From Russia With Love (earrings 2)

[MarilynMonsoon]

Can't believe so many of you helped me that I need a new thread!?

No contact tonight, dread tomorrow's return to the flat though

Good luck for today. I know it won't be fun, but it's all steps along the road. Just try and keep that sense of humour and enjoy watching karma in action

He has said some truly hateful, nasty things to you. I can imagine that feels worse than the betrayal of infidelity, because it's only purpose is to belittle you. So I am not surprised you don't want to see him. Just keep breathing and try not to engage with him. Don't let his silly words enter your head. Construct an invisible shield around you that they can't get past. He has behaved horribly and is not worth a single one of your tears. Xx

Just look after yourself. You're running in adrenaline at the moment with the vipers all cheering for you but you'll have the sadness as well as the anger.

Don't meet him alone.

It will be awful seeing him but just say to yourself that if you get through it with dignity, you can cry later when he's gone. If you still want to!

It hurts, but you will heal. He's got a bigger mess now than you to sort out x

Just read your other thread. Head up and stay strong - consider today as a performance. Be your wickedest, funniest best and then if you need to have a little cry after he's gone

Stay strong OP, you've dealt with this entire situation, imo, with class. He is a fuckwit and I'm glad you've realised you're well rid xx

Oh and good luck today xx

Stay strong, don't let him say horrid things, or nice ones. You are the better person.

Thanks for the new thread @MarilynMonsoon. I understand you are feeling anxious, who wouldn't, after all the adrenaline of the weekend has worn off now.

But we've got you. We're standing shoulder to shoulder and won't let you fall.

Shoulders back, head high, chin set just so and BRING IT ON KING-BOY!

Iv just fought up.

You are one kickass, amazing, inspirational funny lady! (Can we be friends!)

Keep on doing what your doing
eventually you'll be at the other side. You'll be a bit dazed and confused looking back wondering how you did get through but by that time you'll be at the the beginning of your fabulous new life so it won't matter how, just that you did!

from an admirer of your greatness me

Read the last thread in open mouthed horror- what a prick. Good luck!

When is he coming round?

I know you probably can't eat, but even if you can manage a chocolate bar or something, do that. And put some comforting drivel on the tv.

He will act in one of two ways: Either all charm and contrition, a little shy and really polite and reasonable, or, cold and insulting. The first is to get you to believe he has changed and to wonder if, after everything that has happened, you might have been wrong, he made a simply mistake etc etc. The second will be to get you to feel so angry / confused / low that you will do anything to make him be that kind person you once knew.

However he acts Marilyn it is an act. Remember everything you have learnt over the past 48 hrs about him. Remember that he has point blank lied: to you, a good mutual friend, probably From Russian With No Love After All and likely his mum. Remember he has exposed you to STDs without a thought for your health. Remember he called you 'barren', that you had let yourself go, implied you were boring and unintelligent. And remember he has wantonly, cruelly and repeatedly betrayed your trust.

I don't want to upset you, but please have all this in mind when he comes round.

At the same time, have in mind that over 1000 messages on here and dozens of people - that haven't even met you - think you are wonderful and are spending the entire day thinking of you and sending you their support.

Just posting the phrase Mystery Earrings so anyone who has been following the originally forum can find it when searching, as it is not coming up with searching for OP's username. Hope this is not in breach of anything.

Your resilience is astounding OP. Good luck

make sure you have someone with you and good luck

Stay strong. We're all here.

Hope it goes really well today. X

followed the last thread but unable to post
can I say you sound amazing and hilarious, and worth so much more
hope today goes well: can you have a chat with the landlord so if he does come back you can present him with what is happening? eg I have given 30 days notice and will be moving out on::..
also hope you get to look at other flats and make some concrete plans

agree with your post: never make yourself 'small' and suppress yourself for a relationship again: the right man will not only enjoy you being funny and challenging when dating, but because that is who you are

Good luck

Sending strength & positive thoughts Marilyn - you are bound to feel shaky but you have right (and all of us) on your side. Imagine what a snivelling wreck he is, even if he doesn't look it he'll be shitting himself!

You are amazing, chin up & go for it. for later of course

Sending you lots of good luck, you are amazing!

And let rip with that famous sarcasm OP! How will you be able to refrain from humming From Russia With Love

Aw sweetie. You're doing grand. The start of your new life where you can be you. Hang on in there, we're all rooting for you.

Good luck for today.

From your posts, you sound great-fab sense of humour & personality!

How nasty your ex turned out to be.

Good luck today OP. Just don't forget you owe this man nothing.