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Starting over after 25 years

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Lily007 · 19/05/2018 14:13

I never gave a thought to the too precise info I was giving so I’ve had to hide my old thread. Is that the right thing to do?

I don’t know what I was thinking divulging so much personal info 🙈

I’lll continue to post on this new thread, as anyone who’s been contributing already knows the background so there’s no need for the history to be visible in any case.

Thank you to the poster who warned me 🙄

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beeefcake · 07/07/2018 00:01

@tootstastic so can I!!!!

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Lily007 · 07/07/2018 00:06

Yep. Wayne and Waynetta Slob 👍

I’m off to bed now. Been up since 6 am so ready for sleep.

Thanks everyone, you really do keep me going 😘

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beeefcake · 07/07/2018 00:13

Speak tomorrow Lily have a lovely nights sleep 😘😘

butterbeansandbreadcrumbs · 07/07/2018 09:19

I'll just leave these here ..

In all seriousness Lily, have a lovely weekend with your friends WineThanks

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AgathaF · 07/07/2018 11:15

He's a needy fucker, isn't he?

Loving your description.

Bluntness100 · 07/07/2018 11:15

Morning Lilly, how do you feel today? Were you dreaming of bet lynch? 😜

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Lily007 · 07/07/2018 12:15

OMFG!!!!

I’ve just been sent a photo of him sprawled out on a sun lounger, he’s had her name tattooed on the inside of his bicep 🤣🤣🤣

One of the lads put it on their chat this morning. I can’t even repeat the expletives they’re using.

One of them says OW looks like a crack addict 😂

It’s official, he’s totally lost the plot 🤪

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Zaphodsotherhead · 07/07/2018 12:32

He's done what???? How old is he?

In the words of my OH, who doesn't mince them, 'what a fuckwit'. He is going to feel such a fool in, ooh, about three months.

I hope she's got a really really long name...Samantha-Alexandra Clutterbuck would be good. Cos that's going to hurt to have removed...

butterbeansandbreadcrumbs · 07/07/2018 12:50

I have no words! Confused

Worzels · 07/07/2018 13:07

Oh deary me, sounds like they deserve each other!

Bluntness100 · 07/07/2018 13:16

Oh god has he? That's gonna be awkward when she dumps him..

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FuckItPassMeTheWine · 07/07/2018 13:23

My ex from way back done this , however he was 22 😂 this says a lot about his mental state .

OP you have dodged a bullet and this “relationship” is going to end in a train wreck , give it a year max I reckon xx

Sunflowersforever · 07/07/2018 13:25

Holy fuck. How embarrassing.

Sounds like he's trying to convince the world.

So so tacky. Oh Lily, did he have some sort of bump on the head?

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Lily007 · 07/07/2018 13:46

I know I’m absolutely gobsmacked. No Zaph only a four letter name 🤣.

Everyone is laughing at him but at the same time expressing their disgust. He’s actually posed purposely so it’s clearly visible.

The irony is, he was going to get my name tattooed only last November but I talked him out of it 🙄.

I bet the ‘crack addict’ feels really important now he’s branded with her name.

He seems to be battering IG and FB today. Must be having an amazing holiday 🤔

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butterbeansandbreadcrumbs · 07/07/2018 14:25

He should have got another 4-letter name tattooed on his forehead instead. How trashy!

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Lily007 · 07/07/2018 14:39

I know, I feel so bloody humiliated 😡

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Opportunitynox · 07/07/2018 14:48

Feel so bad for you Lily. However, he's the one who should feel humiliated, what a nasty swine.

Bluntness100 · 07/07/2018 14:50

What? Why? Why do you feel humiliated? This is all on him and her and doesn't reflect on you at all..💐

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Lily007 · 07/07/2018 15:00

I think people will be seeing the posts and thinking “oh poor Lily”

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Rememory · 07/07/2018 15:06

Nah I'd be thinking ' what a loser he is'

Thebluedog · 07/07/2018 15:16

I’d be thinking the ex wife had a lucky escape and what a twunt with exh is

tootstastic · 07/07/2018 15:27

Good grief...just when you think he can sink no lower!! He really is in full mid-life crisis mode, isn't he?! I get the impression he realises he's burned his bridges so is trying his hardest to make his bed and lie in it, but me thinks he is trying a little too hard! Too hard to convince everyone how happy he is. That doesn't sound like genuine happiness to me; if he was, he'd be too busy having an amazing time to bother updating social media very often.

People will be thinking what a loser he must be, not pitying you lily. They'll also be thinking you're well out of that relationship, like you managed to jump out before the car crashed.

Bluntness100 · 07/07/2018 16:02

No, I also don't think they'd be thinking that, genuinely I don't. I think they will be thinking what a wanker.

If this was friends of mine and the ex husband was doing his, I wouldn't be thinking oh poor friend, I'd be thinking god what a tosser.

People really won't relate his actions back to you. Honest. If they think of you it will be more "wonder what Lilly makes of that, bet she's glad she's out of it". But they know you're separated and he is in a relationship with someone else so they won't be thinking poor Lilly. Honest. For someone to be thinking that they'd have to be thinking you want him back. They won't be thinking that you do.

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Lily007 · 07/07/2018 16:19

Yeah I hope you’re all right.

Whatever next 🙈😬

It has proved though that the more I discover, the less impact it has. If I’d discovered the tattoo a week ago, I’d have been gutted. I now just think you sad bastard!

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AcrossthePond55 · 07/07/2018 16:29

I'd be thinking "thank fuck Lily's well away from that!"