Dating Thread 128: the one without a catchy title

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Pudding In what way did he seem stressed out? Keen to get off the phone? General nervyness?

If he's stressed Pudding I'd do nothing today. He could be just having a bad hair day.

Kin I tend to take a good look at the main photo and look further if the photo is appealing. I very rarely get beyond the photo. When I look at Match (always on my phone) a short summary is shown including height and being tall I rule out anyone who will make me feel huge. I then tend to look at all the person's photos to make sure the person looks normal. Any photo red flags and I'm out of there. If all looks okay then I read the profile and really just look and see if the person looks normal and can spell. If I see any negative comments on the profile I will rule them out.

That all seems really picky. Amazing though how few profiles hit the spot.

This thread’s going to be full soon. Where’s Smeaton with his jokes? He’s been v quiet of late.....

pudding if he seemed stressed I'd leave it for today and see how he is the next time you have to talk to him about the job.

I got a POF message today from one purporting to be 40, but I was dubious and sure enough, last sentence on his profile 'by the way the age on here is wrong, I'm 49'. I'm so sick of entitled twats believing that it's ok for them to lie because they feel like they deserve someone 15 years younger than them. I replied saying that he was out of my age range and got 'age is just a number!' so I messaged back 'right well in that case given that when I'm your age you'll be 62 I take it you're also contacting women of that age now?'

Oddly enough, he didn't reply.

Kin a simple, smiley head and shoulders shot will usually get my initial attention. Then I look at the other photos and they shouldn't be more selfies - photo with friends, doing a sport/hobby (but not holding a fish!).
I like a short profile with no negative comments and something I can ask about in my opening message. So don't just put "I like films", tell me your favourite film so I can ask why.
And there's lots of advice that suggest a "call to action". I sometimes put "which coffee shop shall we meet in?" at the end of my profile.

Finally, it's nice to hear a man admit they like older women . I've just looked at the profile of a 45yr old who is looking for women aged 28 to 38!

That’s some good advice, thanks Runs. Miss I is 8 years older than me, though I generally tend to go for 2-5 years above my age.

I'm thinking about doing a bit of browsing tonight while the Brit Awards are on .Think my Mr Delay is turning out to be a bit of a wanker .

Oh no I’ve just set up a date tonight with a third iron Mr Geordie I don’t know much about him as I thought I’d go with the just meet and see and save all the chat. So that’s 3 irons dates this week.
Trouble is I’m kind of stressing out about Mr Cat sudden moodiness and he’s not even a suitable iron.
By the time I get in I expect we will need a new thread.
Just hope this iron is more normal than his chat has been...
I’m not hopeful

Ideas for a new thread title, please. I set up this one quickly as the last one filled up without warning and couldn't think of anything for a good title.

Someone on PoF just ditched me because he wants to have more kids and said that with my plans for the future (career etc) "having more kids isn't a great idea"

Ummmm really don't need you to make my life choices for me mate but thanks anyway

Thread 129: NOT any old iron, any old iron, any any any old iron?

Or

Springtime weeding: sorting the wheat from the chaff.

Fuck it: am too tired and waiting for kids to stop mucking about and clean their bloody teeth.

That last one was not a title suggestion, btw.

I really hate men wanting to date way below their age and not above. Can make me not bother at all. Just dont see what 30 year olds would see in 55 year olds ( find it hard enough myself :))

Grrr Vet but as discussed on here before the actual out and out lie is worse - he at least fessed in his profile. Some dont fess until relationship underway. (and as one MN er said a while ago she only found out when she had had a baby with him)

New title : Time to spring into action/ Time to really put a spring in your step

Yes Smeaton you are missed :)

Vistarverde are you in Leeds ? I too have an iron who is South African

An 83 year old on Match has just looked at my profile. A little too old for me but I have to say he could teach a lot of the 50 somethings a lesson in how to have a good profile photo. Smartly dressed, well lit, nice smile, no dirty dishes/toilets/beer cans etc in the background.

Just popped onto Tinder - around 40 nopes - hey ho

He just not seen as relaxed as usual. He did say, we will work as hard as we can to take as much as the supporting wall as possible to keep me smiling......... then he said tomorrow or Friday we should meet to talk through the plans.

New Thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3174825-Dating-Thread-129-Time-to-put-a-new-spring-in-your-step

I was tempted with Ginny's fuck it I'm too tired
or Val's 40 swipes on Tinder, hey ho
But I thought I'd go with the spring theme.

Mum

and as one MN er said a while ago she only found out when she had had a baby with him)

Whaaaaaaaaaaat??!!!!!

Vet oh you’re a star. That really made me laugh out loud. But you see why many many men my age are not going to date me. The fools.
That said, of my 6 chaps I have met/will be meeting this year the ages are 2 47, a 48, a 52, a 55 and a 56. So equal above and below.

Ginny I liked your “fuck it, I’m too tired and waiting” as a title

Pud (I like to think I now know you well enough to call you that ) maybe approach things from another angle/pincer movement. At the meeting just go into full flirt mode maybe?
I just started typing what I’d do and then realised I’d set the cause of feminism back 100 years (and would be once more run off the Thread by pointy stick wielding posters) so I’ll wind my neck in.

Can we keep Fuck It and 40 Swipes on Tinder in reserve?

I would have been proud to have a thread named 40 nope swipes on tinder

Hi there, can I join in? I've been separated for 10 months and am just getting back into this dating game.

Had a few dates with a seemingly nice chap, but the sticking point came when he expected me to drive to his (30 minutes), stay sober while he got shit faced and drive home again because he said 'my house is too dirty for you to come back to'. This was for date 4, 5 and 6. Then I lost the will....