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Should i pursue this man?

285 replies

Auldspinster · 02/07/2018 12:43

I had the major fanny gallops for a colleague who has recently left.

I never acted on it largely because we were colleagues but obviously that doesn’t apply now.

Would it be a terrible idea to private message him on facebook and say, ‘look, I fancied the pants off you when we worked together, now we don’t, do you want to do something about it? If not, delete this message and pretend it never happened.’?
We’re both in our 40s, not sure of his marital status – he didn’t have a wedding ring but wore a non weddingy ring on his right hand and never mentioned a significant other. I felt very strong chemistry when he was around but am well aware it could have been totally one sided. I figure I’ll likely never see him again I thought in for a penny, in for a pound.

Am I being startlingly naïve or should I go for it?

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BipolarSunset · 03/07/2018 19:38

Obvious placemark! Good luck OP! X

PicklingGherkins · 03/07/2018 19:41

Fucking good on you, I hate the dance we've all felt like we have to go through sometimes. It drags the whole will we, won't we thing out far too long. Either way, you'll know. He either wants to bang you good and proper or not. If he does, he'll come and get it. If not, his loss but he'll no longer occupy your head space.

halfwitpicker · 03/07/2018 19:43

Crikey this is all very interesting. You sound fab, auld

Poisongirl81 · 03/07/2018 19:47

let us know

Thebluedog · 03/07/2018 19:47

This is the best thread ever! Grin good luck OP

But he’s prob in the pub not, watchIn the football with his mates

Poocalypso · 03/07/2018 19:48

Gooo you! Love that you are being yourself, I think that is the best way to find someone as at least they will know straight away what to expect! No pussyfooting around! Fingers crossed!

YearOfYouRemember · 03/07/2018 19:51

Hope you score tonight as well as 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 Grin

Counter27 · 03/07/2018 20:03

Abnormally excited to see how this turns out! Good luck OP.

Babyblues052 · 03/07/2018 20:21

I wish more women were like you!! So unapologetic, its very refreshing. I think if this guy doesn't reply it would be very much his loss!! Good luck!

MyGastIsFlabbered · 03/07/2018 21:05

Not blatant placemarking at all! Hope he replies and is up for it!

mademybed123 · 03/07/2018 21:15

has he been on facebook? Is there a little green dot?
Oh, fingers crossed for you!!!

LyraBelaqua · 03/07/2018 21:50

Placemark for me too, I hope you get the desired response!

Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 22:17

It's unread as of yet.

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Arum51 · 03/07/2018 22:24

He'll be watching the football

Arum51 · 03/07/2018 22:25

And is now celebrating! Sorry, premature posting there

Unknown5432 · 03/07/2018 22:28

Shamelessly place marking. Good luck op

Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 22:35

We're Scottish so probably not Arum51.

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TomHardysBitontheside · 03/07/2018 22:47

Shamelessly placemarking.

"Fanny gallops" is my new favourite phrase!

mademybed123 · 03/07/2018 22:50

Horny rhino is my spirit animal.. .

Arum51 · 03/07/2018 22:52

@Auldspinster well if he's in bed at this time of night, he's not for you!

Tumon · 03/07/2018 22:53

Dying to hear how this turns out. Good on you!

Kittykat93 · 03/07/2018 22:55

Well at least he hasn't read it and not replied ! Hopefully he'll reply in the morning.

RubaDubMum89 · 03/07/2018 22:58

I'm rooting for you OP! Bugger him if he's not interested, he doesn't know what he's missing! Bugger him if he is interested too 😁😏😂

UndomesticHousewife · 03/07/2018 23:10

Rather than stampeding towards him like a horny rhino

GrinGrin

Whatislife123 · 03/07/2018 23:11

Good luck