How would you feel? (Stag do)

[DiamondShine]

In a close circle of friends, all couples, the lads are currently on a stag weekend abroad so us girls got together to for takeaway and drinks tonight.

How would you feel if your the only person who hasn't heard from your man since they landed yesterday afternoon? Literally radio silence.

Are you the bride to be?

God no!

Confident that you are in a relationship that does not need checking up on every 30 minutes.

It honestly doesn't bother me that he's not made contact. All the girls Pulled faces etc when I said I hadn't heard from him. It just made me feel uneasy my thoughts were wrong on it. Surely no contact shows that he's having a good time?

Depends on what type of relationship you have normally. Are there trust issues? Do you talk/chat briefly daily when you're apart, so this is unusual?

For me I'd want to talk a little each day, doesn't have to be anything lengthy but no contact wouldn't suit me. To each their own though.

If you're happy with this I'd pay no attention to what the others think!

So you are sorted, you know your partner. He's having a good time. Rise above the needy crew.

I'd be upset. DH and I are constantly texting when we're away so he'd be texting me the entire journey and I'd know when he got there, what the place was like and so on.

If he didn't even text me to know he'd landed safely I'd panic that something was wrong.

Did you talk about getting in touch before he went? I wouldn't expect to hear from my DH, unless he'd said that he'd give me a call or text. I suppose it's down to whether you'd normally expect him to be in touch or not. If it doesn't bother you, then it doesn't matter what they think does it?

It you're not usually texty then I wouldn't worry. He's busy having a laugh with his mates. Me & DH only call / text, when apart, if we think of it. No offence taken if we don't.

We would usually send a few texts on a daily basis so it is unusual. We hadn't discussed whether he would contact or not and certainly no trust issues. Their reaction to me saying I hadn't heard anything since they landed just made me think that's all. I did feel a little awkward while they were texting their partners and I was just sitting there not

My OH and I would be like this, we both work full time and unless something drastic has happened (in which case we would speak to each other rather than text) we don't communicate until we get home. I've always taken it that we are more secure than some of our friends who text continually through the day and on stag/hens, turns out I was right ...

I wouldn't worry, I think you are letting your friends get into your head. He's probably not messaging because he knows the other guys are messaging and you are in touch with the girls etc

In fact, he's probably taking the piss out of the others for having girls who need the contact and how he's glad you and him aren't like that .

DH and I don't contact each other much when we're apart. If we go to a stag/hen we would probably make contact a few hrs after arriving before heading out for the meal/pub etc and things get rowdy. We have 2 dc though so really would just be checking in to make sure all is ok at home. We are very secure in our relationship. Neither of us like texting much. Sure we can catch up on the gossip etc the next day. Drives me mad when I'm out with friends and they are constantly texting OH. If they don't want to be out socialising why did they come? If it's just a quick text or one conversation on the phone (unless there's some major drama in their lives that warrant it) then fine.
One friend and her OH live in each other's pockets...constantly in touch during workdays, can't do anything without the other on days off. This would drive me insane as I like my space. I think if you feel secure in your relationship and trust each other that's all that matters. To be honest ild be more worried for your girlfriends!

I'd probably feel a bit pissed off even though logically there's no reason to be.

We do have a young child but I think him not constantly attached to his phone shows he is having a good time. As a pp said, think I let it get into my head.

If you're worried you can always send a message that he doesn't feel pressure to reply to like it's his decision? E.g 'hope you're having a great time miss you' etc etc

If your not worried however then no news is good news- sure he is fine! 👍

I'd expect to know he got there safe and a text each night to check on the baby
However I'd tell him that before he went and wouldn't expect much else.

I would be peeved if he didnt check on DS each day

Maybe his phone is dead, or perhaps he's not set up for abroad stuff? You'll probably get A zillion texts all at once when he's back on UK soil (unless his phone is dead)

This is entirely a personal thing.

My DH tends to call or text me every morning to say good morning when he's away but I wouldn't expect him to text through out the day.

I have friends who husbands never text or call even if they are away for a week.

It doesn't mean they love them any less or that they are behaving badly.

I would be a bit upset tbh. A little message takes less than thirty seconds to send......

I would only be irritated of not knowing he'd got there alright - I'd expect a text or something just to say all was well.

Smug friends

I bet you normally text each other a damn site less than your friends do their halves and that will probably skew your thinking based on their reactions.

Wouldn't bother me but I know I have friends who would be horrified. Each to their own!