In our 30s, he hasn't made a move, sexually frustrated lol

[Dipsy86]

Been going out with my new boyfriend for over 6 weeks. We have seen each other basically every second day since we met! (we knew each other before, he isn't a stranger, known him since we were teens). We have been on about 3 "proper" dates per week, then coffees and lots of walks in between these dates. So we have seen each other A LOT!!

We definitely have that spark, he constantly tells me how attracted he is to me. He is always holding my hands, stares into my eyes and tells me how amazing I am etc. IT is really lovely. We have kissed a lot too. He is 33, I am 31. But I am now getting extreme sexual frustration lol to the point where it is starting to bug me. There has been ample opportunity for him to "try it on" and he hasn't. He has been at my house multiple times and i often think "this will be the night" lol and it doesn't happen. Instead he will just keep kissing me. He isn't a virgin, has had previous girlfriends, even one night stands (even I haven't had a one night stand lol).

I mentioned it last week and he said "oh we have plenty time to be doing that and get to know each others bodies etc, I don't want to ruin this and am enjoying taking this slow". I then said "you won't ruin it". I am past that stage now lol, I know we are both in this for a relationship. But I am literally at the stage where I can't take it anymore and it is actually awkward now as I am like just make a move on me after 15 minutes of solid kissing.

I mentioned it to some of my friends and each of them said they thought it was really odd, how much we have seen each other and no sexual moves have been made. I do not feel confident enough to make a move on him sexually as in my experience it is usually the guy that would initiate this first. I have laid plenty hints now and he knows how I feel.

He even told me he had even been to the gum clinic last week. He said "I want to start this relationship properly". Which is really sweet and I totally respect it. However, naturally I want to rip his clothes off lol.

What are your honest thoughts on this?

Jump him.

He sounds creepy tbh.

Or he's hiding something.

Reminds me of a very old boyfriend, he was exactly the same, turned out his penis was the size of my little pinky and he was known and embarrassed for this, poor guy, we didn't last!

Well it would do my head in. But I would just make it perfectly obvious that I was up for more than kissing and make the move myself. If I got knocked back I'd be annoyed surprised as it has never happened. The problem with waiting all that time is expectations get raised, nerves kick in and it won't go well. Fuck right away is my approach then work out the wrinkles afterwards without the 'first time' nerves

I agree with Mumbod, he sounds lovely :-)

I don't think I could stomach 15 minutes of kissing. Don't you get bored?

And have you seen evidence of the size of his penis?

Get on his lap during the kissing and see how long his take it slow approach lasts

Really mrsjames? I'd love that and would definitely not get bored.

Hahaha honestly I cannot stop laughing at these replies. I feel quite evil for laughing.

I am starting to get VERY bored of kissing now! I am actually getting bored of the dates now too as we will have a laugh, the chemistry is flowing then we will kiss then nothing!!!

The worst part of all of this is he keeps making jokes about how big his penis is! The last time he made a joke I said - can I confirm that physically? like now??? lol. He just laughed. MEanwhile inside I am thinking drop your pants please!

Hmm my suspicion is erectile probs or micro penis, didn't feel good typing that either sorry op

I've been married a long time. I don't have time for 15 mins of kissing. Either shit or get off the pot.

Oh god it's huge and he's worried you will run off screaming ?

If that's the case pass him over here 😜

Guiltypleasures001 eughhhhh I really hope not! I genuinely feel like I have fallen for him but if the sex is away to be horrific and he has a micro penis I just don't know if I can cope

Ok. Time to get a bit serious with him.

So,

kiss kiss kiss kiss kiss yawn kiss kiss

"I've got an enormous todge"

"Prove it."

"hahahahahahahahahahahaha"

"Have I said something funny? I want to see your cock. Show me. Now."

If that doesn't get him excited, call an Uber.

exactly what guilty pleasure just said. Hes either got ED or a micropenis.

MumBOD

hahaha that is exactly what happened!!!!! I am honestly like an angry dog in heat now lol

Then shag the uber driver, it wanted to type aubergine, oh hell slopes off frustrated

"Do you like this dress?"

"Yeah, sure"

"It looks better on the floor..." 😄

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Are you sleeping at each other's houses?

Really just kissing?

No hands in pants? Up top?

Have you tried just taking your clothes off? Coming downstairs all dripping wet barely wrapped in a very small towel?

Butterymuffin,

I know this is about to go down like a lead balloon. He still lives at his mums, saving for a mortgage.

I have my own place :D which he has been to multiple times now.

Maybe he did go to the clinic and found out he's got something, so he's waiting for the medication to work then the re-test?

MrsJamesMathews

LOL literally nothing! his hands have gone on my bum and that is it!!!!!! lol

He is a really nice guy, a lot more of a gentleman than my exes, but ffs f* me! hahahaha