How would you feel? (Stag do)

[DiamondShine]

In a close circle of friends, all couples, the lads are currently on a stag weekend abroad so us girls got together to for takeaway and drinks tonight.

How would you feel if your the only person who hasn't heard from your man since they landed yesterday afternoon? Literally radio silence.

Sounds like you needed headspace. Glad everything is sorted OP

Thank you. I have made its perfectly clear that if I ever find out he's done coke again our marriage will be over.

"That woman" - ah the objectification & distancing of the woman a guy happily and voluntarily had inappropriate contact with - Bill Clinton style.

Drug blaming -hmm.

Wouldn't believe anything anyone put on the spot, knowing it could end a marriage and relationship, says .. they're under too much pressure, it's too much responsibility, They'll always say the diplomatic thing (and they always think; people will be people, people make mistakes, I've done stupid things, who am I to be judge & tout).

His entire behaviour during that trip even before he was spotted grinding with the other girl was off - not contacting you, not asking about your child, basically going awol .. was he on coke then too.

This may all sound v harsh and nasty - but it is out of concern/fear on our behalf that this will not be the last time you face this ... and every time you lower the bar, you take worse.

Oh and nobody ever gets married to get divorced (well 99.9% of people) but when someone shows you behaviour unfit for a spouse (or partner) ... it's best not to stick to ideals of marriage or sunken costs.

I agree, the no contact before the event was pretty shit and I posted to say that.........but can people not make a mistake and forgiven?

Good luck op

Best of luck Diamond

Best of luck OP, I hope it all works out well for you 💐

Good for you, OP. As said before, I'd say he has learnt an almighty lesson. All the best.

This you've done the right thing OP. Let's hope he's learnt. All the best.

I'm glad you stepped away for a bit and totally made your own decision.
Which is the right one for you and would be for many others.
Make sure you gets lots of grovelling and flowers, meals out etc...