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Does anyone feel lonely today?

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sugarlost · 10/06/2017 19:54

I was listening to some music and a few tears dropped. Sometimes the weekend evenings are the hardest...I had company in the day and I enjoy my own company but we all have our moments I guess...

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Lovemusic33 · 01/07/2017 17:28

Hi everyone, just checking in for the weekend.

I have the weekend off, a child free day tomorrow and nothing to do. The man I went on a date with says he wants to see me again but he's busy this weekend and next weekend and then I'm away, I don't know if we will ever get to a 2nd date.

Fell out with a family member today and had to remove/block someone on Facebook (someone I talk to quite a lot but clash with) so kind of feeling like I'm totally alone. Been out this afternoon with dc's and now back home. I think tomorrow I will do some gardening and think about painting the hall way.

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sugarlost · 01/07/2017 18:15

Hi all,

Funny I was also recently saying how I missed my Friday/Saturday youth nights out. I finished work Friday and did not want to go home as it was lively outside . I was lucky my friend was free to meet up so a group of us had a lovely night drinking and eating.

Tonight I meant to go out by myself but as I went out yesterday unexpectedly im staying in although I think I may have stayed in even if I did not go out yesterday.

I hope you make a second date love...positive thinking.
I give up with one or two friends and their behaviour. Hope your feeling brighter soonFlowers

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Godsprincess · 01/07/2017 19:40

Hi everyone, just checking in to say hello.DS is in bed now . I don't know what to do with myself 😐
Feeling a bit Confusedas a friend thought it would be nice to invite us last night to a party she's been planning for weeks Hmm. I am glad I didn't go because people will only treat me the way I let them and I refuse to be treated as an alternative.
Hope everyone have a lovely weekend Flowers

hatetobyc · 01/07/2017 21:38

I feel very much alone tonight. I have a busy job and generally like a bit of 'me' time, especially when DD is finally with dad, but recently it only emphasizes how lonely I am.

It is just the lack of significant other in your life.... the guy I was meeting every now and then, and fell head over heels for, has just dropped 'I still love my ex' bomb on me last week. So I am on my own tonight, bottle of wine... looked at FB only to discover that 3 of my friends went our for dinner without mentioning it to me. Feels s* to be honest, one of them is a close friend, we chatted today for a bit and she did not say a word.

Lovemusic33 · 02/07/2017 08:55

hateto Sorry things didn't go well with the man you were seeing, dating is so hard, I have been dating on and off for 2 years and still keep getting hurt, I am not petrified of falling for someone else or over investing.

I try and keep really busy to keep my mind off the fact I am lonely, all goes well until I'm so exhausted I have to stop and try and rest, then when I'm sat watching TV on my own I just feel worse ( evenings are hard) , my GP gave me a weeks worth of sleeping tablets so I have been knocking myself out by 9pm as I don't want to be sat on my own feeling sorry for myself.

Today I have quite a lot planned, nothing exciting though, stuff that needs doing around the house and in the garden but this should keep me busy until the dc's get home.

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sugarlost · 02/07/2017 20:03

It's nice having a guy even if it's once in a while and you done get too attached.
Regarding friends that leave you out it's not nice...it upset me in the past but now I don't think I'd care too much...if they don't want me there then I wouldn't want to be there...their loss.

I had a good day...the sunshine helped. If the sun wasn't shining I would have stayed in but I was feeling ok this morning so today may not have been so bad alone if I chose to stay in all day. I have ok weeks and then very bad weeks. I appreciate when I have an ok week/day. I do wonder if I'll ever meet someone and settle down or if this is it...it's a scary thought.

I can find evenings hard too...weekends harder.

Hope you all had a good day.

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Want2beme · 05/08/2017 23:43

Am feeling very lonely and stressed today. I remembered this thread, so thought I'd have a little moan. I went clothes shopping today on my own, always on my own. Felt tearful throughout the day, wondering if I'll ever have a "full" life again. I know only I can change things, but it's difficult when you're a reserved person. I'll be going away for a few days next week to visit family, so that's something to look forward to, but I'm not, I'm stressing about leaving the little bubble I live in and the travelling I have to do. I think I need therapy! How's everyone doing?

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sugarlost · 06/08/2017 00:33

Hi Want sorry to hear how your feeling. For youFlowers.
I hope you have a lovely break...funny I don't look forward to holidays abroad anymore ( I've changed and I do feel empty inside at times) but once I'm there I have a nice relaxing break.

I've been ok..I no longer online date which I think has helped my confidence a tiny bit and I've accepted I may be single for some time even long term which I'm ok with at the moment.

I felt tearful on my way to meeting friends this week as I sometimes think of another life where I was settled with a partner but I put the tears down to hormones. On my way home from daytime company the loneliness can kick in but once I'm settled with a TV show or something I'm ok again.

I hope everyone is ok.

I was reading another thread about being put off by relationships by the experience of others and our own...this has impacted me for sure but I think in a positive way. I definitely would prefer to be on my own then settle and it's comforting knowing I'm not alone in that feeling..there are many of us out there.

I'm trying to learn to love myself more and accept myself too.

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Want2beme · 06/08/2017 11:01

Thanks Sugar. Let's hope today's a better day for all of us. You're right to focus on yourself. I'm hoping that it is the hormones and the feelings will soon pass. Have a good day, whatever you get up to.

CoolSideOfThePillow · 06/08/2017 18:42

Shame this thread lost momentum for a while as so much I identify with. And others too it seems. Hope everyone is OK. I told my Mum about this thread today as I know she is lonely too. Be weird for us to be talking on here. But I have spent time with her today so not like I'm ignoring.
Oh and I'm also in the North East too as a PP (2017) said.
Let's reach out to each other.
I've been on the dating thread on and off for 3 years. I actually think this would be more helpful in the long run!
Huge unmumsnetty hugs to all.

LauraAndBaby · 06/08/2017 18:56

Feeling very lonely and emotional tonight

Want2beme · 07/08/2017 10:50

Cool hope you and your DM are good today. Laura, are you any better today? I know how you felt last night, as I was feeling the same on Saturday and I'm only managing to shake off the feeling today. I'll be seeing some friends today, but for me, it's not the same as having a significant other to be with. I'm hoping to start a course in September, so maybe that'll give me a kick up the proverbial to get a life for myself! Wishing everyone a good week ahead.

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