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Should i pursue this man?

285 replies

Auldspinster · 02/07/2018 12:43

I had the major fanny gallops for a colleague who has recently left.

I never acted on it largely because we were colleagues but obviously that doesn’t apply now.

Would it be a terrible idea to private message him on facebook and say, ‘look, I fancied the pants off you when we worked together, now we don’t, do you want to do something about it? If not, delete this message and pretend it never happened.’?
We’re both in our 40s, not sure of his marital status – he didn’t have a wedding ring but wore a non weddingy ring on his right hand and never mentioned a significant other. I felt very strong chemistry when he was around but am well aware it could have been totally one sided. I figure I’ll likely never see him again I thought in for a penny, in for a pound.

Am I being startlingly naïve or should I go for it?

OP posts:
Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 15:09

I'll bite the bullet and send it when I get home.

I don't expect him to go for it but will be pleased if he does. As pleasant as the fwb sex is it'd be nice to have someone who gives me the 'major fanny gallops'.

OP posts:
Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 15:11

Even his voice would make me come over all funny.

OP posts:
hellsbellsmelons · 03/07/2018 15:21

This has made me LOL OP.
Love it.
Let us know how it all goes.

Loopylou6 · 03/07/2018 15:35

Marking my place for later lol

TheClitterati · 03/07/2018 15:57

Good luck OP!

SomeKnobend · 03/07/2018 16:12

grumpy4squash would go with the inviting him for a drink 'to start with' and see where it goes That's not the kind of thirsty she is.

Just be direct OP, he's either interested or not, fingers crossed!

Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 16:23

On my way home. Will post again when I've done it. Think it'll be like ripping off a plaster, dreading it but will feel better afterwards.

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needtimealone · 03/07/2018 16:29

Watching with interest

FitzChivarly · 03/07/2018 16:38

Go for it! Good luck OP

gettingstherehopefully · 03/07/2018 16:41

I'm imagining the thrill / shudder feeling you might have once you press 'send'. Both thrill and shudder are good in my books; they both show the courage of going through with it and the trepidation of not knowing how he'll respond.

It's bloody exciting and refreshingly honest. Well done.

MildlyMiserable · 03/07/2018 16:45

Nothing ventured, so many say 😉

Kittykat93 · 03/07/2018 16:51

Come on OP you can do it!!! Grin

SinglePringle · 03/07/2018 17:20

DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!

GrinGrin

stopstalkingmee · 03/07/2018 17:30

Majorly over invested 😂 do it do it

n0ne · 03/07/2018 17:31

Unashamedly placemarking!

RabidHarpy · 03/07/2018 17:32

I am awed by you 👊and wish you much joyful and uncomplicated sex Flowers.

Am reading your message and thinking "If I tweak that, do I have the guts to send it?" . Hmmmmm

CaptainGT · 03/07/2018 17:41

WATCHING.

GladAllOver · 03/07/2018 17:42

Maybe have a stiff drink to give you the courage to press that button.

Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 17:45

I've written it, just need to send the fucking thing!

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farine · 03/07/2018 17:46

Been lurking all day, but have to come out of the dark to say, hit SEND!

Auldspinster · 03/07/2018 17:47

Sent it, arrgh

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Sharkwithknees · 03/07/2018 17:50

Good on you!! Good luck Grin

farine · 03/07/2018 17:52

Fingers crossed!

BishopstonFaffing · 03/07/2018 17:52

Send it. Direct approach, no game playing. I thoroughly approve.

shaggedthruahedgebackwards · 03/07/2018 17:54

Fingers crossed for you OP!