The cat is.out of the bag, just want to protect my DD

[niteandfog]

For.thode who know.my story, everybody now knows about the affair. I know I'll get substantial amounts of name calling as expected, but my main worry is my DD. Although I still can't think of what they could do to her I just want to protect her from this fallout. I think I'll probably have to change her of school, but I guess it's sely days.

Why would you want to even think about moving a bloke in whose only interest is fucking everything that moves?

From what I remember of your original post, your daughter would not be better off with her father so you need to stop messing her life about. Clearly you should not be moving him in, quite apart from anything else it’s highly likely that this relationship will not last either so it will be one more unnecessary disruption in her life.

I don’t think the slut-shaming is needed btw, the op can reasonably be criticised without playing into sexist stereotypes.

Folks honestly- this is a bloody wind up merchant.

OP, he won't be moving in because it's going to be at least 6 months before you move things forward because you're going to take it really slow for the sake of the DD you're so keen to protect. Right? Remember that? No?

Hahaha.

Don't pull her out because you're embarrassed! You have to think of her not yourself

Where are these previous posts?

This has troll scrawled all over it.

I'll probably get in trouble for saying that but fuck it.

FFS don’t pull your DD out of the school just because you cheated with one of the other parents!

Maybe you and OM should stay away from the school drop off for a while.

I think it’s a bit early to be calling him your BF too.

He didn’t end it with his wife, he cheated and then let other people tell her. You don’t know whether he’ll decide to work on his marriage or not.

Stay away from school, stay away from him, let it all die down and give him and his wife space to decide what they are doing.

It’s ridiculous to expect that your DD won’t be affected when you have an affair with another married parent who has a child in her school. What idiocy!

This one is playing the long game

Yeah. I have reported before.

And OMG, why don’t you care that he was also shagging his wife’s sister?!

You want to move him in with your DD?! Why?! So she can be even more humilated and destabilised?!

I don't believe any of this really hapoened. it's all a fantasy in OPs head.

No, no... We started the affair, few days later I filed for divorce. His took a couple of extra months. He filed for his three weeks ago, he moved out, but now he's come clean about it all. The wife's sister is who told me about them sleeping together. The point of him moving in sooner rather than later is that if somebody tells my DD about his existence then I have to explain him to her and if that happens then he could move in

So he was sleeping with his wife not the wife’s sister?

Do you understand that you need to tell DD about him anyway now it is all out, that you always would have done because obviously it wasn’t going to just be secret forever and that him moving in is a massive step that has nothing to do with her knowing about him or not.

You want to pull her out of school because she might be humiliated/struggle but you also want to move him into her house and that won’t make her feel humiliated or cause her to struggle?

Do you realise how mad that is?

Yes the sister told me he slept with his wife while I was away. Which I know is BS... But anyways yes I know I'm not making s lot of sense ATM but I'm abroad and really have no control.over anything until I get back

Has he been in your house when dd is sleeping already?

You don’t know it is BS. You know he was on skype with you in the evening. You don’t know what he did before or after that.

Do you not think going from living with both her parents full time to having their marriage break down and having to get used to a new contact pattern to then having a strange man who she doesn't know but is the father of her school mates move in with her might be a little bit much for a child to cope with all in the space of 8 weeks?

If you don't tell her, someone else will. You might not like their version

Is this the op who was shagging the dad from school whilst his wife was ill ???
And he's still sleeping with his wife ?
Wow he's a catch op, lucky you

Allegedly

I have been your daughter
It was beyond shit

if somebody tells my DD about his existence then I have to explain him to her and if that happens then he could move in

Yes. Because its that easy. Insert eye roll here.

OP back in November when you first started posting about the affair I was one of your very few defenders.
Not anymore.
If you’re not ‘hairy of hand’ then I despair for your daughter. You need to work on your emotional maturity, empathy for others and sense fo personal responsibility - oh and your integrity. All the way through one thread you said no sex, no sex, no sex - then you revealed that you menat not as much sex as in a ‘normal’ affair. You said six months, then it was a couple fo weeks, now its a couple of days.
I really hope that you have an active imagination and are actually winding people up.