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Does anyone feel lonely today?

212 replies

sugarlost · 10/06/2017 19:54

I was listening to some music and a few tears dropped. Sometimes the weekend evenings are the hardest...I had company in the day and I enjoy my own company but we all have our moments I guess...

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foolonthehill · 16/06/2017 11:09

Free.....if you are thinking about the G opera...have you considered doing seasonal work there?? I did it and managed to see several and also some rehearsals....very interesting.

Wishing everyone well. I am a parent of 4 older children and teens. No time on my own at all...but no adult company and friends hard to keep up with as I am just too busy.

Loneliness is often worse in a crowd. I almost never feel lonely when on my own doing something I enjoy (but that might just be due to rarity value) I would like to be "seen" as me, not invisible 48 year old, not mum, not carer, not employee. I fear that takes time .....

Today I will smile at the sun and flowers. Enjoy my children and tomorrow will be another day.

Love to all

FreeNiki · 16/06/2017 12:55

I could do seasonal work at G opera but maybe a bit late and I dobt have a car so i dont know how id get there Sad

I want to see something at the Autumn season and tickets are selling and i have no one to go with.

hellokittymania · 16/06/2017 14:57

The beach sounds nice, I have never actually been to a UK beach. The autism so is Anh in London this weekend, so I will go to that. I have been trying to find a new personal assistant, it is so hard. Most people who have worked as carers haven't worked with young people with special needs and who want to improve themselves. I am going to meet with somebody on Sunday, hopefully things work. She has never worked as a carer but she is around my age and have life experience and a good attitude. I contacted a few primary schools and asked if they could pass on my ad for as I think teachers or teachers assistance may fit what I need, but I haven't had any luck. :(

Lovemusic33 · 16/06/2017 16:32

I have always wanted to go to the autism show, let me know if you see anything new.

I'm in the SW so close to the coast, dd2 has ASD and loves the sea, it seems to relax her but it's hard work for me as I have to watch her closely as she still can't swim (but likes to bodyboard and scare me to death), her sister also has ASD and isn't keen on the beach (loads of sensory issues and a phobia of water) so she will just sit in a beach tent with a book.
Hope you manage to find someone hellokitty, I am trying to get respite during the summer holidays but getting nowhere.

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sugarlost · 16/06/2017 22:16

love I hope you have a nice day at the beach and it's not too much hard work. Good luck with finding respite. I hope I make it to the beach this summer and it's not too crowded..tbh I forgot that was one of my plans...I just like hearing the waves and looking at the sea.
Good luck with your online guy...I just hope to have a good evening and anything else is a bonus...helps if it doesn't work out as expected...mutual attraction etc

foolon must be hard for you too with family and busy life. My friend said the same about being seen for herself.
I smiled at the sun too...nature is beautiful and so is having a loving children for you.

free are there any face book pages or other social media you can look at with people going to those events... would be great if you could meet with people planning to go who may be in a similar situation..
Seasonal work sounds good too but I understand there are practicalities to be considered.

hellok I hope the show is worthwhile and also wish you luck that you find a good PA..positive thoughts for you in your search.
Do you live far from a U.K. Beach?

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Want2beme · 16/06/2017 23:06

Have felt a bit lonely today, probably cos the weekend's here and I'll be on my own. No one to visit as they're all on their hols. I'll be busy working tomorrow, so that'll help.

Hope everyone's not too lonely this weekend.

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sugarlost · 16/06/2017 23:43

I felt a bit tearful going home today and I have plans for the weekend . Friday evenings also get to me. I guess because when I was younger I normally had plans for Friday night...most of my friends are settled down now so it's not the same as their not available most of the time.

I hope the weekend is ok for you Want.Flowers

I can't wait for the week to be over and often I'm disappointed with the weekend...I just can't be pleased lol

Sending a virtual hug to you all

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Want2beme · 17/06/2017 00:21

Same to you Sugar. Hope you're not feeling too sad & you enjoy your weekend.

FreeNiki · 17/06/2017 03:20

I saw a film alone today.Sad Good film tho.

user128057 · 17/06/2017 11:44

I always feel lonely aha

Godsprincess · 17/06/2017 12:31

I am having a break from mowing my lawn it was overgrown and my arms are aching Confused---- . Atleast it will make the day go quicker as I have no other plans on this lovely sunny day

Have a great weekend everyone Flowers

hellokittymania · 17/06/2017 18:00

How was the beach, love? The show was good, but there isn't much on the offer for people over 25 I have been looking into setting up a charity or social enterprise for a long time in the UK, there is definitely a niche for something for people over 25

Got email from possible PA, her salary is much much more than I can pay. I also really need someone who can be flexible. So upset. A lady suggested SNAP today, so I may try there

Lovemusic33 · 17/06/2017 18:06

Beach was ok, dd1 was really grumpy but dd2 had a great time. We are now relaxing at home.

Your right that there's not much on offer for the over 25's. I work with a young man who has mental health issues and ASD traits and there's nothing for him.

Chocolatteandbiscuits · 17/06/2017 18:10

How's everyone's day been in the sunshine??

Me and my LB went to a 1st birthday party this afternoon. He had the best time and it was such a joy to see his face light up and here him laugh. Me on the other hand have never felt so lonely. I knew nobody there apart from my friend. Couldn't really speak as I was supervising my LB. And everyone was pretty much in couples and I was the only single parent :( I drove home crying! When I got home I felt worse as I had no one to tell about my LB having so much fun!
Hope your days were better than mine Flowers

Lovemusic33 · 17/06/2017 18:19

chocolate you can tell us about your LB having fun. I know it's hard when everyone else seems to be coupled up but they were probably looking at you thinking what a fab job you are doing on your own.

The beach was busy today and full of families ( mums, dads and kids ), it doesn't bother me much anymore, I feel like a strong single parent, I made the choice to remove dh from our family to make me and my dc's happy, we have a good time just the 3 of us and I don't care what other people think.

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sugarlost · 17/06/2017 18:40

What film did you see yesterday freeniki? I actually don't mind going cinema by my own...it's just I'd like to talk about it after with someone else who saw it. I think it would also depend on the branch I go too.

Gods that was good exercise for you too. I think I will try and venture out on sunny days If I can...I'll just have to plan where to go that I feel comfortable by myself when no one is available.

Hellok good idea...there must be so many other parents in your position that need support too. A pity about PA but keep trying..positive thoughts for you.

Good beach was ok Love and one DD enjoyed it. Great you feel like a strong single parent too.

Chocolate sorry to hear you drove home crying. Love is right about people looking at you thinking your doing a fab job. Many of my couple friends find it difficult.

My day was nice but coming home I felt sad again but I'm thankful I had a good day and I can communicate with you all.

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Chocolatteandbiscuits · 17/06/2017 18:43

Thanks love seeing him happy does make me happy. This was our first party and he absolutely loved it! Playing in the water, playing with toys. Chasing bubbles. Just wish I managed to get a few pics.

Glad you had fun at the beach. Don't think I've got enough confidence to go there alone yet. Plus my boy is still small and id have no one to look after my stuff while I was chasing after him! Smile

Godsprincess · 17/06/2017 19:33

@chocollateandbiscuits I know that feeling . I went to DS new parents school meeting as he starts reception soon and I was the only one that wasn't with someone :(. It was an awkward feeling . Glad your DS had a good time Smile.

Thank you @sugar the day is over now phew . I will try and take DS out tomorrow to enjoy the sunshine Smile.

wonderingsoul · 17/06/2017 19:52

Can i join?

My parnter just moved to the states, we are going over in the 6 week holidays to see if we like it with the consideration of moving over there with him when ic finished my course next year.

Am feelimg v low right now. My depression has geared up a notce and now missing dp has just made it worse. I dont know if im coming or going. I just hurt.

FreeNiki · 17/06/2017 20:29

sugar I saw The Mummy. It got appalling reviews but I quite liked it. It was daft but enjoyable.

Went to the gym today and not much else.

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sugarlost · 17/06/2017 21:11

Wonder of course you can join Flowers

Sorry to hear your depression has geared up...are you getting any support?
How are you feeling about the possibility of moving? Is that contributing to your low mood?

It helps me knowing I'm not alone and to voice my feelings on this thread as in real life it's rare that I do.

freeniki sometimes the daft ones are the best lol...good you enjoyed it! It's good your going to the gym...when I did exercise it really helped my mood! I think I need to look at doing something...

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Whatsmyname2017 · 18/06/2017 08:43

My weekend has been much better than recent ones. I took kids out yesterday morning then dropped them at their dads. I then drove back to my home town and had a lovely night with a couple of friends. Taking my dad out for lunch today then Heading back home to collect the kids. I still woke up this morning with slight sinking feeling. Sundays are definitely my bad day! I'm already thinking of next weekend as I don't have many plans yet.
I really hope things get easier soon. Ex only moved out 3 weeks ago so very early days for me.

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sugarlost · 18/06/2017 18:36

Great you had a better weekend whats. How was lunch today?

Sundays are my bad day too. Although today was nice..I met friends. It's the evenings that tend to get to me.

I'm psyching myself up to go out and do things apart from shopping by myself when I have free time..I would like to meet new people and build my confidence . I'm always looking in my diary at the empty spaces and trying to make plans as I think this helps me mentally.

Things will get easier...in the early stages of break up it can be hard to adjust but give it time and you will get through it and move to a happier place.

I hope your all having a good day.

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user1490465531 · 18/06/2017 18:53

Sundays are always my worst days for loneliness I dread Sundays every weekend!
Helpful to see its not just me regarding Sundays getting a real phobia of them now!

Godsprincess · 18/06/2017 18:57

Sundays are worst for me too . We go to church in the morning and that's about it . Had a nap in the afternoon and I wouldn't be able to sleep till late great :(