Does anyone feel lonely today?

[sugarlost]

I was listening to some music and a few tears dropped. Sometimes the weekend evenings are the hardest...I had company in the day and I enjoy my own company but we all have our moments I guess...

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Totally. Weekends are hard for me. Knowing most people are with their partners, dc etc.

Oh, poor you, what is your story? Are you recently divorced? Not sure it helps, but you can also in a relationship can feel lonely, and that's probably worse.

Have you tried Meetup? I have recently joined, I have yet to go to a local social meet, but some groups are very active and you can go out with people in the weekend.

Yes I have a bit today OP. I'm new to separation so its early days for me. Already finding the weekends difficult. Thankfully the kids keep me busy but I still feel lonely.
I know I will get used to this and adjusting to my new life but I'm already worrying I'm going to be lonely forever. I do have friends but most have families or have a large network of friends whereas I'm not originally from this area (so family not close either).

Thanks for the flowers Free. For you too . It's exactly those reasons you mentioned....I'm also embarrassed I went out recently and was watching a couple's interaction while at a concert( hand on knee etc) which made me feel worse..maybe because the man was attractive too which caught my attention as was his partner.

[Miss] I've been single for a few years. I've thought about meet up and I will attend some groups. I think I've lost my confidence regarding men.

I understand many people are lonely in relationships which is sad...I guess I'm living in the past and thinking I felt my best and content when I was in a happy relationship. These thoughts do not help me emotionally and I try to fight them.

Weekends are always the hardest! I often have plans on weekends with friends and then long for down time... now I have it I just feel lonely!
Off travelling solo for a few days next week - I'm learning to enjoy my own company more and more.

Whats . I hope you adjust and move on soon.

I've been single for a few years and I dealt with things well for a while but it's hard when those around you are settled and you are silently labelled as forever single. To be honest I'm really scared about the future I'm tired of this empty feeling inside.

It's hard putting on that smiling face every day and facing the world but I do it as I don't want to bring others down and emotionally it helps me.
I'm so angry with myself for feeling this way.

Everyone expects you just to become happy on your own don't they? Some people are and that's great but others want to be part of a couple or family. I have no idea which one I will be yet. I certainly have no interest in meeting anyone yet but the empty feeling is definitely there.
Have you tried OLD? A few of my friends have done it, some with success others with disaster. I'm not saying it will fill this void you have but might be fun and get you out there.
Don't feel you have to paint a smile on all the time, tell people you feel down as this might help.
I wish there was a magic potion......

I feel the same some times ( less now then it used to be ), evenings when the dc's have gone to bed and weekends when the dc's go to their dads. Tomorrow is the first day I have had on my own for a while, I recently started a new job where I work some weekends, tomorrow's a day off and the dc's are off to their dads, I usually visit my mum but she's away his weekend. I will feel a bit lost tomorrow.

Hello all, sorry you are feeling lonely. Just wanted to say hi, me too, and I'm married! X

Me too and I'm also married. I get the thing about catching little intimacies between other couples. I have to look away as it really gets to me. Can't remember the last time there was any affection or physical contact from my husband and think I would feel less lonely if I was single sometimes. I have lovely cuddly children to compensate and nice friends but it's not the same. Sending you a hug. X

I'm married and I feel lonely. My kids are older now with only one still at home. DH has gone away for the weekend to see friends. He often does this but I am not invited.
He is not interested in sex anymore-he has low T which doesn't respond to treatment.
Unfortunately I've grown to resent him and even when he's home I don't feel close to him anymore. He seems happy with what he has....I'm not and yes Im very lonely. ...

I pretty much always do during the weekend to be honest.

Reinforces the 'not a normal family' feeling, and I hate the fact I feel that way!

It's a really hollow, empty feeling. Always worse at night, weekends, when it's raining!

Thank you for responding. I hope this feeling vanishes for us all and we all move towards a better emotional place.
I just had to get it out as It's rare if I discuss the subject ...sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy wondering how others are managing.
It's so hard when your in a relationship too and sending you all a big hug too.
Whats your right sometimes it feels to me that everyone expects you to be happy on your own and get on with it.
This feeling inside has created an anxiety within too. I feel like I've gone backwards in dealing with the situation.
In an ideal world we would all have the special kind of love that we desire.
I've tried internet dating and it was not successful. I did meet partners from online but they were not honest and kind people.
I wonder what the future holds...I will try and channel positive energy.

OP - perhaps you have gone backwards because you had expectations that your life would be different by now e.g. perhaps have met someone else.
One thing I will say though is, no matter how bad you might feel, its way worse than being in a shit relationship.
We;re all here for support when you feel like this. We all know what its like and can relate to you.

Yes, sugarlost, me too and I'm married! Vag1963, I'm in same boat....older children, less cuddles from them to compensate for zero sex. I'm not a happy 🐰 and weekends seem to magnify it. I've got a stinking cold & am sleeping in separate room tonight but DH has made no enquiry all day about if I needed anything. I had coffee with a friend this morning & felt so lonely all day after that. I keep thinking life shouldn't be like this. Btw, vag1963 great name and mine is that age too !! Big hugs to lonely hearts out there (()).

Oops sorry vsg1963....ha ha, silly me!

Just reading all your posts and sugarlost i feel excatly the same. I posted a couple a months ago about hating weekends and feeling lost and alone. I dont have my son this weekend and i've still spent alot of time on my own as my friends are settled as is my sister. Next weekend thankfully we have plans, but its rare we normally do. My son is young so i feel a bit self conscious taking him places on my own at the weekend. I think people think im ok with it too and i dont think they realise how lonely it is. Some days i feel so down about it. Tried OLD to no luck either. Not many guys want to know now i have a child. And if thats the case then i dont need a man like that as my son comes first.

Sending a big virtual hug, box of tissues and chocolate and to everyone reading this thread who is feeling lonely.

Yes definitely. Music does help though!

Horribly, My DCs are grown up and don't live with me.

I have terrible social anxiety and very few friends. I dread weekends—I can easily spend them without speaking to a soul.

I'm in an LDR with a lovely man which came as a huge surprise after many years alone (most of the few men I know are gay arty types). But am now discovering he has massive issues around commitment and intimacy. On top of that I think he's suffering from depression but doesn't have much insight into his own feelings despite being very astute about other people's. His reaction to stress is to withdraw.

Of course I'm concerned about that for his sake...but it also means I'm even lonelier.

Lonely too.

Obviously on the brink of separating from H though it is all unspoken at the moment which makes it worse.

Am scared of what the future holds and that the dc will want to live with him (they are 11, 13 and 15). Also scared of a horrible divorce as H is a difficult and at times verbally aggressive and bad tempered person.

Happy days .

OP I am sure you will meet someone else. Do as much as possible of what makes you happy and you will find a kindred spirit. In the meantime you will also be feeling better .

Completely, I went to bed at 8pm last night just to forget it all. Here I am at 05.58 wide awake and dreading another day by myself.

#Littlemiss - sending you . I woke early too with a feeling of dread. Kids still asleep so I got up early and have been crying ever since. Thankfully I have them to distract me today but finding it a strain trying to keep them occupied on my own.
This is when having family close would really help.....

Me too and I have been for years. It's becoming like second nature but I don't to spend the rest of my life alone . Hopefully it changes soon for us all . Have a lovely Sunday ladies