Shouldn't have got married

[MrsXx4]

6 months in and we have hit our first hurdle.

My husband's friend - our best man - saved a photo of my wedding to his phone and sent it on a group chat which involved my husband. It was a photo of my brother. I saw it and wanted to know why my brothers photo was on his phone. He made excuses but in the end showed it to me. The group of them were calling my brother offensive names and having a right old laugh at his expense.

My brother has never done anything to any of these people. He lives 8 hours away from us. He is kind and we are close. Me and my husband love him alot and the abuse is completely uncalled for.

My husband told them to stop. His text to them read 'lads, not funny that's my brother in law and I'm going to cop it big time now'

I said his message wasn't good enough. I'm hurt and feeling rather distressed that my wedding photos have been used to mock my innocent family member.

My husband decided in amongst all this to go out with them all tonight to celebrate our best mans birthday. I asked him to give this night out a miss because I am so upset with them all (I was supposed to be going too) I asked him to stay with me this once but he went knowing how distraught I am. He also told me he wouldn't bring it up with them again and that I couldn't say anything to them.

I feel really let down. I'm so sad. He has shown them more importance than me all for a few beers.

I've had 2 glasses of wine so I may not have explained this well...

glad you are moving on your dh he didn't know you would see the picture . When he told them to stop it it was because he wanted to . Not my proudest admission but i think if we are all honest at sometime I think all of us have made fun of and the piss out of someone

Good for you op. Glad you stood by your morals

I bet they would be the first to be offended and put a stop to it, if it was their sister or brother or mother, that was the butt of the jokes. I bet if it was your dh sibling, this would not be happening.

Yeah twats like like to dish it out but they can't take it.

You broach a topic that is bothering you, that your H has participated in, and you express your disappointment at his disloyalty and he states you're having a breakdown???

What did you do? Shout? Scream? Throw things? Self harm? No? From what I've read you tried to talk with him about it in an adult fashion.

Using a suggestion that you are having a breakdown is a despicable act of gaslighting. Get ready for more of this - or, run now. After years and years of this kind of shit until I finally did start to break down I know what I'd be doing....