About to have the single most awkward meeting of my life..

[Cherryblossom200]

Hi everyone,

The subject says it all really. My DD who has just turned 3 will be meeting her biological dad in a couple of weeks.

We had a whirl wind romance I fell pregnant, he left to live in Australia and we’ve had no contact since.

Last year I had to contact him to get some medical information from him and he said he would like to find out more about his DD. Up until this point he didn’t even know her name. It has literally just been photos and letters until now, he asked me about a month ago if he could see my DD as he is visiting the UK to see family and I have agreed.

I know what he did was unforgivable walking out on us. But I’m doing this for my DD. She won’t be told who he is.

We are going to a park for a couple of hours and having tea and cake.

If he gets emotional then I’ll walk away because my DD won’t understand it. My only concern is that my DD will be ok and enjoy playing in the park.

I haven’t seen him him in over 4 years, this is going to be the single most awkward meeting of my life.

Any tips to get through this? 😬

Well that's better than yesterday, just remain positive it will continue and cross the next bridge when you come to it.

A couple of years will go quickly and by that time you will have a much better idea, rather than plan ahead.

All the best, now you can take a breath and relax.

Thanks! I'm just going to see what happens like you say. But I do like that he is sending letters and photographs in the post. Which isn't cheap from Oz.

As someone who never met their biological dad and then he died before i coild decide for myself, i think you're doing the right thing x

Thanks Beaver, and sorry to hear about your father. I think I am doing the right thing

As a daughter of a Dad, who always had good intentions, then forgot about us, then remembered, and made gestures and promises, then forgot. ....

I think you're very wise to hold back on getting hopeful, if the letters/photos come, and he keeps up regular contact, then brilliant, just don't get your hopes too high.

You however, have handled this brilliantly so far, you sound like an ace Mum.

Thanks, yes I'm going to hold back until he has proved he is committed to this. But I think so far it's a good start!