Ignoring good luck with the promotion x (
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Anitt hope the date next week goes well, update us?
Pudding he does know what bj means to the English, right? 
Chocolate what the others said. I’ve 3 dates next week and with 2 the conversation has slowed down. Although in fairness not to a total stop. I mean I want to reserve some chat for the date, but I’d want confirmation the day before or the morning of. It’s what I do in business and it’s only polite, I think.
Val £40 a MONTH 
that’s seriously pricey! I’ve got 6 on Match for £60.
Runs you and Ignoring have made me think how much younger I would realistically shag. And I’ve come up with......46. 3 years. How sad am I?
Mind you I have a persistent crush on Anthony Hopkins who’s got to be looking 80 square in the eye (off to Google). Ha! Bang on.
Spring and Vixen re the blockees: do they not realise? And surely they can’t ever get a date? It’s like: that approach is never going to work: try another 🙄
Kin I wonder, like some others, if she doesn’t need some therapy before she even considers a relationship. I also wonder if she isn’t playing you like a tune. Either way, what’s going on isn’t very healthy for either of you, IMO. But you’re both adults, so I say....God speed on things changing, one way or another.
And no, never lower your standards; I think it’s more keeping the faith/appreciating it could take aaaaages to meet someone that meets them.
Vista welcome! The “norm” is whatever is right for you. We all of us here approach things differently/at different speeds. If it feels off to you, it’s wrong. That’s all. I would say, though, that I think we all concur getting overinvested very quickly doesn’t generally go well.
MissCatt I’d probably block at this point, but will keep reading and see what others think. Either way, he’s rude. Well rid.
Also in answer to “why are you on OLD?” “Er, to double my options/because the internet exists?”
Re. the competition: I don’t really see it that way (and I’m the most competitive person I know. Ask my best mate about how I behave at a pub quiz. It’s not pretty 
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Essentially if a guy doesn’t “choose” you, then he’s not enough for you. Because he didn’t choose you. Doesn’t matter why, or whom he chose instead. I really do see it in those simplistic terms.
Also I/you/we often don’t choose someone, because they're not right. It doesn’t make them any less of a person than we are, they’re just.....not right for us. Hopefully, especially if we’ve had pleasant contact with them or met them, we’re polite about how that contact ends.
Yes, it’s a bastard when you’ve met 27 lovely blokes you’re not attracted to and this fucker, (the one that was so promising and sexy and sympatico that you felt the click was like a sonic boom) has gone cold on you with no discernible reason. It’s horrible. But it just wasn’t right. If he comes back in x weeks with some ridiculous (or extremely plausible) excuse IMO it still wasn’t right. Because you deserve space for someone who unwaveringly chooses you to come in. And frustratingly that might take months. Or years.
I guess this is easier to swallow if you expect that until you both say “we are exclusive now: lo! Let us delete these dating apps in tandem!” there is every likelihood they are still making their mind up. And if that’s not soon enough for you and your time frames then you respectfully bid them well and get out, in order to make room for the person that is better in sync with you. This is hard. I know it’s hard: I spent from age 23-47 learning this bloody lesson. And I’m still single, true. But happier than I was being (or thinking I was) in love with someone that didn’t show me they felt the same.
Pog oh that made me howl . Sadly I’d deleted before I saw it. I’ll know better next time 
Vet I’m searching for a word to describe that guy, and I’m going to have to travel across the Pond and come back with “douche”. A douche with some serious psychological issues. I mean I don’t “get” ghosting or flaking at the best of times, but to do what he did so close to the date does make me wonder if he wasn’t watching from somewhere to see just how “clever” he was to take you in. Christ, you dodged a whole arsenal of bullets there.
Oh and can I just say IT WAS NOT SOMETHING YOU SAID. Unless “I’ll be there at 1” was a trigger for a full on mental breakdown 🙄 in which case see arsenal comment.
Lost licks end of pencil
crosses “wincyette nightie” off dirty weekend shopping list
I’d theoretically stop talking to others only when the other party and you have agreed to be exclusive and deleted the apps. Note “theoretically”: you might not want to date or talk to others, but until they say they don’t want to then it’s safer to assume they still are.
If this means you instigate a conversation to make you feel comfortable then sobeit. But I’d want to see that app deleted. And if they’re cagey about it then it’s not the right time for them, whatever they might say and you can deal with that accordingly.
Love so if they're after NSA and they live with their parents then where are the MB served? Do they offer to get a hotel? Or is it just expecting to find a partner who will let them (a stranger) into their home? If so, that’s pretty bloody entitled/lazy in my eyes.
Savage welcome also and I hope Bumble works well for you. Not that I’m bitter. In any way 
Buy and Fresh welcome too
Bloody nope it doesn’t seem keen. And you might want to stare hard at rule 3 for a bit, maybe You could cut him some slack, only you know if it feels ok or off to you.
I’ve no more news. Things v much quieter, possibly as my meat is no longer “fresh” on Match. But looking forward to next week 👍🏻