No contact since New Year's Day. Struggling

[onmybroomstick]

Amazing Christmas together in his flat. Bought me watch, handbag, books, pjs, slippers, chocs, perfume, smellies. Spent Xmas night, Boxing Day night, the 28th and New Year's Eve together. Come home New Year's Day, not a peep since. I've had a birthday in this time, didn't even receive a happy birthday message. The day after my birthday I messaged like a crazed idiot telling him how hurt and upset I was, admittedly sent far too many messages but I lost my mind watching him read and ignore all my messages. Eventually I got one reply telling me to leave him alone, so I have. Now I am really missing him, no idea what I've done wrong. He has had form for this and did it the same time last year. I'm so confused and feel so rubbish about myself that he's treating me this way. Why wouldn't I deserve an explanation. We usually talk everyday several times. Think I'm writing here to stop me reaching out to him again, just to be rejected as I'm struggling to switch off tonight, he's taking over my head again. I wish I could just forget him yet with no answers I don't feel like I ever will..

Not so strong now. Todays his birthday. I've just had s horrible dream about him which has been full of tears and now I've got a terrible migraine. Why have I dreamt of this man on today of all days

Keep strong, you will get through this nightmare. Think of the dream as aversion therapy. It is in a way , the migraine is all his fault. today will pass. As far as you're concerned it's just another day.

I've got up shattered, feeling crappy but I've powered through been to the gym and now I'm going to work. The days nearly half way through 🙄

Stay strong - and keep away from him.

No one deserves to be treated like he treated you.

I expect many posters on this thread have been in a similar situation or know of someone who has - hence the good advice to stay away and look after yourself and your DC.

Stay strong OP! I can sympathise, I'm NC with my ex too... so hard. Hand holding

He's messaged me today!!!

What did he say?

Are you going to message back? Is this a 'no one is making a fuss of his birthday the way you would' thing?

Ignore him for god sake!

He is taking the piss out of you

So he's pretty predictable. After the Christmas before last it was a couple of months too before he messaged you.

He's going to test you. He's always been able to get you to come running. He may ramp it up but stay strong.

He's spent last couple of days messaging my dad about cars etc and I think once he realised that had no effect on me and I didn't contact him he's realised this is his oat hope. He's basically said he's going somewhere next weekend and it's booked for two people which was meant for him and he doesn't want the second place to go to waste so could I let him know if I wanted to go pref by this weekend so he can make arrangements.

Message back "who's this?" It'll give him the message that you've deleted his number, even though you haven't.

Meant for him and me.

You know the answer. You've done so well. Ignore and keep moving forward xx

How dare he just presume you'll jump when he clicks his fingers

Up to you.

You've had a lot of straight talking on this thread.

At least if you fall for it you know what'll happen after next Christmas.

The gall of the man that he thinks he can just click his fingers and you'll run off for the weekend with him! Please, please, please don't fall for it. If you're having a wobble, read back through this thread again NOW and see how far you've come. Do you really want to go back to feeling as awful as you did when you first posted??

Also, I'm curious, what does your dad make of him? You said they've been messaging about cars. Does your family know how badly he's treated you?

Hi OP. How do you feel about the message and the fact that he wants to see you.

Do you have strong feelings either way?

My God he thinks you have no self respect at all!

How demeaning he thinks he can click his fingers and you go crawling back. Don't let him treat you like you are worthless and pathetic.

What a horrible, horrible man. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
you are worth so much more than that don't allow yourself to be treated like some play thing that can be dropped whenever he feels like it.

Get your power back! Man up, big girl pants and tell him to do one.
Then have a nice evening out you and your mates.

Hang on!
He's WHAT?!?!?
He has basically told you to leave him alone, treated you like dirt and now apparently he's booked a short break that was meant for you and him?!
This guy is absolutely mental! So manipulative and so gutless. I'm sure you're feeling all sorts of confused now but let's be honest, how could you trust him ever again? Please don't go back - don't give him the power back. Tell him to shove the mini break where the sun don't shine!

He doesn't care about you or even like you very much. Who knows what's going on there.

So how I do feel about it? I don't really feel anything to be quite honest. The last time he did this when he got back in touch and I saw his name on my screen my stomach flipped I fet sick, I cried. Today I just saw it thought oh I wasn't expecting to see that, read it carried on what I was doing and posted on here of course. What's he playing at

You've had 6 weeks pretty much to mull it over and think about things. Are you angry? I would be furious. "Oh, I've bought a mini break, let me know if you can make it" pffft!!! What insane person does that? This has to be hands down one of the most manipulative men ever.

This man is insane. Unbelievable.