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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step(1000 Posts)
Dating thread rules:
1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
Placing my marker here although I have no irons to speak of!
Just marking my place. Still v happy (luckily, as it's only been 3 days ). But love to read the escapades!
Well done Runs. Had a busy day and trying to catch up here! Lots been going on...
Esk1mo I think it was you who asked about hookup site? Google Adult Friend Finder... It's pretty shocking... at first!
Cover thanks for all the supportive words. You speak much sense. I love your posts and actually want to marry you, though feel I may have been beaten to it by someone else on here. I'm not even gay.
So... my only news, apart from working hard, is that Mr Knows-he's-hot actually replied to my whatsapp half an hour ago. Saying 'Sorry busy few days x'. Hmmm well he spends his life on whatsapp from what I can see, and has been on the dating site. And what kind of message is that? Hardly continues the conversation
we didn't have. I will probably send him a suitably evasive message tomorrow. But damn, he's hot! He looks like the type to chase, play hard to get (thinking my Mr Headfuck here). Right, game on, mate! I'm harder to get than you think. This will not end well.
As for dating profiles, I look at pics first. If I like the look, I will skip to their height (I'm quite tall and wouldn't probably feel attracted to someone shorter - shallow, I know, but still). Then I'd read the blurb. I can forgive a few typos but bad spelling and grammar turns my stomach a bit. Location is important too... are they nearish. Not keen on someone with young kids 'who are their life'. Duh. And humour trumps everything (though not really physical attraction or height...)
Help, I'm chatting to a potential new iron on POF. A few messages in he's written about a "waist of time". Do I give up now, correct him or grit my teeth and carry on.
cover you can call me pud ;) so I channeled my inner don't give fuck mode and asked him if he wants would like to have dinner while he is here this time. Literally this second. I'm on my second glass of red.
Sorry for my constant need of reassurance, I'm hoping he's thinking I'm as cool as a cucumber cos ive let out all the negative ninny on here!
Runs let it go for now, but if it gets worse, well, you know what to do...
Pud, if I can also call you that... nice moves! Frankly, you ain't gonna know if you don't ask. You did the right thing. Respect... #overinvested
I keep dipping in and out of this thread, but I am reading and sending everyone positive vibes! And thank you for all the advice you've given me previously!
I've got a few irons now O.o
Ms Sax - had a date, she's fun and chatty, but she seems to have a few hang ups about being gay and isn't sure if she should have children because she is gay. I do want to have kids so not sure if this has any legs, but did kiss her at the end and agreed to a second date, so we'll see!
Ms PhD - got a date with her coming up, which I'm very much looking forward to. Haven't met yet but chatted a bit and she seems very fun!
Mr Bachelor - I've been talking to him on and off for a few months, he's a friend of a friend. Not sure if I'm that interested, but he's perfectly nice and isn't a bachelor by choice! He just never seemed to find the right one. He's about 11 years older than me though
Ms Music- nothing agreed to yet but I'm enjoying talking to her.
I think that's enough irons!
I am not persuing the guy that my friend also likes, I took your advice and have backed off. Shame cause he's so nice but our friendship comes first
@runs - that would put me right off, I would actually ghost. That's pretty bad I know, but unless English is a second language then I can't put up with it! But if you think there's potential then let it go for now.
Kin - things I look for in a profile..... a couple of photos, unless they have just set up a profile and they are extra new. I like to see that a guy has interests and a life that doesn't revolve around thier job. I am reeled in by someone who uses humour and has taken the time to write something different and anything that sparks my curiosity.
A new thread already- this moves at breakneck speed .
I have 2 potential irons this week. 1 date organised for Friday and one calling me tonight for a phone chat which I'm really nervous about 🙈 I'll be alright after I've been chatting for 5 minutes, it's the initial awkwardness I can't bear.
Miss Catt awwww bless you.
I was once at a friend’s house party where there was literally one bloke and I was flirtier that night than I’ve ever been before or since (possibly as the bloke was gay (and thus “safe”? 🤔) and the (mainly also gay) women were all funny, bright, interesting, interested and lovely)
Sometimes I wish I wasn’t straight and binary (as I believe the young people of today might have it) but I’m all about the cock, sadly. Especially sad as I slide into the realm of erectile dysfunction and grey....erm.....hair
Actually thinking about that: those poor 25-35 yr olds being hit on by the late 40s brigade. They have no CLUE what might be in store for them on that front 😈
Pud you go girl! *snaps* (nope, can’t carry that off). Keep us posted x (<~~~~ Ignoring)
just checking in.
i have my 3rd date with my only iron on saturday (im terrible at multi dating). maybe we will redo our first kiss and i wont chicken out after 2 seconds we’re going on a little hillwalk/climb so maybe we can get a bit hands on/touchy feely.
our previous dates were coffee for 2 hours and cinema, neither of which let me get comfortable enough to want to kiss someone.
I see it Cover ya big softy
I feel like a fraud as the minute I mention I'm focusing on work/kids, someone interesting gets in touch and I agree to meet tomorrow night! Will update how it goes but not sure what to expect as hardly any messages exchanged, just thought why not?
Pudding well done, and I think that is exactly what the thread should be used for, talking any worries through so you are your best self in person.
Marking my place - I love this thread!
Esk1mo- try FabSwingers if you looking for FWB, someone recommended that site in another thread and I think it's not bad. Once you get over initial shock that is lol
Cover - hilarious... but I agree. It's all about the cock. And as was previously mentioned, it makes me shake my head a bit when I a) get guys who look like my grandad hitting on me (even though they claim to be my age - or worse, think at 65 I'd even be interested!) and b) when guys my age (50ish) state they are looking for women 25-40. My daughter falls into that category! I really do think guys seem to age worse than the women - in general. And I have checked out the competition.
Vixen so my (1st and last probably) pre date phone chat went like this:
Me: we can keep saying hello to each other for the next 20 minutes, or you can say “it’s nice to speak to you” now
That broke the ice 😀
Has anyone turned an ex into a FWB? I'm in a bit of a pickle at the mo.
MissCatt I never ever thought I’d consider lying about my age. Ever. (And I reckon I could knock at least 7 years off without too much comeback).
But oh my GOD as I approach 50 I can see now why people do lie on OLD. But I won’t. I’ll just have to enjoy the infrequent opportunities I have to hear people say “really? You don’t look it!” IRL as I get survey the OLD tumbleweed blow past.....
Runs: I let the odd typo slip but I think you work out pretty quickly whether or not it is something you can bear.... my spelling over text is not always great but I always make an effort to correct my mistake.
I had to cancel a date because I was so put off by the texting conversation.
Cover: I am still waiting for this call, although he did have some things he had to do this evening so I just said call when you are done. The first 5 mins are deadly. The last pre date chat i had went ok because i had a couple of glasses of wine before hand- no wine tonight 🙈 digging deep for that same level of confidence tonight. 😜
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