How would you feel? (Stag do)

[DiamondShine]

In a close circle of friends, all couples, the lads are currently on a stag weekend abroad so us girls got together to for takeaway and drinks tonight.

How would you feel if your the only person who hasn't heard from your man since they landed yesterday afternoon? Literally radio silence.

I'd say it's now up to him to contact you

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He'd know if he had a home to go back to if he texted you or simply called. He's probably hoping you'll calm down but the no-contact would have the opposite effect from me.

Aside from the dancing, he's had ample opportunity to contact you so I'd say he's done more than just dancing. Sorry OP :(

How embarrassing to be 35 and to be moaning to mates, hiding from his wife and getting the bride to test how the land lies.

So he knows you're upset and shocked? And is doing nothing to reach out or help you, or to try to rectify this?

Instead he is playing the victim and hiding?

What a waste of space. Pathetic.

What a hero!

He's worried that he might not have a home to come back to?

What about how much he's hurt you?

What about how he might have fucked up the relationship between his daughters parents?

Poor him? Fuck that.

That, more than the dancing, would bring about the end of it for me. Selfish, stupid, bastard.

I wouldn't believe he hadn't taken it further either.

I'd be livid OP. Livid.

Do not call him or text / message him. Discuss it when he's back. If he calls / messages, respond only with "we'll talk when you are back".

And what when he does contact you?

I'm NOT going to contact him again. He's had the opportunity to respond and hasn't. He can stew until tomorrow when he gets back.

The no contact since me finding out has just wound me up even more.

Just trying to keep busy entertaining DD in the garden.

I'd be the opposite OP, I'd want to speak to him before he got home. It's going to be harder for him to know exactly what any of the gf's might know and have said while he's still away. At the moment he's just got longer to get his story straight with everyone.

What is it with these manbabies who can't take responsibility for the consequences of their own behaviour ?

Another pathetic specimen. Deary me. How the fuck do these lowlives hang onto their relationships ? Don't tell me.

I think I would be saying that no he doesn't have a home to come back to as you need some time to think

The whole thing is just so out of character. We were in the same circle of friends for years before getting together so I have seen how he usually is when too drunk. This isn't him. Either that or our whole friendship/ relationship has been a complete shambles. Never had any trust issues before.

Is it the first time he has been away?

Drugs?
Or maybe worry over settling down?

The time for worry was before he settled down

Exactly

We have been together nearly 10 years. First time away since baby came along but never for this long. Usually been an over night only.

I can't see him taking drugs voluntarily.

Maybe he got all caught up in the moment while he was drunk but now he is feeling guilty/worried about his actions... it seems strange that he has totally acted out of character. Maybe the video looks worse than the situation actually was? X

I think you're right OP, you need a space so you can think. He sounds like he is more concerned about himself. I wouldn't have him home, certainly not straight away. X

My partner always goes missing on nights out but to be fair I would rather he stayed out... other people think it's strange but we have got two kids and 14 years under our belt.. like yourself, we aren't messaging all the time as it's cool and just how things are x

If it wasn't so outing I would have uploaded it.

She has her legs wrapped around him dry humping! His face in her chest.

How bad was the dancing? It shouldn't matter but, was he the only one of his friends dancing like that with a woman or were they all doing it?

It depends on these answers if it's the end of the road or not. I have minimal tolerance for shit like this.

Sorry you've got such a gutless shit of a partner op. Your worth so much more and I think you know that.

Aw feck, I'm sorry what a total shit and where the hell did it end?

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That'd be enough for me to end it.

LTB, if you take him back he'll continue to do things like this, as he'll believe he'll get away with it.

You and your child sound lovely, I'm sure it was just flirty banter...it's not nice to see and does make you feel like crap when your other half is acting like that but I'm sure he knows what he has in you x