I wouldn't say sandy has told the op off plum. I think it's a frank and honest opinion,
Thanks RedDhalia
This isn't a telling off at all. I just detect a blasé tone in your recent posts OP.
Why would I tell off a complete stranger who hasn't done anything to me?
I think whatever it is that he did is having a major part to play in your behaviour.
My opinion comes from a place of professional experience as well, so I'm glad you don't see it as a telling off.
Perhaps he feels privileged to have a much younger GF and is able to write this incident off as being due to your age.
At least you admit your hypocrisy, as many others wouldn't.
I recall a couple who were reconciling following his infidelity. They were neighbours with the OW and his wife expressed how difficult it was seeing the woman he'd had sex and oral sex with regularly.
She asked how he'd feel living next to a man she cheated with and had given BJs to.
His response, was it would be okay.
An outright lie.
So I commend your honesty. Situations I've experienced where a person felt like that are usually
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where they are extremely confident about their ability to get another man/woman
As I'm.. Their quite a catch
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they think they can do better anyway and their partner is lucky to have them.
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Where they aren't fussed one way or another about the longevity of the relationship.
Give him time to process everything and don't go with the thinking of, from now on STFU about it, because it's done.
Perhaps you would benefit from individual counselling to understand what led you to do this.
It might be a reason you haven't thought of.