Angry husband, what he hiding?

[Carrotpuree]

My DH has been extra special lovely this last few days so was really looking forward to last night, glass of wine after DC went to bed. He said he needed to get some cash out for haircut first thing tomorrow but when I said I already had some in he could take he started making up reasons to still need to go tonight - none sensible. Then I said could he just stay in for one evening without going to the shop or the ATM and he absolutely exploded. He goes out during DCs bath time to run a errand 2/3 nights a week and then often goes out to run a 2nd after their bedtime while I'm cooking. I'm starting to get paranoid and judging by his reaction I think I may be right. DS woke up and so we both had a moment to step back so when DH returned I said sod it walk to the shop & get the cash, not sure how much I have a anyway (lie) and he went into stroppy toy taken off toddler mode. Won't go at all now etc etc WTF? I know him, angry attack is his defensive response. Any suggestions on how to recover the long weekend (he decided to sleep on the sofa) and get to the bottom of this?

Could he be vaping

CarrotPuree.

It does sound like its the fags.

As someone who secretly smoked for a year, please just tell him you won't be cross.

It was awful. I DID manage to give up thanks to my amazing e cigarette but that year of being desparate for a ciggy really impacted me. I would get cross too when I had planned for a sneaky smoke and DH would do something to scupper it.

Leave him alone. He needs to stop HIMSELF.

Definite smoker!
My evening trips were like clockwork and could range from 5 mins to pop to the shop to an hour to have to drop something off for someone. I'd panic and strop if something threatened them.
Oh and you would not know. Seriously I was a ninja.
Coat. Hat. Facewipes. Alcogel. Mouthwash. Toothbrush. Perfume. Dry shampoo. Tangerines rather than mints.

Had my clean up routine down to a minute

Oh for goodness sake, the mints were a bit of a giveaway plus he has form for giving up and then starting again?! Would have helped if we'd known that first instead of adding adultery to the list of likely explanations!

So he's a former smoker who had got over-fond of mints all of a sudden? Might have been useful information to put in your initial post, OP

My ExH did this and the cause was to buy more booze. I had no idea of the true extent of his drinking for some time.

I think you've got your answer! If you give him space and allow him free reign to take his trips out, be very hands off, do you think he'd come to you and tell you?

Maybe in a matter of fact way say, so how long have you been back smoking then?

If he is then he'll be both dreading and wanting it out in the open.

Had the "form" for smoking and chewing mints been in the Op, we could have saved 9 pages of speculation

Second poster nailed it.

OP fgs let the poor man have a fag in the garden or support him using the electrics.

Ten motives are the best ones I found.