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From Russia With Love (earrings 2)

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MarilynMonsoon · 25/06/2017 23:54

Can't believe so many of you helped me that I need a new thread!?

No contact tonight, dread tomorrow's return to the flat though

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Tequilamockingbirdturd · 25/06/2017 23:58

Thinking of you stay strong, day at a time we are all with you xx🌺

TheGirlWhoWasntThere · 25/06/2017 23:58

I hope you manage to get some sleep.

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MarilynMonsoon · 26/06/2017 00:00

Heard nothing for exdp after text dump from friend. Hope this is a case of no news, good news

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Rescuepuppydaft2 · 26/06/2017 00:06

Thinking of you Marilyn! Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life! Hold your head high and hold onto your anger and the vision of his loser ass getting chucked by Miss Russia!

efc1878 · 26/06/2017 00:09

Just read whole thread- lucky escape from a horrible man. Bet he'll be feeling rough in the morning!

Also I have endo (had surgery last week) and a tilted womb- I have 2 kids.

Tequilamockingbirdturd · 26/06/2017 00:10

Maybe after boozy day they are sleeping it off. You are going to have an emotional roller coaster few weeks, you will swing from anger to dispair, sadness and emptiness and so on. You will grieve but you will heal too, don't fight any of the emotions just go with the flow you have some amazeballs friends that will get you through this shitty time, there are some good men out there, one day you will find someone who deserves you x

Earlybird · 26/06/2017 00:58

Do you have to be at the flat when he comes to collect his things? It would be so much easier if a friend could handle it for you.

You're doing great, btw. His behaviour is making the way forward for you crystal clear which, in a perverse way is a good thing. He's been so awful that there is literally nothing he could say or do at this point to make you reconsider.

Best of luck tomorrow.

glitterglitters · 26/06/2017 01:09

Lol @ The Bond reference Grin

saffronwblue · 26/06/2017 01:26

Great title. The next week or so will be hard but your new life is very close.

redshoeblueshoe · 26/06/2017 01:27

I've just read your last thread too.
You are amazing he is a twat

FluffyWhiteTowels · 26/06/2017 03:43

Just caught up. Stay strong Marilyn you are awesome and I'm another in love with you. Am so glad you found out what a low life scumbag he is.

PollyCazaletWannabe · 26/06/2017 04:31

Well done op, you are fabulous and he is a cunt. Stay strong

Saiman · 26/06/2017 05:28

Good morning OP.

Is he coming for his stuff?

Just crack on with sorting your new life. He isnt worth getting stressed over.

Good luck Flowers

DartmoorDoughnut · 26/06/2017 05:35

Hope today goes ok, stay strong Flowers

PoorYorick · 26/06/2017 06:05

Morning OP. You're a star.

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MarilynMonsoon · 26/06/2017 06:25

Bloody awful night with hardly any sleep, worrying about today, I can have someone here but I feel sick at the thought of seeing him

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MarilynMonsoon · 26/06/2017 06:34

Didn't get the chance to say this before the last thread filled up but I'd be a mess if it weren't for the support on here this weekend. I know I'm in for a rough ride but you've all been so nice I shed a tear over this beloved nest of vipers last night, thank you all xx

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Saiman · 26/06/2017 06:37

Bless you OP.

You are being so strong. Keep your chin up and remember we will still be here to support when it feels like its too hard.

Do you need to be there when he comes round? Can someone jusy sit in for you? He doesnt need to know you arent there until he gets there. X

smurfit · 26/06/2017 06:48

You're doing an amazing job and I wish I'd had half your strength when it happened to me. He'll blame you to avoid blaming himself so hold onto the anger until you're free of the shared space. FlowersWine

ComputerUserNotTrained · 26/06/2017 06:49

A few times, when I've been very hurt, I've managed to channel my inner ice maiden just for the thirty minutes or so that I've had to be in the presence of the person who hurt me. I found it very useful - it might work for you to.

ememem84 · 26/06/2017 06:50

Good luck op. Stay strong x

PoorYorick · 26/06/2017 06:50

You have nothing to worry about. He's the one who's made an arsing great tit of himself and has sent abusive texts to your possession.

ProphetOfDoom · 26/06/2017 07:00

I think Marilyn's fear is that Henyviii isn't collecting his stuff but wants move back in! After all he's got no where to go and he pays half the rent...due to expire in 30 days.

However if he does attempt then I suggest you threaten/and mean it to blow it all up at work. He either gets his stuff now or he gets his stuff delivered c/o the office manager at work.

CrikeyPeg · 26/06/2017 07:02

You're doing great OP, chin up and all that stuff. Your ex is a nob of prize proportions.

Just checking, have you had an appointment at the sexual health clinic yet?

Doublemint · 26/06/2017 07:06

You are doing SO well Marilyn. Don't panic about today- remember you are giving notice to your LL today too so you're on a countdown to your new life starting without this pathetic tosser in it.

Stay strong lovely.