you just want one thing I think

Chocolatefudgecake100 · 09/07/2018 22:25

Gutted he better reply

carlady · 09/07/2018 22:58

Best sex I ever had was after telling a guy I couldn't understand why he fancied a girl I worked with when he could have me....

Also sent a FB message to someone in a totally different scenario, added them on messenger, but still took them two weeks to read and reply,

Hope it goes well for you, I've always found honesty goes a long way. You sound fab!

Auldspinster · 10/07/2018 07:46

I made it pretty clear I only wanted one thing! I haven't checked since Sunday to see if it was read.

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MyOtherProfile · 10/07/2018 07:55

I wouldn't be able to resist checking if he had read it.

Auldspinster · 10/07/2018 07:57

As long as he reads it at some point!

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Poocalypso · 12/07/2018 10:08

Rooting for you!

Roachella · 12/07/2018 17:42

I'm an ex professional dominatrix - ask me anything.

WeirdScenesInsideTheGoldmine · 12/07/2018 17:52

Why did you post on this thread Grin

Emma198 · 12/07/2018 18:38

I'm so sick of AMAs.

Churrolicious · 12/07/2018 18:51

There’s already been a pro-domme anyway...

sheepbadabeep · 12/07/2018 19:00

Did he get back to you ?

lindyhopy · 12/07/2018 19:04

Good luck, hope he says yes you sound awesome

bandthenjust · 12/07/2018 19:25

the fanny gallops - omg I love this

MUjunkie · 12/07/2018 20:50

😂😂😂 been reading this on the bus and have almost pissed myself! So hope you get a reply! Go girl!

Auldspinster · 13/07/2018 08:13

Nothing so far. Did have a lovely evening with my fwb on Tuesday so not stressing about it!

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