From Russia With Love (earrings 2)

[MarilynMonsoon]

Can't believe so many of you helped me that I need a new thread!?

No contact tonight, dread tomorrow's return to the flat though

Yay, I've found the new thread! Good luck for today, we're all here with you :)

Good luck for today. If you really cant handle seeing him can your friend deal with him while you go out?

Is it worth you gathering all his belongings together and having someone else be at the flat for him to collect. It gives him no opportunity to wander round the flat, interact with you and really cuts out any reason for him actually entering the premises

If he refuses to collect give him the option of dropping his stuff at work. Not before or after, but during. Hopefully the fear of a scene will force his hand.

If you have to see him I learnt from bitter experience that they feed off any attention. Grey rock is the way forward. Minimal interaction, no eye contact and simply open the door, push his stuff out and close the door.

He can make a list later if any items he believes he is missing.

Good luck. You will get through this and I promise it will make your resolve that little bit stronger tha before x

You've got guts. He's gutless. Keep raising the bar lovely lady.

Will he collect stuff or, as he's on the lease will he insist on moving back in?

M have you given notice to the agent/landlord? Can you do it as an individual or are you jointly liable?

OP, you're incredible and I can't wait for this new thread to be filled with all the positive ways your life will change now that you can exert your independence, strength band general bad-assery once you're free from The Tosser

Just seen this and read through your previous thread.
Well done OP.
You are totally amazing.
Keep going.
He's a CUNT!

Good luck, OP. Remember that whatever he comes out with is bullshit, especially any insults. Like someone said above, guys in this situation love a reaction. Their attitude is often "How dare you not care about the contempt I have for you?" Things have come crashing down for him and he'll be frothing mad and furious and he may want to take that out on someone i.e. you. That's what it's all about- throwing a toddler-like tantrum and venting their rage. And they hate it when you won't act like a docile whipping boy for all of their emotions.

Good luck tonight Marilyn.

Do you have a strategy in place, or rather have you decided what you want to happen next? I assume you both staying there while seeing out the tenancy is not an option so have you worked out what you can do if he insists on staying there? Hope you've got an assertive friend or ten to be there with you tonight.

Just read the previous thread and am so happy that you're rid of this shithead and that karma has bit him in the ass!

Hope everything goes ok today. You're doing brilliantly!

Good Luck OP

Well done OP! You have got our support.
Your ex is such a scumbag. OMG. Just revolting and he got dumped by two women within a short space. Hehe. She doesn't need him either on her shoulders. I understand he is not stinking rich.

I followed the previous thread.

You have been amazing - you are so much better than this sexist, cruel wanker.

Karma has already started taking bites at his arse.

He deserves what he gets.

He was with two women and now he'll have neither.

It's funny how 'upset' he'll be that she used him yet he was doing the same thing - but that's no longer your concern.

Head held high - you can move on now and enjoy your best years without being with a scumbag.

Keep talking and keep strong. You've got some great mates - his sound like they are already sick of him.

bet friend is worried he'll try it with his girlf and that's why he wants him gone.

Been following - ohhh how bloody fantastic that she's dumped the cheating wanker.

Good luck tonight - will be thinking of you.

Been following with awe. Marilyn you are amazing. How did it go today? Any chance you can pack your stuff and move straight into the lovely new flat and leave him to deal with all the shit?

Hope you're as ok as you can be.

Karma truly is wonderful, isn't it?

Good luck today Lady.... your better than Him... tenfold better x

Yey I found it!

Yay found you. Good luck tonight OP

Good luck

Marilyn whatever he says, remember what he said - all lies, sadly. Spiteful and selfish and nasty bastard. Remember that. Mr. Cuddly no more.

You are amazing. You will wobble but you will not fall, cos we've all got your back

Hi OP, just checking in. You've been on my mind all day today, hope everything went well?
Stay strong you're doing so so well, hold on to that anger!!!

How did it go today OP? Thinking of you