Things have developed. We had sex a few times, it was lovely. He then started cooking romantic meals - four course meals, special desert, music, candles etc. Two weekends ago, we spent the whole time together. When I wanted to leave in the morning, he was so upset. Ended up staying - sleeping in each other's arms, stroking faces, whispering sweet nothings. He opened up about a mental illness he has which explains the lack of job etc. Later in the day, we went shopping for clothes for him. The whole time, he was transfixed on my face, as if he was trying to read me. He mentioned going away on a trip, but then admitted he has no money (no surprise). Later in the evening, as I try to leave, he asks if he can come over to mine. I say no, but that I would cook for him and we could have a bath together at his place. He responds immediately, saying he is dying to try my food and can't contain his excitement. The following day, I leave, after he tenderly asks what he thinks our babies would look like.
The day before, he tenderly asked 'why are you such a sucker for me?' to which I put him down and said I wouldn't say that after how I have dumped some of my exs. I was teasing, but I don't think he understood. Later, I told him he was just fun, and I asked him if he ever talks to his therapist about me. He said yes, and that she wants us to be on the same wavelength - eg, fun because women become attached to him. I reminded him that's what I offered him and that I was out of a long term relationship and not looking to get into anything. I asked him why he was cooking meals etc, that I was worried - but he claimed to do this for women he sleeps with, that enjoys it.
A few days later, he arranges us to watch the fireworks. Then this weekend, he took me out for a meal to celebrate a big deadline I finished at work. He is instigating everything.
I am giving him extremely mixed signals. I told him how I haven't been in love in any of my relationships in years, and I am rebounding having come out of a long term relationship etc. I told him this is just sex and fun. Yet he continues to cook romantic meals etc.
However, I think I have fallen for him.
It came to a head this past weekend, he was upset again that I was leaving before he could make me breakfast. He really sulks. Then I told him we need boundaries, if it's just fun, otherwise all this stuff with romantic meals, dates etc creeps into gf/bf terrority and one of us will develop feelings. He maintained that he wouldn't and he'd be surprised if I were to. I told him I was rebounding and sensitive. He said he didn't want to feel like a prostitute - ie, if I go there just for sex. He said how much he enjoyed the previous weekend we spent together. I looked confused and asked him what he really wanted - he said fun - and I explained that what he enjoyed that weekend wasn't just fun and sex, it was gf/bf stuff. He said he wanted a gf when he has a job one day.
Later, I messaged him to say not to be upset and he responded by saying that he's happy to keep things causal, if that's what I prefer, and he agrees to be honest and that boundaries are a good idea. I couldn't take it anymore so I told him that I thought we needed to be honest and admit we like each other, and that while I didn't know him well enough to know if I would want more, if things would develop my side, we could explore it as an option, if he felt the same. Otherwise, we could keep it casual and fun. He said it sounded sensible, we should keep it casual and take one step at a time. He never said he liked me back...
I wanted to know your thoughts, guys.
I am head over heels for him and I am confused by what he says and how he behaves.