How would you feel? (Stag do)

[DiamondShine]

In a close circle of friends, all couples, the lads are currently on a stag weekend abroad so us girls got together to for takeaway and drinks tonight.

How would you feel if your the only person who hasn't heard from your man since they landed yesterday afternoon? Literally radio silence.

Christ, I would be furious! That would be it, sorry.

Ok...not the sort of dancing 💃 I thought 😳
Is he jealous of other men around you on a night out? X

Flirty banter??????

He was the only one doing it that I could see. I doubt his friends would lie for him to be honest. They don't seem the type but then what do I know.

I'm waiting on hearing back from the bride who's speaking to her partner.

I came on here to say that I never bother to tact dh when either me or he is away.

However...

Maybe I'd be a smidge seriously annoyed at seeing that video.

Do you think he would have took it further?

Yes, I don't think I could forgive that! And I wouldn't be convinced it ended there.

But it's odd if it's so out of character. If I saw my boyfriend doing it, like you I'd be extremely shocked as we were friends first and he never behaved like that single.
Sorry op, I'd probably be as confused as you, if it were my bf.

If you let him come home, don't have sex with him until his had an sti test done. I'd be amazed if he didn't sleep with her.

Sorry.

That video would most definitely end my marriage. And the not contacting is awful. I'm so sorry op. Whatever you decide to do, you deserve so much better than this selfish bastard.

It's the non contact that would seal it for me I'm afraid.

Stay strong Op. what a shithead doing that to you.

I bet his friends would lie for him tho!!!
The video is bad enough but to think of all the people who have viewed it and who probable now feel sorry for me would be awful.

He has still not replied not made any contact at all, this proves just how much / little he thinks about you and your DC.
Out of sight. out of mind.

This would be the end for me

I'm so sorry you are going through this

Agree with PP that's it's almost certain he slept with this woman. (His panicking about not having a home to come back to and his complete radio silence is proof if this)

It would be a deal breaker for me (the video alone) ....wishing you much strength OP

Just a minute

There is no evidence at all that he went on and shagged this woman

She was most likely a drunk single woman having a laugh and making a fool of herself

I think it is woman hating shit to assume she was up for fucking a married man on the basis of that footage. Bad behavioir all round it sounds like but more....I dunno about that

My biggest beef with this guy would be his cowardly and juvenile behaviour since he realised op had seen him being a dickhead with randoms. I wouldn't want to be married to a bloke like that.

I agree Any. OP, what are you going to do? Xx

AF that's a rather large jump there... I didn't see anyone hating on the woman. Nor did I see anything stating she knew he was married. Frankly, she's irrelevant to the OP's issue. She could be the whore of Babylon and the blame would still sit solely on his shoulders.

There's a bunch of conjecture (myself included) that he had sex with her simply because she's had radio silence and the other men had time to text their SOs. Again, she's irrelevant to the story.

Of course she is irrelevant

But people are making assumptions she would have fucked him, "no doubt about it". Because she was acting stupid in a nightclub ? Haven't we all done that....but we don't all fuck the random we were horsing around with.

It's far more likely she woke up the next day and thought he was just as big of a dickhead that we all do. And then vowed never to drink 2 bottles of Prosecco again.

Why don't we quit the derailing?

I am not derailing

Comments like " he definitely shagged her" are cruel and with very little foundation. It's the last thing op needs.

To be fair its a long time since I have been dirty dancing in a club with s man, would probably put his back out now

She probably moved onto a better prospect, if she had any sense

Drunken men on stag do's are not great shag prospects. And it is usually completely transparent which are married.

Op, has he been in contact ?

I agree, it's over the top being almost certain that he's slept with her! Hold ya horses.

Its that he has put doubt in her head, its so selfish. Now other people are acting as go betweens, its humiliating

Yep.

Pathetic, marriage spoiling behaviour from him for sure

I used to overlook people feeling sorry for because of how a bloke treated me. Never, ever again.

OP, how's things going? Xx