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He wants kids

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LovelyUnicorn83 · 15/02/2017 10:40

Hello all. Im 34 and have two kids aged 15 and 8. Neither father is involved.
Ive been with a lovely man for 3 years and its fairly serious. Ive known he may want his own kids but never overly discussed it.
Last week he told me he wants us to get married and have a child fairly soon. Hes 42.
Im in shock i dont want another child and i suppose i knew this may happen but Confused

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SammieSalmon · 19/02/2017 14:18

Been reading this thread. Hope everything turns out ok but it does sound like you're having a baby to keep this man. Would it be over if you didn't give him a child? You don't owe him a baby

Cricrichan · 19/02/2017 18:28

Op, if you decide to go through with having another baby, agree for him to go part time. If he wants a baby that desperately then he should be the one who compromises. It's not fair that you take all the risk, have to go through with Pg and birth and then have to hurt your career.

Many women change jobs or ho part time or give up work to have children but it's not set in stone that they should and in this case it's important.

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