The cat is.out of the bag, just want to protect my DD

[niteandfog]

For.thode who know.my story, everybody now knows about the affair. I know I'll get substantial amounts of name calling as expected, but my main worry is my DD. Although I still can't think of what they could do to her I just want to protect her from this fallout. I think I'll probably have to change her of school, but I guess it's sely days.

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What I meant was that staying with him just for the baby was the biggest mistake, not my daughter!!

Wow that was a quick 6 months before your child met him.

I've read your other threads and although you claim to be employed in a high up position you write like a 13 yr old, who cannot string a sentance together or spell come to that.

What ever YOU like to think of course your dd is suffering as she doesn't understand what the hell going on.

Mum with dad 3 weeks ago

Mum left, now time split between mum and dad.

Now mum has a 'BF' living with her.

Oh she keeps hearing things at school about you and XX dad but doesn't understand what.

I would say put yourself in her shoes and put a stop to your relationships and concentrate on some elses happiness.

First of all so far she hasn't heard anything, I don't know if she will but I assume so. And I filed for divorce in November, so pretty much four months ago.

Ffs piss off op , get another hobby.

This has got to be a joke, right?

Your total lack of embarrassment at your behaviour speaks volumes, OP. You seem to be simply loving the drama. And talking about moving your DD to another school, well that's just so selfish. She'll miss her friends and could easily struggle to fit in at a new school. That's not protecting your DD.

I thought you said you werent coming back OP, but now you want advice. We gave you that in November. We warned you further. We told you how much of a total dick you were being.

Although I still can't think of what they could do to her I just want to protect her from this fallout

Errrr... do we REALLY have to state the obvious here, niteandfog? You never gave a shit before!!

You can get divorced in 3 months, The year I got divorced, I filed in May and solicitor told me 3 months later that I could now file for the Absolute, although I delayed it until the financials were settled and finally divorced 6 months after filing in the end. But it could have been done in less than 3 months.

OP. I have read your many threads and sat on my hands to avoid replying, but you are a complete car crash. Why on earth would you move this man in when you barely know him and he has just left his wife?

You have created this whole situation your self and it is not going to get any better.

Get yourself some self respect, kick this man to the kerb also, and try living on your own for a while and concentrate on your DD.

OP with your many threads here, do you think that you will get much sympathy/support from here?

It's just such a mess... They're using the kids as bargaining chips my DD included, I could be the scum of this Earth but the kids should be not part of this at all

Excuse me love but I think you'll find YOUR the reason the kids are in this mess, along with your fancy man

How are the using them has bargaining chips? Did I miss something?

She's threatened to make sure my DD knows what type of mother she has. And he nor his family are seeing his kids ever again unless he leaves me. I'm fine with all the name calling I deserve it but leave the kids alone.

Oh weesht OP. Just weesht.

This is so weird. Literally everyone is slagging you off OP and you're just carrying on telling your story as if you're chatting with friends...
You realise everyone thinks you're appalling. I really don't want to hear any more details of your train wreck life because I just feel so so sad for your poor daughter. Why don't you try getting off Mumsnet and putting her first for once..?!

You do realise you brought the kids into this don’t you by doing what you did? You didn’t care about them at the time so don’t act like the doting parent now.

Well my only friend has deserted me... All other friends are online (for distance reasons) and we'll I don't have my DD for the next couple of days... My only.option is to talk to the wall quite literally

My only.option is to talk to the wall quite literally

For heavens sake, snap out if this, there are lots of alternatives to obsessing about this, and feeling the need to talk. Direct your thoughts to something else. You are going through an enormously common situation. Affairs happen all too often, and people's tolerance for listening about them is limited. Yes, MN will stoke your drama bubble satisfactorily whilst you build up the prospect of drama on Monday. But it's really not doing you any good.

She's threatened to make sure my DD knows what type of mother she has

Might be worth pausing and working out for yourself, in private or with an experienced counsellor, just what sort of person you are. And if it is not e sort of person you want to be, you can start to make changes,

It might surprise you but I'm a much more adjusted person than 6 months ago. I start a new job today so hopefully that will definitely take.my mind away from this mess. If I didn't have custody issues I would have already moved back with my mom.

Tbh I'd rather you talked to the wall

You and the man involved have caused all this so yes I'd expect a bit of anger and irrational behaviour from his wife at the moment, she's just found out her husbands been shagging someone else ..what do you actually expect.
You're both a disgrace.

Do not move him in you DD has enough adjusting at the moment!!

Where is BF if you are stuck talking to walls ?

I also wouldn't be so sure he didn't sleep with Ex wife, I know you said you faced times a lot but really it don't take that long and he cheated with you so....