No contact since New Year's Day. Struggling

[onmybroomstick]

Amazing Christmas together in his flat. Bought me watch, handbag, books, pjs, slippers, chocs, perfume, smellies. Spent Xmas night, Boxing Day night, the 28th and New Year's Eve together. Come home New Year's Day, not a peep since. I've had a birthday in this time, didn't even receive a happy birthday message. The day after my birthday I messaged like a crazed idiot telling him how hurt and upset I was, admittedly sent far too many messages but I lost my mind watching him read and ignore all my messages. Eventually I got one reply telling me to leave him alone, so I have. Now I am really missing him, no idea what I've done wrong. He has had form for this and did it the same time last year. I'm so confused and feel so rubbish about myself that he's treating me this way. Why wouldn't I deserve an explanation. We usually talk everyday several times. Think I'm writing here to stop me reaching out to him again, just to be rejected as I'm struggling to switch off tonight, he's taking over my head again. I wish I could just forget him yet with no answers I don't feel like I ever will..

Delete and block his number

Fuck off.
Don't message me again.

Oh I like that, short and to the point.

Or because it's Valentine's Day:

Roses are red
Violets are blue
We're never getting back together
So fuck off you cunt

I wouktd ghost him. See him he likes it.

Can you not block him? So you can't see his messages? Just block him on msg, WhatsApp, and FB and walk away.

You sound strong, OP. Good for you.

Don't respond to him. And get your dad to block him. Cheeky git messaging your dad like that. That would really annoy me.

WTAF??!!
Good on you for being strong.I'm not one for playing games and ignoring but after what he's put you through I'd suggest complete radio silence,a text telling him to go do one will let him know that you're angry.You don't want to inflate his over inflated ego any further.
What was his excuse for going AWOL last year?

Silence love it!!

Op..You need to block his number. Email however he can contact you. He doesn't want you moving on he wants you sat there waiting for him.

Everytime he messages it stirs it all upain.

When you are finally free of him will be when you decide what is right for you not consider how he would feel about it.

Block his number. It's the best message you can send him right now.

Well bloody done for ignoring him!

Block him on everything if you can.

I just wanted to say well done OP, he deserves to be ignored !

He didn't even give me an excuse/reason last year....I don't even think I asked for one, I knew he wouldn't have give me it

Hope you're done and dusted with this abuser Op.
You have your life ahead of you and are worth more than this.

...also, carry on ignoring. That's what he did to you, so that's what you'll do to him now. You've taken the power back and it will kill him. Well done.

I really hate that he does this!

What??!
What were his previous relationships like? Has he form for behaving like this?

I no he has absolutely no contact with any of his exs

You are DishonourING and hurting yourself if you continue to keep this man in your life. You have a self esteem issue not a man issue. I do too but I stay single. I'll never ever let a man into my life again. I can't handle their behaviour.

Bizarre! I'm just intrigued that the same thing happened at the same point last year.I had at first wondered if he had an undiagnosed MH condition,but saying that if he had/has he owes it to himself to seek help.He certainly owed/owes you the right to know that he needed time out to sort himself out rather than leaving you with the hurtful radio silence.
I'm so glad to hear that despite everything that he's put you through that you've held it together,this kind of shitty behaviour would have driven many people to the brink.

Well done OP. You seem to really be coming around to seeing what he's really like. Has he tried any Valentine's Day mischief? Stay strong!

This may sound strange but I think he needs you far more than you need him.

It feeds his ego thinking he only has to snap his fingers. Don't feed him, ignore him.

Well done OP. Just ghost him like he did you, the fucking fuck. Don't be tempted to reply to him (so easy for us to say!) but every time you fear an urge to text him, come on here and you'll get support from us

he has absolutely no contact with any of his exs

Don't be fooled into thinking that makes you special (to him) will you? It just makes you more of a pushover (in his eyes).

Stick to your guns. Remember what a good time you've been having without him.

Think of getting back to being yourself, getting your life back, not constantly checking your phone so you can run to him when he calls.

What a waste of time eh? Don't waste another minute on him.

maybe he is doing the same to another woman. when he ignores you he is with the other woman, when he ignores her he is with you. so that way he is able to mess up with women's head. he is just sick.