Does anyone feel lonely today?

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I was listening to some music and a few tears dropped. Sometimes the weekend evenings are the hardest...I had company in the day and I enjoy my own company but we all have our moments I guess...

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Haven't responded to some other posters yet I meant..I will later

I'll probably never have a child or partner. So I'm contemplating another 40 years of living this way.

My heart goes out to you all I know how your feeling... I feel very lonely, everyone I know is in a relationship, including all my friends, so I have no one to go out with or go on holiday with. My family took me out last night as I've felt pretty shit, following being ghosted by a man I was seeing for 6 weeks who I felt an immediate connection with and he the same!! Obviously until he decided it was easier to ghost me than tell me straight!!
I realised on the way home last night out of all my family and our grown up kids and nieces I was the only one on my own while everyone walked hand in hand on the way home!!
I have been divorced 10 years and have had 3 long term relationships, I've been single over a year after being told by text that my 18 month relationship was over as ex had found someone new, since then I've been on lots and lots of dates and until recently had given up on finding someone that you have that rare connection with, until I met said BF who ghosted me...
yes I feel totally alone, miserable and hurt.
I hope you all find some kind of comfort during your difficult periods xxxx

user1496682959 the same to you. What a coward he's is to do that to you. There's a lot of it about, sadly. Hope you find comfort from your family. Keep posting here for chats.

Yes, chiming in to be counted today. Most days I'm fine but today I feel lonely and it's a general sense of my life. So many people are friendly to me but they forget to include me and I know this wouldn't hurt me as much if I had my own person iyswim. Been single for so long, nearly a decade, a few flings that always hit the skids, so I'm fine alone obviously but sometimes I cannot believe how hard it is. To meet somebody I mean.

ps, I feel sorry for the married posters because I find, as a now long term single person,that feeling of loneliness comes and goes, I know that when you're still in the bad relationship their presences highlights the loneliness. It's awful.

Me too. Separated for 2 years and going through divorce after 22 years of marriage. Weekends and evenings are tough. Kids are growing up and doing their own things although they are great company when they're around. Still happier on my own now than when I was married but just feel very alone sometimes. I dread the weekends and especially bank holidays as I am sure lots of others in this position do.

Just read the two pages of posts since I posted on the first page, I am so sorry that there are so many people who feel lonely!

I think loneliness is a feeling more than anything. i think it's important to really work on what brings that feeling on and why it's painful.

Personally I actually long for some alone time as I have never lived on my own, I was renting a room or in a flatshare when I was young, and then I met my DH. We have both worked from home for the last 9 years, and my DH has distanced himself from me, which I guess is not surprising. I feel lonely with him, he isn't really interested in talking about anything but himself. I think he is going through a midlife crisis, he seems seven more self-centered that he was.

So I am pondering about the difference between alone time and loneliness. I guess alone time is a choice, loneliness is a feeling that stems from not choosing to be alone.

Have any of you thought of volunteering? As in National Trust or something similar? My auntie visits a refugee family and helps them with the practicalities in their new country, it 's very rewarding for her and they love her. She met them by chance at the bus stop! She lives on her own and has few friends, but she's really good at striking up conversation with complete strangers.

I have not made many friends in the last few years as I work from home. I still have my old friends, but they are in another country, so I only see them once a year. But they don't really see each other, it's only when I visit! Life is just busy, and it can be hard to fit in friends.

Joining as this is about to hit me like a brick. Mother of 2 primary school girls. My partner is moving out this week. Our relationship had failed but I have still cried a river.

Kids go to their dads 2 nights a week and every other weekend. From this week it will be me on my own again. I will go back to never watching the telly and only spending time cleaning and sorting. Hurrah. Really

Is it selfish that I actually feel slightly better that so many people are in the same boat? Actually its nice to hear other people's coping mechanisms.
#Queenofthedrivensnow - I feel for you. My ex only moved out last weekend so I'm still in the very early stages of grief. But I've gotten through my first bad weekend so I cannot imagine feeling worse than I have done today. That has to be a positive.

Its hard when you meet someone and they ghost. It makes you feel worse and feel even lonlier. Its happened alot lately.

Well the day is nearly over and I feel relieved....I wish the week away and now the weekend...I'm positive this will all change soon. Loneliness can feel like a taboo to talk about...I don't want to make others feel uncomfortable and feel my friends in relationships don't know what to say or say I'd like to date again...really..they have no idea.

I saw a programme regarding loneliness a while ago and thought it was good that it was broadcast as it is a serious issue that can affect your mental health but I don't see much attention focussed On loneliness and managing it sadly.

miss volunteering isn't for me but it would help many people.

dog I agree regarding the need to connect and yoshimi yes to the basic need of contact. I too cried after a evening visiting a friend and her family..I just felt left behind and I smiled so much whilst visiting I didn't realise how it affected me negatively until I got home..that was a dark day for me.

Keep swimming complex it's hard out there but we can make it and we're not the only ones who feel this way.

freeniki your post hit me hard as I often felt like that and it can really hurt at times. I hope your ok?

user149 it's painful but better you know now then in 6 months ...bad behaviour and you deserve someone honest and wonderful.

whats glad your feeling a bit better and next weekend is looking brighter for you.

Love sounds like you had a nice day

Queen hope your ok this week...I'll be channeling positive thoughts for us all.

Whats good your looking at a positive after a difficult weekend.

Want you need to see my good intentions evaporate lol...that's part of my problem but I laugh and soldier on and I like talk radio too.

Have a good week all...thanks for being here

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Hope it didnt upset you more op.

Not really ok but I joined a gym so I at least have people to talk to.

When I was single, I tried to keep busy by doing classes and whatever but the worst part was coming home after and the house was empty and the whole 'keeping busy' thing just felt like a total sham.

I'm married now, so life is better. But I still remember those times and how miserable I felt. I'm unemployed at the moment and the days can be long and dull while my husband is at work.

They're not mine (I have a cat) but to anyone experiencing loneliness, I would seriously consider having a dog - obviously as long as you can afford it, can walk it or arrange for it to be walked. I was out with a friend and these two gorgeous girls and the number of people who approached us to "talk dog" was unreal.

Whats - at least we know grief has a kind of half life and eases.
Hugs to everyone this am x

I have dogsand it does help, I have to take them out which gets me out of the house and I don't feel as silly as I do walking alone. I know it doesn't feel like it times but there are a lot of single people out there at the weekends, instead of looking at families enjoying a day out look a bit closer and you will see single people enjoying a walk alone or even enjoying a cup of coffee in a coffee shop.

I have a extra day off work today, I haven't really got much to do and in a way I wish I was working. I'm going to go to the local pool for a swim and then walk the dog, the rest of the day will probably be spent cleaning the house or sorting the garden out. Back to work tomorrow and then the rest of the week will go quickly.

I have a dog. I think he will sort of help. I know I'm going to throw myself into work and manic cleaning g when expfinally goes this week

Try meditation classes, TM classes, Visit Buddhist centre, yoga classes. Books by enlightened teachers. Eckart Tolle, Rupert Spira, Deepak Chopra, Adyashanti, Sadhguru, Mooji.
Anything that will teach you to ignore/lose interest in the mind instead of the mind controlling you.

#Lobsterquadrille2 - gorgeous lady!!

Has anyone ever thought of moving into a flatshare or similar? it's not just for students! I think I would consider that when my DC no longer live at home. It seems ridiculous that so many people are lonely, we could all live together and pass less for housing!

Gransnet is running a similar thread at the moment.

www.gransnet.com/forums/chat/1237652-No-friends?utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Mon%2012%20June%20-%20Gransnet%20Daily%20Newsletter&utm_content=Mon%2012%20June%20-%20Gransnet%20Daily%20Newsletter+CID_bd101d36d9ed1707a3c393c7831b5f00&utm_source=newsletters&utm_term=I%20have%20no%20friends

Hope mumsnet doesn't mind me posting this link.

Living with strangers is hard in itself though. Can be stressful

NoEgo I hear what you're saying and learning the difference between ego and self-esteem helped me about five years ago. Now though I feel that it's that ,my social needs aren't being met.

Or that I'm not receiving back what I give out.... And that is confusing. I know that when it comes to presents we give to give but when it comes to friendships it does hurt to realise that you misread the friendship, that your a more peripheral friendship to your friend than they are to you. It is partly wounded ego of course but when you're sitting at home on your own it's also unmet social needs.

Obviously i know that if I had a partner I would feel the various exclusions less. And I can't just cut and paste any old randomer in. It needs to be the right man or I stay single but as a single person with nobody to lean on, ever, and no freedom (kids) these things do end up being hurtful.