Does anyone feel lonely today?

[sugarlost]

I was listening to some music and a few tears dropped. Sometimes the weekend evenings are the hardest...I had company in the day and I enjoy my own company but we all have our moments I guess...

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sugerlost lunch was amazing but I ate too much.
Its weird how Sundays are the worst day for everyone. I wonder why that is? I think for me, its the day I tend to have less planned for.
I actually have no problems with the evenings because with 2 rather boistrous kids, I look forward to that downtime. Even when I was still with my ex, he used to disappear to bed early every night, leaving me on my own so am used to that.
Maybe we all need a regular activity on a Sunday. Maybe doing the same thing at the same time every sunday? A swim, a long walk - stretching it out each time to reach a goal?

I'm glad I was working today. All the photos of people playing happy families on Fb was getting a bit too much. Sundays are my worst days too which is why I agreed to work today. I think it's my worst day because the dc's go to their dads, everyone else seems to be busy and I feel as though I'm wasting my life away on my own. I usually do the food shop and the house work to keep me busy.

Great you had a fab lunch whats..nothing wrong in eating too much!

Work the next day does not help my Sunday blues but I expect that's the same for a lot of people. A regular Sunday activity sounds like a good plan...that may help some of us.
In the week after work I'm not too bad...mainly because I'm tired.

Love I feel like I'm wasting my life on my own at times. I also find it hard seeing couples being openly affectionate to each other
I can see why you find Sundays difficult too. It's good you have the option to work a Sunday to take your mind off things and you busy yourself shopping etc.
I removed distant friends and blocked feeds from friends on FB because of those happy family pics.
Sometimes I haven't the strength or mindset to get out on the weekends but this weekend was ok.

Enjoy the rest of your evening all and wishing you a bright week ahead.

Aside from a couple of texts between my dad and I today for obvious reasons (they went away so I couldn't go and see them) I haven't seen or spoken to anyone except the woman on the checkout at the little shop round the corner since 3pm Friday.

I will not see or speak to anyone I know until next Sunday as I'm on holiday for a week but not actually staying away. I'm hoping to have the odd day trip out but apart from people in shops or cafes, I shan't speak to anyone or vice versa.

Lovemusic33 I felt a bit like that too, today. That hasn't happened to me before. But as I'm getting older I feel time slipping away.

I had a busy day doing chores and was quite happy most of the day. Felt a bit by ķ

Today I had a quiet iced coffee and a long walk. I would have beem alone but for 2 friends dropping their problems on me in a very invasive way.

Funny when I was alone and depressed last year they were nowhere to be seen.

Sorry to see so many of us on this thread hugs to all. I am married but still feel isolated. We have just moved and I am struggling to adjust and having medical tests at the same time. My husband finds this difficult to understand and gets frustrated with me despite knowing that I have a condition that makes me tire easily.. I find myself thinking he'd be better off without me, I am very tired at the moment but my mind won't stop.

love I woke up today to that empty feeling inside me again. I feel like I'm going through the motions every day and with no direction. Things like a holiday planned brings no excitement anymore...I hate this feeling but will persevere.

shatner I hope you have a good break and enjoy your trips. I went away with one partner and it was a holiday from hell..my own fault for not trusting my instincts and he was also a liar...If I could turn back time I would have went by myself and had a relaxing stress free time. Makes me remember that sometimes it is better to be single.

freen iced coffee and long walk sounded good but I can't deal with some of my friends and their problems and when it's one sided it's not nice to have no support when you need them...also if they talk down to you too...very unkind which has been my experience with one in particular.

my I hope your condition improves and the tests are fine . It's well known how lonely relationships can be at times...I've been there and it's not nice. I hope things improve with your husband and he is more understanding and supportive so you don't feel like this.

I think I'm having a difficult time and it's also that feeling that I've been left behind in life. Things will be ok...just have to keep going and take responsibility for taking action and making positive change in whatever area of my life that I can.

Hope you all had a good day.

sugarlost you say you've been single a few years. Has this feeling of loneliness gradually gotten worse for you? Its such a shame we feel we might only be happy as part of a couple, maybe that notion is stopping you from being happy.
I know a few people (much older) who divorced after long marriages and have been happy staying on their own ever since. I know everyone is different though.
Personally I'm not sure I can ever see myself with someone else. Not sure I could ever trust that they are not a total dickhead deep down.
What region of the UK are you?

whats it has gradually gotten worse especially as I have gotten older and many of my friends have settled down. I can see that when I meet the majority of my friends who have settled down that they have that look of feeling sorry for you and that thought they are glad they are not single at this age, I rarely discuss being single with them and how if affects me...we generally have happy conversations or they talk about their problems which is fine or a I may mention a work problem.

I know people who have been single forever and are older or my age. I guess you just get on with it and it's true who wants to be with someone awful better to be by yourself.

I'm in London. Lots of people to meet...lots of people who want to have sex...lots of people always looking for someone better...there are some gems out there I'm sure but I can't find one.

Yes I need to get over it and fast!

freen iced coffee and long walk sounded good but I can't deal with some of my friends and their problems and when it's one sided it's not nice to have no support when you need them...also if they talk down to you too...very unkind which has been my experience with one in particular.

Yup one friend dumped all her crap on me Sunday and not heard since from her. Total user.

I think it's good we can recognise who true friends are and who the 'takers' are..I like to distance myself from those or remove them from the scene all together...I feel like I'm in a much better place for it.

I went to the cinema today and saw My Cousin Rachel which was interesting ...I really need to start reading again..
I enjoy escaping into someone else's world...I guess that's why I like going to the cinema too.

I hope everyone had a good day.

This week is dragging but I'm happy about the sunshine!

Sugarlost was My Cousin Rachel good?

I'm in London. Lots of people to meet...lots of people who want to have sex...lots of people always looking for someone better...

In London too and this is totally true. I joined tinder again and the same guys from last summer are still on there. Shagging their way through the populace

Freeniki it was good but I preferred Lady McBeth.

Lol...same guys shagging their way through the populace. It seems the majority of guys just want to shag...It's not good for your confidence when you just expect that question...although one did ask if I was a Sub,Dom or switch? That was his opening line...my friend did meet her lovely boyfriend from there though.

How was your day? Did you enjoy the sunshine? Did you go to the gym?
I'm not feeling that well so off to bed soon...hot weather not helping.
My week has been mostly quiet but it's ok. I think It would help if I had a pet but that's not possible.

Also what do you think of that saying...it's better to have loved and lost then not to have loved at all?

Or maybe no one is shagging them at all hence why they're on there. Let's not give them more credit than they deserve.

Bit of a shit day here didn't do anything really but saw family which was stressful in itself.

As for the saying, some break ups are worse than others. Although I loved and lost, last major break up fucked me up so badly I wish I'd not met him.

I have been busy working all week but now have a 2 days off, I have a date tomorrow but am so nervous that I am trying to get out of it. I have been on many dates but for some reason it doesn't get any easier, I get myself worked up and convince myself that I'm not good enough, this man is very good looking and has a good well payed job (why would he want to date me?).

I also have the weekend off and am already dreading Sunday when the dc's go to their dads.

First ever post on here! Have to say Sugar I can totally relate. I am in the same boat and its totally shit! I can't shake the feeling that life is passing me by and its working out for everyone but not me.

I just had another totally crap experience with a guy i met in RL and was gutted when he ditched me. I don't know how many more times I can keep meeting the wrong one and getting hurt. It really damages your confidence. I've found it really hard to bounce back after this one as got used to spending lots of time with him and now I just feel super lonely and hate spending time alone in my house.

Friends don't really get it either so its just nice to see so many on here who understand.

freeniki ...lets not give them more credit ten they deserve. Lol lol

Stressful family gatherings are a pain...I'm already thinking about Christmas!

I hope today was a better day for you. I had a stressful day today...I'm going to have a drink. I need to learn to let shit go at work ..especially when no one else is bothered. I actually need to let a lot of shit go in my life lol..now that will be a project!

love of course your good enough for your date. Looks and a fab job aren't everything. Sometimes we doubt ourselves because of the pressure society puts on us and our experiences. Remember your amazing! We have to believe in ourselves ;)
I worked myself up for dates in the past but now I tell myself I'm meeting a friend(it helps me mentally to relax) for a nice evening...if we don't click it's fine I just talk, smile and make the most of it and think it's a night/day out with a person I would have never normally met.

I'm thinking about the weekend too...I may pamper myself at home..face mask etc and read some positive thinking books, listen to uplifting music and maybe watch a good movie. I'll have to go out too but that's in the the daytime as usual.

Earth welcome ;).
Sorry to hear about your experience..I like freeniki had an awful experience with my ex and it took me so long to recover from it...It's sad that there are people who have no respect for the feelings of others. My ex was a lying, narcissistic shit...but you live and learn .
I feel sorry for anyone that ends up with him..just glad it wasn't me!

Have you got any hobbies or things planned to keep you busy?
It will get easier with time...the early days can be very hard but better you know what he is like now then another year down the line.

freeniki I wish I never met my ex too..he was all take and lies and he really fucked me up too. I wanted to believe I had found the one and he told me I had but he had a hidden agenda all along. He broke my heart and it wasn't even a long relationship.

for you Earth

So the weekend is beginning to loom and I'm dreading it. I don't have my son this weekend and I have no plans. No friends bother to text to ask if I want to do something. I always have to be the one to text them. Which makes me feel sad as I feel everyone's forgotten me.

I hope you all have good weekends

Chocolatte yes I know what you mean. I always feel as though I'm the one texting friends and suggesting things. But hey, so what? If they are up for doing something then that's great. I've stopped waiting for things to come to me.
I decided to get in touch with a friend I've not seen in over a year and she was happy to catch up this weekend - that wouldn't have happened if I hadn't been the one taking the initiative.
Why don't you text a friend and suggest something? If they don't want to or can't then nothing is lost.

freeniki I wish I never met my ex too..he was all take and lies and he really fucked me up too. I wanted to believe I had found the one and he told me I had but he had a hidden agenda all along. He broke my heart and it wasn't even a long relationship.

Im not sure mine planned to do it. He never gave me any indication he was unhappy with me which was the hardest part. Imagine how I felt when he was cheating. Fucking coward took advantage of a minor disagreement, escalated and ended it for that blaming me for every thing.

Still he had no guts and didnt just end the relationship he waited until he could pin blame on me.

Sugar thanks for the flowers. Sorry to hear you had your heart broken. I don't understand why men have to lie and say all this stuff they think you want to hear but mean none of it and just drop you out of the blue. I got completely suckered in and it's so damaging. You feel like you will never trust or believe someone ever again. Like you say better to know now than further down the line but just wish I'd got it right this time. I keep meeting ones who have been in long term relationships very early on and feel like they have missed out and now think they want commitment again but when it comes down to it they just want to meet loads of different women and have fun.

I have a few hobbies and I'm trying to stay focused on being busy but being with friends at the moment just painfully highlights how different our worlds are. Maybe I'll follow your example and do some pampering and read some books this weekend.

Chocolate definitely try and text a few friends and see if they are around to do something. I know it's nice to be asked first but I'm sure they will be glad to hear from you and if they can't meet up this weekend you could make other future plans.

FreeNiki men are cowards and if they can pin the blame on you to make themselves appear in a good light they will. You deserve so much better and I'm really hoping you find it soon.

Freeniki was similar with my ex, he made out he was so happy with me, treated me like a princess 99% of the time but I think he had brain washed me, we had arguments and I was always made to feel it was my fault. Our relationship was short but very intense. We had a small argument, he stormed out and left his phone behind, I checked the phone to find he had been sleeping with at least one other and planning to sleep with others , it tore me apart and I hit rock bottom (I have promised myself that I won't allow that to happen ever again).

I have a date this morning, I am so nervous, I don't feel I'm good enough, worried he won't like me, I could easily bottle out but I know I have to be braver and go or I will never meet anyone.