Does anyone feel lonely today?

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I was listening to some music and a few tears dropped. Sometimes the weekend evenings are the hardest...I had company in the day and I enjoy my own company but we all have our moments I guess...

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I would have thought holidaying alone wouldn't be very expensive? If I didn't have the dc's I would probably go away quite a lot as I could just stay in a hostel or hotel and book last minute.

I take my dc's away on my own a couple times a year, we are off to snowdonia soon, my dc's are getting older so are better company on holiday but I still find the evenings a bit hard as they go to bed earlier than me (even when away).

I do on line dating but due to the dc's and the fact they have ASD it's really hard to go on dates, now with summer holidays co I got up it's almost impossible so I shall close my account .

Love music, that's exactly why I love going places by myself. Not only is it cheaper, but I can always find people along the way. I have met some amazing and very interesting people over the years.

I can't wait to be able to do it
I have a hobby that takes me to different places ( locally ) and I often find other people to talk too along the way but then I have days where I feel stupid going out on my own and I can't face it. I had another look on match but there's nothing local to me other than over 50's groups.

Shatner I agree there are decent men out there experiencing the same feelings.
its great you love your job and your busy in the week and make an effort and it's disheartening when things don't always work out as planned but keep trying ...shame about the lack of meet ups in your area..would you to another area nearby? Have you tried online dating?

Sorry to hear about your grandmother and I can understand your feelings. Many of us experience those feelings of just wanting to give up but I guess we don't know what's round the corner and it could be something wonderful and we could also move to a more positive mindset as we do have those good and not so good days as you know. .there are many reasons to keep going.
I try and think I'm lucky compared to others..well that's what we're told to be thankful for what we have but that doesn't always help when your going through a low point.

You sound like a decent man like you say and I was channeling my positive thoughts for all of us on this thread this morning...just doing that made me feel better and smile. Just talking about our feelings and knowing I'm not alone in my situation helps.

What day trips do you have planned? Anyone new or where you have visited before?

Lobster you have done so well to have overcome the challenges you have faced in life. It's inspiring!

Chasing ..last night.
I too feel that a good partner enhances me..I so miss that.

Free niki I want my old life back too where I was happy and content...that was a long time ago.
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Love I would like to try holidays by myself...I think I may actually enjoy it and it would take me out of my comfort zone...just need that confidence! Is there no way you can keep your account?
Hellokityy your selling it to me! Any recommendations regarding destinations?

Noego yes we can support each other towards that positive mindset! I think we may need to get our issues off our chests first...

Aw thanks Lobster and Queen Im in London

Festival is in Lewes. Think Opera!

Op it is shit isnt it? I once had everything I wanted and lost it all.

I'm not sure why people are saying holidays are cheaper solo. I have rarely found that the case. A hotel room is, say, £90 per night. Which I pay on my own, not split with someone else. If you want to hire a holiday cottage, you're paying it all yourself. Even if you look at solo holiday companies, they are almost never cheaper than if you were two people doing the same holiday and splitting the cost.

I'm not sure why either.

The problem I have with city breaks is the single supplements and they give you a shitty small room too.

Wanting to go somewhere long haul, if you don't have the confidence to do it alone then that means paying an adventure tour company alot of money and risk not gelling with the group.

The price given "per person" is always based on two people sharing.

freeniki I hope we can move on from reflecting on a once happier life...I can't help it especially when I'm feeling low or seeing other couples or hearing my friends talking about their plans with their partners and families. It's just not fair? Why can't we all be happy? I just feel like I'll always be missing something if I dont find a loving partner...I feel like a part of me will not be complete and content. I also feel more confident when I'm in a good relationship.

Did you have a good day today and do you think you may go to that concert your interested in?

I don't seem to have a problem with these feelings during the week. Even when the DC are in bed, I enjoy chilling out on my own.
I don't know why its the weekends that really get to me. Maybe its because most people relate it to family time. I don't have work as a distraction.
All the advice about trying volunteering, joining groups etc is great but it shoudn't be that hard should it?
Why should be only feel happiness in a couple? My experience of being in a couple has been more of the opposite!!!

I hope we can move on from reflecting on a once happier life...I can't help it especially when I'm feeling low or seeing other couples or hearing my friends talking about their plans with their partners and families. It's just not fair? Why can't we all be happy? I just feel like I'll always be missing something if I dont find a loving partner...

I feel the same. It's worse as I once had all that I wanted and lost it all. Nice partner etc. Or so I thought....he cheated.

I dont know about the opera unless i have someone to go with as it's expensive to get there and would be miserable alone.

I saw a film the other day that summed up how I felt in a few lines ...will go and look for the quote.

I'm generally ok in the week whats ...it's the summertime that gets me and when the evenings are still bright and the weekends.
No it shouldn't be that hard but I guess the reality is that it is for some of us unfortunately.

I don't think happiness only occurs as part of a couple but I have felt it brought out the best of me as one poster mentioned previously...Even just a hug from a partner...the little things ...I miss it and I'm scared It will be the norm for me, whilst others appear to blossom all around me.
Hearing colleagues talking about the plans etc it's so hard at times.

I've had shit relationships too but I know what it's like to have a good one and When it's good it's a beautiful feeling.

Freeniki It's hard when they cheat...devastating...especially when they sell you a dream that was never going to happen...lucky escape for me but enough damage done before escaping.

Are there anymore concerts coming up closer to home that won't be so expensive? I know you had your mind set on that one.

Was the film good? Was it sad?

As it's opera its actually the only place that is going to stage it this year and maybe for a long time.

The film was a crime drama about a woman who had suffered depression.

In describing her depression, the main character said:

"Imagine everything you've ever wanted shows up one day and calls itself your life. And then, just when you start to believe in it......gone. And suddenly, it gets very hard to imagine a future. That's depression, right?"

Well yeah, that's exactly how I feel and for that to appear in a film means others have undoubtedly felt that way too but even so of little comfort.

My ex cheated, I was totally besotted with him, I thought what we had was good, we went everywhere together (apart from when he was working/cheating or course), did everything together and planned our future together but it was all a lie. I think I will find it hard to trust again and a big part of me is petrified of being in another relationship in case I'm taken for a fool again. I miss the physical contact and sharing weekends with someone, I keep telling myself that 'it's less stressful being single' and some days I do enjoy being single but other days I feel rubbish and lonely.

I have offered to work this weekend as I have no plans so at least the weekend will go a bit quicker.

Sorry, meant to start a new thread. Didn't mean to hijack.

Lovemusic33 I could have written that.

I've now started missing my once emotional abusive ex. I'm probably feeling this way due to being alone and lonely. I've also learnt he's now seeing someone else. I know it was a lucky escape but there were some Good times. I miss the general chit chat in the evenings and small things like you say physical contact. This weekend just gone I had 4 engagement posts come up on social media. Of course I congratulated but inside it made me feel even more sad

chocolate I know how you feel, luckily I don't know what my ex is up too, after I kicked him out he pestered me for a few weeks and I got him arrested for harassment, he's not allowed to come near me or contact me, I blocked him on my phone and social media and he moved away. I still think about him a lot but I don't think I miss him, he was a fake and I hate him but I miss what I though we had . Sometimes it does feel like everyone else is happy and in happy relationships but if you look closer you will see that a lot of people are single or in a bad relationship (things are not always as they seem). When I see people getting engaged or married I just think how stupid they are, I don't think I will ever get married, I don't think I really want too, it's not always what it's cracked up to be.

Its only natural to miss even bad relationships. Sometimes loneliness can trick us into thinking even a crap relationship is better than none. It really isn't though. Just imagine taking back your abusive ex, and how long it would take for him to be abusive again.
I know loads of people in bad relationships and this always makes me feel a bit better being single.

Freeniki that quote is so sad but so true.....

I feel like I'm carrying a big weight on my shoulders and It won't go...I would like to know what the future will bring so I could prepare myself somehow...going through the motions each day can be a challenge. Although I have the power to make some changes in other areas of my life where I'm not happy so that's something to be optimistic about.

chocolate Yes I've had those thoughts about ex partners too...I think it happens to many of us when we feel alone...thinking of the good parts of an abusive relationship at times but we deserve so much more. 4 engagement posts...whilst I'm happy for others...What are the rest of us supposed to do if we don't meet the one...keep ourselves busy like we're told to do...it's hard maintaining this outwards appearance of being single but happy.

Love I've also worked extra hours in the past to keep myself occupied. It's hard coming home to an empty place night after night.

Whats I agree there are loads of bad relationships but there are loads of good ones and we want one of those...why is it so hard?

Me too sugarlost. Single for 3 years now. It's true though - Nothing worse than being with the wrong person and I agree that it is lonelier being with the wrong person than being on your own.

I've only had few relationships so wouldn't expect to be out dating a lot. I usually don't mind my own company but it is becoming increasingly clear to me that I am probably on the relationship scrap heap before the age of 50. I never thought I would end up totally alone and it is hard not to feel sad.

Have been busy doing this and that, nothing exciting. I'm still adjusting to being single and sometimes tend to forget this fact, and when I remember, it can hit very hard. I know many people who aren't happy in their relationships, and because of this, I do find myself wondering if being in a relationship is worth it. It's a good thing I like my own company or I'd be seriously lonely and not just sometimes lonely.

Morning all,

Any plans for the weekend? Not only going out but also books or films, hobbies you may do by yourself too.
Im lucky I will see friends and family in the day but it's the evenings that tend to be quite for me and give me more time to reflect. Although even when I'm with people My mind often thinks about my single status...just can't seem to shake it.

freeniki is Opera your favourite type of music? It's unfortunate the concert would be expensive too and is far away. Yes it's nice to share those experiences with someone.
Depression is common unfortunately and it's good the subject is put out there for people to watch and understand.

Raymond I'm hoping I don't get left behind either...will have to try not to let myself go either...e.g taking care of myself...

Want I'm like you in enjoying my own company so that helps...other friends of mine would not cope at all if they were in my situation.

Have a lovely day to you all

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I'm going to attempt to take the dd's to the beach tomorrow, it always seems a good idea until we get there, have to lug everything across the beach, kids get fed up after an hour or 2 so then lug everything back to the car. Sunday I am working and the dc's are at their dads all day so this weekend should go pretty fast.

I'm chatting to someone online (on line dating site) who seems quite nice so I am hoping to meet up with him in the next week, not getting my hopes up though and trying to tell myself that it's better to be single rather than being with the wrong person (if it doesn't go well).