NC Dignity Club Pt 4: The Only Way Is Up

[Basseting]

Welcome to the No Contact Dignity Club Part 4

If you are aiming for it, trying to maintain it, being 'offered' it, coming back to it... NC support is here!

Thanks everyone. ginger sorry you feel sad but well done for doing so well. Sorry for such short message, I am out now but will check in with you all properly tomorrow for my new day 1. Xx

Thanks everyone. ginger sorry you feel sad but well done for doing so well. Sorry for such short message, I am out now but will check in with you all properly tomorrow for my new day 1. Xx

Sooooo the last few hours I feel my resolve slipping and I'm back to weepy wanting him back. My head knows he's not the one for me but I want someone to be close to and share that intimacy with. Rationally I am glad it's over and know I just need time and that I'm going to have a great 2018 without him. But my heart is sad and wants to hold him and kiss him. Arghhhh

Thanks for that Basseting.

Sorry you're feeling like that App. He's behaved very badly towards you but sometimes it's hard to let go

Little win: have deleted our WhatsApp convo (500+ pictures and voice recordings plus all the messages since we met) and unfollowed on instagram. Woooo for me

Wow, another thread! Haven't caught up with it yet but wanted to say hi hope everyone is OK or okish. Well done appella for deleting, a big achievement and not easy I bet

Huge achievement App.

Just checking in everyone

Good evening! I've caught up with all of you and I'm just waving from my corner of France. I'm pretty much swamped with work, impending house purchase and move and family life but I always make a point of reading all your comments which are as inspiring and thought provoking as ever.

I'm too tired to write anything about how I feel. I'm possibly too tired to even feel much which is probably a good thing. I think about my NC man every day BUT I'm feeling myself detaching bit by bit from him. I'm a month and a half in to NC barring one NY message. It feels good. Most of the time.

Hello lovelies 😊
Appella you doing great. I found deleting communication thread is probably one if hardest bits but it's empowering,also out of sight out of mind..no opportunity to revisit and relieve lovely moments as well as bad ones.
Itsa glad you're not bad at square one, glad you're in a bit of control.
Getting being busy and not having time to think of him is a very positive thing. You also progressing and sorting stuff, huge positive 😊

Teens, you're fab, thank you for your lovely comment!

Evening all. Hope everyone is okay

Can I just say ladies, this has literally helped me soooo much in actually getting to day seven and being able to delete these things. You've brought me a whole lot of strength and inspiration. You are all fabulous

It's interesting that you mention control @OldBook

My NC has a big thing about needing control and I was happy to hand it to him, but he's then controlled everything since the relationship ended too. He wanted to talk so we did... He doesn't want to talk, so we didn't... Until I said I couldn't take it anymore.

When I contacted him the other day he just wouldn't engage. I'm hoping that I can make him talk to me when I'm there on Friday. I expect he'll make sure it can't happen, but I'm going to try- and I'm going to control the conversation if it happens. I know exactly what I'm going to say.

Great to have a new thread. Almost done day 30. Feeling more happy in general. Will keep walking those miles in the hope that should he get in touch, I’ll be too far ahead to catch.

Well done on Day 1 Oldbook. I hope I'm too far to catch as well Rhubarb

Thanks for new thread Basseting

App another huge step deleting whatsapp. I still look at our messages which now make me feel happier rather than sadder. Reminds me how much he did care and that I hadn't put it on a pedestal in my head... but I know that it is a sign that I am still not moving on so really impressed by you!

Oldbrook. Glad you are feeling better after sleeping on it.

Hope everyone gets a good sleep

@OldBook it was me that took us NC. We doesn't ages rebuilding the friendship that we'd had and he suddenly decided that he preferred acquaintance... I said I'm doing doing that, to continue a friendship would have to be the real friendship that we had- and he said it's just this. I said that's it then and went NC. He wanted to keep control, to know I was still there but not give me anything and I refused.

@appella How did it feel deleting the WhatsApp messages??? I'm not sure I can bring myself to do it just yet - he's blocked and archived for now instead.

I deleted all trace of my guy. Would love to look back on some messages but it's probably healthier that I've nothing.

I missed the link. Set up another one. Sorry!

How is everyone?

Just had a really lovely dinner with my loveliest of best friends and kids and she has been so amazingly supportive of me even though her mum died of cancer in October.

I'm humbled and so grateful for our friendship. Without her, I probably wouldn't be here now.

Feeling down ( a bit pissed as lots of wine consumed) but realising that this is the right path to take.

How's everyone? So aware that weekends are tricky. Hope you're all coping x

Ah glad you found us Ginger. Sounds like a really lovely evening. Weekends are really tough. I'm finding tonight particularly tough not sure why.