Vet it’s a real shame that for one moment you think it could be about your appearance; that your mind goes there at all. But let’s say that tiny possibility is true: he sees you and doesn’t fancy you. Reverse it: what would you do? You’d go in and spend the hour you’d committed to with him wouldn’t you? Because you’re polite. And normal. And not an utter fuckwit.
So whatever the reason it’s still his bloody problem.
Plus you’re clearly gorgeous, so stop with that please.
Love with my history I would never judge about seeing someone who’s married. Although I’d never do it again and my experience was the whole affair thing, utter mess that that is. And glad your focussed on staying safe. Though, as I think someone previously said, there’s probably more honesty on the hookup sites. Certainly about intent.
Minnie welcome 
What’s changed/why dyou think you’re feeling more needy now he’s back? Sounds great so far with the contact from his time away.
Fresh my quarrel with Bumble (was in it for a month or so last year and did get a date from it) was when I signed up there were a ton of really fit men who matched me. And it seemed that the “quality” (for want of a better word: I mean ones I thought were hot and reasonably similar in age) of guys was waaaaay better than on any other site I’d seen (GSM and OKC at that point).
So I messaged all the blokes who’d initiated the match. Zilch.
Then I messaged some more. Zilch.
Got one date, as I said, but messages were VERY few and far between.
So either I’m way less of an attractive proposition to the men on Bumble than the men on POF, Match, OKC and GSM, or maybe there’s significantly less actual real living men on there and some of those profiles are fake.
I don’t need it to be the latter for my self-esteem, but either way it’s a waste of money (and I think I paid because that was the way to get the best out of it, can’t remember) and I found it really frustrating.
Let us know how you get on, cos I’d love to hear some amazing Bumble success stories 