Friend doesn't want me at event - WWYD?

[weaselface]

Name changed as this is outing!

My group of friends organised going to a music festival that's happening next weekend. I couldn't get a ticket at the time but am volunteering at the festival so I get a ticket as part of that.

Stayed over at my best friend's last night, and this morning overheard her on the phone talking to one of our mutual friends.

The jist of the conversation was 'Weasel is going to Festival after all... I know, I'm so annoyed, I thought there was no chance at this point. She has the whole weekend off as well, so we can't shake her off'

I am gutted :( I have depression and huge issues around self esteem and feeling secure in friendships. This is the first time ever I've thought I had a solid group of friends, and this particular girl is supposed to be my best mate.

I'm tempted not to go, but I've paid a deposit for my spot which I would lose. The other option is to try and find some additional paid bar work at the festival, but it's a 12 hour shift both days for crap money. Another part of me is tempted to go and be the life and soul of the party. I just wouldn't enjoy myself thinking they're laughing/moaning behind my back :(

Sorry for the epic post, guess I just needed to vent! Any tips on how to make the weekend more bearable?

Good on ya' OP.

This is one of those life confirming moments for those two, but their lights won't go on for say, another 40yrs!

I'm a firm believer in what goes around, comes around. They might not find themselves being treated in such a manner, but they will cringe inwardly on a more than superficial level when it hits them.

Good luck, and have a great time. If it's the festival I'm thinking of then it's lovely, small and you're bound to bump into randoms and make new friends.

I call her on this behaviour btw.. In front of everyone. Just a statement of fact about how you heard exactly what she said on the phone.

Have a brilliant weekend. In my experience, many people are cunts. Go forward without these 'friends' and have a wonderful time.

That's awful. Try and go and have some fun with the other volunteers, or make other plans that you will enjoy. Send your friend a text to let her know you heard, and that you are hurt by it, however at least you know and won't waste anymore of your time on the friendship.

You sound much more positive

Nice update OP.
Well done.
You get out there and enjoy yourself.
Real friends would not be wanting to exclude you from such an event.
Have fun and let us know how you get on.

Sounds a good plan op xx

Have a brilliant time op. Glad some others have gotten in touch xx

I hope the others you are working with turn out to be lovely and fun, so you can hang out with them and text your "BF" to say sorry you're having such a laugh on the bar that you're going to stay with them, and you might manage to catch up with you guys later, or if not text BF and say you don't feel like hanging round with them yet, you want to go for a wander. Be elusive and too busy for them. If anyone texts just say, I'll text you in a bit, nothing else.

Ignore Neutrogena, OP.

Hope you have a fab time, enjoy the music, make some dosh and find new lovely friends.

Well I hope you had a lovely weekend.

I don't often recall user's names but in the last week I've seen several threads where Neutrogena) has popped up and said something that could potentially make an OP feel like shit. Not surprised to see it again here. Please ignore them, OP*, they are talking bollocks.

Hope you had an amazing time OP 😍❤️

'Weasel is going to Festival after all... I know, I'm so annoyed, I thought there was no chance at this point. She has the whole weekend off as well, so we can't shake her off'

Pack of bitches. They're not your friends. Don't let them put you off going. You say you're going as a volunteer. I'd do it in that capacity and you've got a legitimate excuse to go nowhere near them.

hope you had fun OP x

I was just thinking the same Bran came on hoping to see OP updating with a hangover and a load of new friends made from volunteering

Hope you had a great time and are too busy sleeping off the afterparty to come and update us.

I agree with the PP's, count yourself lucky you found out and find yourself another circle of friends. Volunteering sounds like a great way forward, could you get involved in organising the volunteers? That way everyone will know you, you have an 'excuse' to talk to anyone and can get to know people, too.

Hope you had an amazing time. My university experience wasn't as good as I wanted due to my anxiety. I wish I'd faked it till I maked it and gone out and experienced all these things.

That girl doesn't sound like a friend. Walk away.

@ShatnersWig glad somebody else has noticed that about Neutrogena! She's getting quite a rep across the site

I hope you had the best weekend!

Hope all went well, OP.

"Pack of bitches. They're not your friends."

Tbf, we don't know that the whole group feels like that or even know that the "friend" & whoever she was talking to feel this way about Op.

I'm back! Sorry for not updating sooner, I was indeed sleeping off the hangover and having an extremely long shower.

I had an amazing time! You were all right, I met some lovely other volunteers to camp and hang around with. One half of the group (without former friend) was absolutely normal and lovely, we hung around separately and had an amazing time (and I went off on my own and with other staff). It was such a fantastic experience that I'm working at more events and festivals this summer even met a nice fit bloke there!

I didn't say anything to her, but tried to always be a bit too busy/having too much fun and I think it worked. I've definitely re-evaluated my relationship with her, which, now that I look back on it, definitely bordered into reliance at times. I was still under the impression that all was ok as she continued to contact me and invite me to things, but I can see now how it might have grated. And anyway, anyone who speaks about anyone else like that is a twat regardless.

Thank you all so so much for your words of support and advice. I can't explain how much it helped. Roll on the next festival!

That's good to hear... glad you had a great time.

You've got a wonderful attitude OP. Glad you've moved on. Life's too short.

Tbf, we don't know that the whole group feels like that or even know that the "friend" & whoever she was talking to feel this way about Op

Point taken, you're right. Doesn't mean the person on the other end agrees.